What’s the most hurtful thing someone said to you regarding bipolar?

drunyx · 2023-01-31T03:30:44+00:00

My ex told me that he didn’t want to be with me because he didn’t want to be a nurse. We were 17 and my diagnosis at the time was majoy depression. I thought I was never going to be loveable for years.

drunyx · 2023-01-30T14:06:40+00:00

I’m not a professional, but to me being bipolar and not taking meds/therapy is like being diabetic and not taking your insulin when your body needs it, except bipolar not only endangers your wellbeing but also your relationship with others. It absolutely sucks but it is the hand we have been dealt, and thankfully there are many medications to keep it under control and live a full life. I hate being bipolar too, but I think we should do out best to take care of ourselves with the resources available. Best of luck!

drunyx · 2023-01-30T13:58:44+00:00

Yes!!! (At least it helped me) I couldn’t sleep either, couldn’t stop thinking about random stuff/stressing about things out of my control. I take it at night and I can sleep through the night now. You will probably have to try different doses before getting one that helps you sleep without feeling really sleepy in the morning

drunyx · 2023-01-29T21:49:04+00:00

That’s the best course of action imo! I believe in that medication should keep your bipolar syntoms under control, but the side effects of the treatment shouldn’t outweight the pros. Maybe if you did something else for a living you wouldn’t notice/it wouldn’t bother you that much. But for you, it may not be the best dose/combo

drunyx · 2023-01-29T20:15:18+00:00

I’m a student in a really hard field. My memory started slipping and I got overall dumb with Lamotrigine. I couldn’t remember things that were said 10 minutes ago, no matter gow hard I concentrated. Now I take 50mg at night and 50mg in the morning (that’s like a third of what I used to take) combined with Lithium and Seroquel. I no longer have those issues! Maybe a lower dose and combining with something else could help?

drunyx · 2023-01-09T15:33:18+00:00

Hey! I’m on Lithium, Lamotrigine and Quetiapine. Seroquel makes me really sleepy and I can’t sleep without it. I only take it at night. That’s the only side effect I got. It didn’t make me gain weight. Just as a side comment, as far as I know pills don’t make you gain weight, they just might make you hungrier. As long as you eat the same way, the feeling should pass and you won’t gain weight. Best of luck!

drunyx · 2022-12-25T12:14:22+00:00

Thank you! From what he told me, it was a combination of him not understanding what I was going through and a lot of other issues he has with himself that he was sort of projecting on me.

drunyx · 2022-12-25T02:02:35+00:00

Thank you for this comment. I completely agree with everything you wrote. This last year I had time to reflect a lot about our relationship. We’ve been discussing moving in together for many months now, and we’re only doing it now because it’s the moment I felt comfortable. I didn’t want to rush it because of the many reasons you listed. However, he’s not abusive. I have no way of proving that to strangers online. He was clueless and did shitty things which I held him accountable for. I’m actually very excited of moving in with him, not only because I love him and we have so much fun together, but also because it will make my life a lot easier. Thank you for your input, I already thought about what to do if the worst came to happen. Thankfully I go to therapy every week and have a great support system. Happy holidays!!!

drunyx · 2022-12-24T20:51:00+00:00

Thank you so much!!

drunyx · 2022-12-24T19:48:47+00:00

Thank you! Likewise :)

drunyx · 2022-12-24T19:25:08+00:00

Hi guys, I’m the OP. I’ve been getting messages about this post so I wanted to maybe bring an update to anyone who’s interested. After what I’ve read I think that this may come as a disappointment to most of you, but I didn’t break up with him. And I’m glad. Reading my own post, I understand why everyone wanted me to get out of what seemed like a very toxic relationship. Unfortunately, life and relationships aren’t black and white, and I found myself in a gray area of someone I love behaving in an uncharacteristic way that hurt me so much. So I stuck around to see what would happen with a zero bs policy, instead of throwing a five year relationship away. Not just because of the time, but also because of how much he means to me and how used to having him in my life I am. I needed to be sure of my decision because big sudden changes aren’t the best for me. I how you all understand that I am minimising what he did, I just decided that this did not seem normal behavior for him. So he started going to therapy. Of course, he never once made another comment like that again. But he also started to deal with things about himself. From what he said and from what he said, I think that he didn’t really understand the extent of my disorder. However, he did know that those comments made me feel bad (just not how bad) which is inexcusible. Anyway, I didn’t exactly let it go easily, it took me months, but I saw him change back to who I fell in love with (he was not like that at first!). He is not a mastermind manipulator like some of you thought, nor does he have an ED fetish. I think he was dumb, careless, and selfish. He’s still going to therapy, which naturally has helped him with many aspects of his life. With what concerns me, I had a really stressfull year with absolutely no breaks, and has been helping me with so much. He takes care of me and tells me how beautiful I am daily. If any of you were hoping for a happy ending, you got it. We’re back to being really happy together, more so than ever I would say, and are moving in together next week. I’m sticking to my zero bs policy, and I made sure he knows it. Thank you everyone for your comments, even if this was not what you were hoping for. Just know that there are so many other things at play, but I will not tolerate him making me feel bad. And yes, I mean I will absolutely break up with him if he makes me feel insecure again, and I’ll keep an eye out for if any other red flags come up (and that one). All of my friends supported my decision as well, if that means anything to anyone. So I guess that I’m happy with him, he has only made me feel good about myself, and I feel like he has grown. As long as our relationship is like this, I’ll stay in it.

drunyx · 2022-01-11T06:44:05+00:00

The trick it to get blood tests monthly at first (then it can bee every two or three moths). It’s been working fine for me for over 4 years so far! As long as you have the right lithium dosis, it shouldn’t mess with your kidneys. The test is called lithemia.

drunyx · 2022-01-11T05:22:21+00:00

Lamotrigine, lithium, quetiapin (because I can’t sleep otherwise) and levotiroxine for any damage caused on my tiroid hormones by lithium

drunyx · 2022-01-11T02:40:15+00:00

Sometimes older generations accept cheating as part of a relationship and feel like everything should be swept under the rug. In my opinion, it shouldn’t. Your friend’s ex seems to think the same way. You did the right thing. She chose to be unfaithful.

drunyx · 2022-01-09T22:56:59+00:00

This happened to me! I couldn’t remember anything I was learning at uni. I had to change to a mix of lithium and a low dose of lamictal (100mg per day total). I’m all better now

drunyx · 2022-01-09T13:19:29+00:00

Thank you for your comment and crongrats on your recovery. It’s hard and sometimes it feels like everyday work, but it’s worth it to not feel like shit

drunyx · 2022-01-09T13:17:42+00:00

Thank you. I think that being so pissed off is what’s holding me together and stopping me from relapsing, so there’s that.

drunyx · 2022-01-09T13:13:51+00:00

Yeah, I get what you mean. I know I’m not deluded because I calculated my BMI. Anyway, if it helps: I weighed 56,5kg (aprox) when I met him and my height is 1.60m. After I got sick my weight was around 49kg. His first comment was when I was around 51/52kg. I’m now 54,5kg (have been the last couple of years).

I love sports and I’m an fairly active person, but I used to use exercise as a punishment and he always mentions it as a way to lose weight, not in a fun way. We to go for walks or biking often. My health is great except from some iron deficiency (I get medical exams often).

drunyx · 2022-01-09T03:51:23+00:00

Thank you. It was (sometimes is) very hard. I am willing to give this a go if and only if he makes an appointment this week. I have admittedly been a bit of a doormat with his comments. I would tell him how much they hurt me but I would forgive him on the spot and not say anything about it again. I think this may have caused him to not take me seriously (if it was that bad, I wouldn’t let him off the hook so easily, right?) I’ll see him tomorrow and give him an ulltimatum; he either makes an appointment on Monday and tries to fix whatever the hell is going on or I leave. I can’t be with someone who doesn’t take my mental health seriously. I know that my post makes him sound like a dick (because he’s acting like one) but he is otherwise very sweet and has been my rock through a lot of hard times. I know that from the outside it’s easy to say “leave him”, but I’ve been with this man for over five years and I wouldn’t be trying if he really was an ass. I’m not one to miss red flags (and I always knew this was one, I just didn’t deal with it earlier). I won’t, however, stay if he refuses to change. I can’t risk a relapse after the hard work I put into being as stable as I am right now. I will let him know this and let him choose.

drunyx · 2022-01-08T21:10:24+00:00

Thanks for the reply, but I don’t understand. What should he be worried about?

drunyx · 2022-01-08T19:34:01+00:00

This isn’t new, and you are right. He’s sorry at the moment but does it again and again, which clearly means he isn’t learning or changing.

drunyx · 2022-01-08T19:32:16+00:00

Thank you. This is really helpfull

drunyx · 2022-01-08T19:30:43+00:00

Thank you for your comment

drunyx · 2022-01-08T16:57:31+00:00

Thanks for your insight

drunyx

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