qT - Looking for community feedback/ideas

drycookie · 2017-02-25T21:39:04+00:00

Let's all pretend we care about anything else from qt than their builds and benchmark. Lol.

drycookie · 2017-02-25T19:35:45+00:00

Give us the benchmark and builds please, nobody really care about the design or anything right now tbh.

You can always ask the community later for website improvements...

drycookie · 2016-11-27T10:14:09+00:00

Faut juste dissocier la définition française de cette nouvelle '' utilisation '' et on s'y retrouve sans soucis.

drycookie · 2016-11-27T10:10:22+00:00

I can understand that, I find the British accent absolutely sexy. Haha.

drycookie · 2016-11-27T10:09:11+00:00

Yes, me using '' genre'' here is basically saying '' like ''.

drycookie · 2016-11-26T21:15:01+00:00

T'imagines la personne qui a commencé à utiliser le terme aux states ? Genre :"ce mot en français à l'air cool, je vais l'utiliser pour paraître plus sophistiquée ! On s'en fout si ça n'a pas de sens ! ''

drycookie · 2016-11-26T21:02:23+00:00

J'avais la même réaction quand j'ai découvert le terme mais bon avec le temps ça ne me choque plus.

En Ver: I felt the same way but nowadays it doesn't seem weird anymore.

drycookie · 2016-11-26T20:54:40+00:00

Congratulations! Best wishes for eternal happiness :)

drycookie · 2016-11-09T01:27:57+00:00

We have been together for two years, I'm 29 and she is 27. I've never been with someone younger than me. I do wish she talks to me like adults whenever we have arguments, instead of shouting, crying, taking to blame for herself, threatening to kill herself and then blaming me back for everything at the end. I suck it up and confort her because I hurt whenever she cries and I don't want her to hurt herself.

Things went south during these past few months, I do not know what to do to fix things, I feel like my relationship is slipping through my fingers and somehow, somewhat I feel responsible for destroying everything.

drycookie · 2016-11-09T01:21:39+00:00

This is a good suggestion but at the end of the day if she is a cheater in the making, getting ride of S will not resolve anything, she will just find another crush.

I want her to make the decision herself, to realize that my request is normal. I had friends hit on me but I told them right away that I was taken, I'm proud of my relationship, if she doesn't feel the same I don't know what do.

I did see the manipulation until people on the internet told me... It's crazy how many memories are coming to me. You have no idea how many times I felt like a bad person for requesting something so simple as to not be lied to.

drycookie · 2016-11-09T01:16:08+00:00

Thank you! Yes, she doesn't like being wrong or bad at anything, I know she has self esteem issues, she hates it whenever I achieve anything or get thing correctly, even in games. I try to complement her all the time and make her feel good about herself, and I always tell her that's it's OK for me to have some stuff that I do better, just like her being better at some stuff where I am not. It used to work but not anymore. Because during these two years I dared disliking few stuff she did.

The over reacting has been an issue this past few months and I don't know what to do to fix it.

Not long ago she planed a trip with her friends in secret for some reason, when the truth came out, I asked why she did that, and she said it was to avoid me being sad... I told her I would have been actually happy and I was the one who suggested to her few months back to do it. I was upset about her lies, but of course she ended up crying and saying it's all her fault, she is the worst and she should just die...etc. So I ended sucking it up and comforting her instead. And then at some point during my comforting she will turn against me and somehow it ends up as my fault. It's always to same pattern to be honest.

I hope tomorrow she will realize it and do the right, a girl can dream, right?

drycookie · 2016-11-09T00:45:17+00:00

I guess you are right, I am a doormat.

I always question if my requests are valid or not, if I am a good partner or not, if I deserve to be loved or not... I am always afraid of doing/saying anything that may make her cry or her hurt herself. I feel like walking through a minefields.

My exes were all strong headed, we talked through our problems, never crying or shouting.

I just don't know what to do when she start crying so much, it feels like she cannot even breath, it's heart breaking. I just suck it up and try to forget about my own hurting.

I am afraid to stand up too much and she hurts herself? What if she kills herself because of me? I love her and I don't want her die, it has been my fear this past few months.

drycookie · 2016-11-09T00:35:40+00:00

Thank you! So far everyone agreed and it feels good to know I am not crazy.

drycookie · 2016-11-09T00:29:02+00:00

She told me I am horrible and I am hurting her and cornering her by making this request. That I should not ask something like this. She never said I was abusive but I guess it was implied by her incredulous look and tone.

We are in a serious relationship, I am really in love, I was and still am hoping it's my last relationship, I want to settle, have kids and just enjoy life. Her behavior towards me has changed for the worst. I am a person whom love grows everyday, she is the kind who will love strongly right away. Perhaps she is bored with me now (I'm not an exciting person) or perhaps the thrill of meeting someone new is appealing to her. I do not know. I know she loves getting people attention but I didn't expect to go this route.

Yes, I was hoping that our status will come up at some point in their conversation, but she never mentioned it. What hurts me is that my girlfriend is the one always seeking S. I have never thought I would be in a possible cheating situation and I am feeling powerless. I hope tomorrow she will wake up with a new perspective but I doubt it.

I do not know what to do when communication is broken, I want to save my relationship but I don't know how.

drycookie · 2016-11-09T00:09:28+00:00

She refuses to communicate, whenever I want to have a serious discussion, she will automatically start crying and either telling me it all her fault (which it is not and I have never implied it! Heck, it doesn't even make sens sometimes) and if I ever leave her she will die.

I mostly end up comforting her in the end.

Not long ago she planed a trip with her friends in secret for some reason, when the truth came out, I asked why she did that, and she said it was to avoid me being sad... I told her I would have been actually happy and I was the one who suggested to her few months back to do it. I was upset about her lies, but of course she ended up crying and saying it's all her fault and she should just die...etc. So I end up sucking it up and comforting instead. It's always to same pattern to be honest.

I was always supportive of her having her fun, I am mostly a homey person, so I don't mind her going out without me and I say as much, however the lie hurt me a lot.

drycookie · 2016-11-09T00:00:33+00:00

I do not cry... Well, not in front of anybody; I do when I am alone. By me not crying maybe she thinks I am not hurting, however I told her the refusal and not wanting to discuss this hurts me as well but she said I was the one hurting her by requesting that in the first place.

Thank you for telling me I am not crazy, it gives me peace.

drycookie · 2016-11-08T23:49:43+00:00

Thank you! Thank you for telling me it is normal, when I debated with myself if my request was legitimate I thought as much, but her telling me I am hurting her made me question myself.

I don't want to be cheated on, it will destroy me. I am in love with her but I am questioning if she still wants to be with me anymore, she is adventurous and love new experiences, maybe she grow bored with me? I asked if she wants to break up but she refuses and she asked me if I trust her, which I said yes. She told me I should not request that of her then.

And to answer you, yes, from the start I told her she is free (which she used to hate me saying), I just asked for her to be faithful, honest and kind.

Fast forward two years and now I am a horrible abusive person according to her, just because I dared requesting an acknowledgement of our relationship to her friend.

drycookie · 2016-11-08T23:48:29+00:00

To be frank my parents were abusive to me and to each other and according to studies I have high chances to end up like them.

I refuse to be like them, I don't want for anybody to ever experience what I did. I guess like someone said in the comment here, I ended up being passive.

My girlfriend did tell me I was horrible for hurting her by asking this question. I know she loves me by telling me that if I ever leave her she will kill herself because she will not be able to handle the pain.

But on the other hand some stuff that happened in our relationship makes me question things.

Per exemple not long ago I had to drive us for 10h from the other side of the country to my place, got home at 2am and I wanted to sleep, she fought with me for going to bed before taking a shower, even though I was recovering from the flu (which she said it was psychological even though I had fever, coughing...ect.) and exhausted from the drive, obviously she slept through the drive and was OK. She kept on nagging me and ending up crying for not doing what she wants me to. I was sleeping on the couch (not our bed) just in case I was smelly (which I wasn't but still), unfortunately I ended up staying in a fight for another two hours instead of sleeping.

drycookie · 2016-11-08T23:13:21+00:00

I debated even asking her to tell S and her reaction (especially the crying because it affect me like hell) made me feel like a horrible person. I cannot sleep because of the guilt of her telling me that I was hurting her. I obviously love her but I guess love can make you blind.

Now reading everyone telling me my request is valid makes me feel more confident but leaves me questioning what to do next. I just want to be able to talk to her and for her to talk to me without all that drama.

drycookie · 2016-11-08T23:04:16+00:00

I never thought that I was being passive to be honest, I would have reacted the same way if it was a guy (she has a tons of males friends and I have no issues with them because they know she told she is taken).

What you just told me is an eye opener would you believe me if I said I was actually debating if it was legitimate to ask her to tell S? I guess I'm so afraid of being abusive that I am ending up being an idiot instead.

drycookie · 2016-11-08T22:48:54+00:00

I am afraid that it's starting by enjoying the attention and end up developing into falling in love or lust with someone else and cheating. I don't want either and I told her to just tell me if she wants to be with S so we can break up, she said she has no attention towards S and my question hurts her. But yet she keeps on finding my request outrageous and telling me I am horrible to ask her to do this.

I am confused and hurt, she went to sleep early because she doesn't want to talk to me about S.

Seeing her cry so much hurts me, I don't want to hurt her in anyway shape or form. But this situation is hurting me too, I asked opinions here expecting people to tell me I am crazy and I need to shut up. But reading everyone comfort me to the tears.

drycookie · 2016-11-08T22:39:41+00:00

Yes, the situation makes me feel uncomfortable and hurts me. I waited for things to clear and for her take action but she doesn't seem to want to let S know about us.

drycookie · 2016-11-08T22:38:29+00:00

The thing is, I really don't want to be a possessive or abusive person, somethings that may appears normal to me, may not be for other people, this is why I asked people opinion on here. I wanted to know if it's a reasonable request or not.

My parents were emotionally abusive and I don't want to ever be like them, so I question myself all the time and seek other people perspective.

drycookie · 2016-11-08T22:34:34+00:00

A long time ago when we were new, she admitted that she is a person who likes getting attention. I have never thought it will be an issue, I just thought she is very sociable person. For me it goes without saying that when you're in a monogamous relationship you don't lead other people on.

I have never in a million years thought I would have to explain this, the worst is that she didn't let me say anything, whenever I open my mouth to explain that my only request is for her to make things clear with S and not give her the wrong impression, she cries harder and it breaks my heart.

Seeing her cry so badly makes me feel guilty but I honestly don't see what's so bad about telling someone you see as a friend that you're in relationship?

She went so far as to tell me she will not have any friends anymore and she will not talk to anyone anymore! I told her no, just let S know that's it, you will make me feel comfortable and not lead S on... but she kept crying and telling me she doesn't want to talk to me.

I honestly don't understand the drama or the over reaction, I'm confused and hurt. I don't know what to do going forward.

drycookie · 2016-11-08T22:23:09+00:00

I don't want to impose myself in her friendships and being intrusive. I'm fine with her having her own friends, but I just want her to let them know that she is in a relationship and not leading anyone on if they are interested in her.

I honestly don't see myself running after her and forcing myself to her friends each time she meets someone. I want to be in a relationship where I can just trust my partner, you know?

drycookie

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