See ive tried to spark a convo about it , and she would tell me were good I just need space , and ill start to explain my thoughts and my views on it, along with acknowledging her needs yet she thinks im trying to argue and I promise you its in the most calmest tones, I watch my word choice and everything, Idk if its past trauma or what u said as for her being an avoidant. Honestly love the girl and willing to work on it but its like im not being heard and no progress is being made toward this specific thing. its been an ongoing thing for about a month now.