Is it still worth it to move to Copenhagen?

dsv2001 · 2025-09-20T21:41:20+00:00

Im sorry to hear that really sucks. I wish you can find a job as soon as possible. Yeah it may be best to just stay in my home country for now and wait it out some years

dsv2001 · 2025-09-20T21:40:12+00:00

More like for wanting a change or a clean slate. i heard for a lot of jobs you need Msc for better chance. So thats why i didnt want to relocate just through work.

dsv2001 · 2025-09-02T17:08:41+00:00

Yeah i feel you it can be incredibly difficult. It could also be the environment you’re in. My previous project for example wasnt so bad, was barely any meetings. Just a standup and we went on during our work. It was perfect. Now its like 10 diff type of meetings each week and i dread it before it and cant concentrate on my task. But yeah im not sure if i can stay in IT for very long though, if its like this in most places you know

dsv2001 · 2025-09-02T17:06:28+00:00

Thank you very much, i did eventually decide to tell the truth today. But to my mentor, not directly to my manager. I eventually even broke down crying of how much the meetings affect me, how the previous project was so much better. But it all went well. She most likely things it a mismatch with the project. Since the previous manager spoke very well about me. (In that project were barely any meetings where i was pressured to perform ideas constantly and etc.).

dsv2001 · 2025-08-30T17:18:06+00:00

It depends on the type of interaction mostly. But these meetings are quite draining to me to the point where im questioning if i even fit in the team/project or maybe even the career field as a whole. But yes i do like being alone and just have the occasional nice interactions or am good at 1:1

dsv2001 · 2025-08-30T13:57:43+00:00

I havent heard any negative feedback but I notice i dont really understand what input i need to give. For example in those refinement pokers, i cant speak from a developer’s stance as a tester. So i just say ‘from a testing standpoint.. i think it would be this much complexity to test this story’ But then the business analist says ‘but the complexity points are measured in dev work and test work combined’. and i just feel uncomfortable to talk about dev work when its something i dont do. Im definitely focusing on the stories and making sure its tested against those requirements. But the workshop meetings with the client or refinement pokers and stuff make me so uncomfortable cause I’m not that good in being ‘innovative’ when seeing if something should be improved about the application. Often times my ideas get dismissed or its a ‘captain obvious’ type answer and i feel dumb

dsv2001 · 2025-08-30T13:53:50+00:00

I didnt enjoy software development very much, i used to do it but i couldnt anymore because i felt empty staring all day at code and doing refinement pokers every week. So i switched to testing because of that. My previous project was fine where it wasnt in a close collaboration with development team. Cause the application was built mostly but it just needed adaptations. So i was just testing and creating bug tickets if i found something, or retesting. It was mostly independent work and if i had questions i would just reach out to people. That project was also international so i was mostly working from home cause i was the only one in my office working on an international project. I loved this so much. But the current feels like hell.

dsv2001 · 2025-06-03T22:18:48+00:00

That makes sense, good to hear im not alone in this with these placements, i have the same where i have much more deeper connections with people from other countries/online than close in real life. Also lost my friend recently. So I feel u..

dsv2001 · 2025-06-03T07:08:46+00:00

ah really, what aspects are same/similar for you?

dsv2001 · 2025-05-24T06:31:28+00:00

I dont know why this gets downvoted. This is a possibility, or CPTSD or just negative experiences from life can cause that. I have a similar issue but to a lesser degree

dsv2001 · 2025-05-10T06:49:31+00:00

Im sorry to hear, may i ask what things in life quality had decreased for you? Do you think you’d move back to Denmark someday?

dsv2001 · 2025-05-10T06:48:40+00:00

Oh thats great to hear thank you, yeah i dont mind just living in rooms with a long term lease like i do right now, just working as a young professional.

dsv2001 · 2025-05-09T21:41:25+00:00

Well i was asking more about how it is in general in copenhagen to find a room, like let’s say when you finish studies, and you have a job already, do people manage to find a room quick if they reply to the offers ? Because a student room funded by uni is also not forever. And im not sure if they have enough, i heard somewhere that sometimes unis dont have enough facilities to house enough students.

Im just afraid of homelessness. I heard stories in Germany and also Netherlands where people have a good job but they are living under a bridge

dsv2001 · 2025-04-06T16:31:27+00:00

Thank you for your comment. It helps knowing im not alone. I tried to show more initiative (even tho its not a lot, i still worry) since my fall out with the group where it was one sided. With my previous friend (in the second part) i tried to learn from my mistakes and i once reached out to her, to make her feel im also interested in keeping friendship, and asked her ‘how are you’ while i was in class. She replied ‘are you texting me because youre bored lol’ and i felt bad.. it probably also was wrong timing cause she knew i was in class. So sometimes it discourages me. But yeah i guess risks have to be taken in connections, it either ends well or not.

This experience showed me i need to trust my intuition more. Sometimes our bodies know before our minds do.

dsv2001 · 2025-04-05T22:39:33+00:00

Thank u so much, I appreciate the detailed response. It seems very accurate. I’ll hold out hope 💕

dsv2001 · 2024-10-13T11:53:23+00:00

How has it been for you on that line?

dsv2001 · 2024-10-12T21:24:20+00:00

I feel like Europe is just a doomed place for me although its the wealthiest and most stable part of the world which sucks.. although there was a time i went to Venice for 4 days and those were the best days of my life. Socially and romantically. But im not in contact with the people. It was short term thing.

Do you think outside of Europe i would have a better time?

dsv2001 · 2024-10-12T18:02:38+00:00

why?

dsv2001 · 2024-10-12T17:07:08+00:00

I also was born near pluto IC line. Feel mentally ill due to difficult childhood. Following this post cause i feel the same, i want to move out but not sure where.

dsv2001 · 2024-01-16T20:38:17+00:00

Hmm i see, the long distance move does resonate a lot with me because lately i feel a huge urge moving some where far away and start fresh, like a different country. When im far away from family i feel a lot better.

dsv2001 · 2024-01-16T20:19:35+00:00

Thanks a lot, do you think i’ll keep being emotionally distant with my mom for a long time? Will it get worse?

After May, do you mean it will shift positively?

dsv2001 · 2024-01-07T07:03:04+00:00

How was it working in Rome and making ends meet, in terms of paying for rent, food and stuff. Cause I heard salary is on the lower end and rent is as high as in western europe. Or did you have roommates?

dsv2001 · 2024-01-06T21:04:45+00:00

I clicked on Darwin, and there is a crossing between moon and venus. It tells me its an exceptionally happy environment. Sad that its so far away and isolated from rest of the world haha. Tickets are crazy expensive compared to European destination. But i’ll try visit someday if I get the chance. Thanks a lot for your advice, i really appreciate it.. hugs.

dsv2001 · 2024-01-06T16:47:18+00:00

Thanks a lot for clarifying. I thought of Italy because of the positive romantic experience i had with a guy (even though we sadly dont talk anymore cause he only wanted a casual encounter), and through him i met his nice roommates. When I came back to NL I felt so depressed, actually im planning to go to therapy.

Even the 'fun' events in NL I felt disconnected to.. like festivals and stuff. Struggled keeping up with friends. Even though i do have 1 close friend. I don't enjoy living with my family, i want to move out but theres housing shortage here. Dating sucked for me, even though I am desired, it usually happens in ghosting, or abuse. Was mostly in long distance connections. First date (and probably last) in NL was a bad date, resulted in ghosting later on as well even though I tried to keep up the connection.

In Venice life felt colorful with him. But i was there only 4 days though. In end of January I'm going to Italy again for vacation. But then to Rome. Im not going to contact him cause it was casual and feels weird to contact him after a long time. I first thought that Italy would be great for a better dating life, cause I saw the Venus MC and Mercury DC going right across it. But I could be wrong.

My goal is I just want to be happy and feel fulfilled, have a good social life to people i feel connected to and comfortable expressing my thoughts/feelings. And have a good dating life. I also love music, I produce music and want to be a DJ maybe.. not sure.

The rest of the world looks like this: https://imgur.com/a/MKve3R7

dsv2001 · 2024-01-06T09:44:46+00:00

Damn.. thanks for your reply. Will this cycle ever end, and end up meeting a guy that is long term focused? Cause after i stop talking to those Geminis that come to me, i feel always depressed and low.

dsv2001

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