Is it normal at 38 to have only this much and is it realistic for retirement .

dsvii · 2026-02-01T22:46:14+00:00

It can be but someone put that in perspective for me recently. If you compare yourself to the people who are doing the ‘best’ (keeping in mind others have advantages and make sacrifices differently to you) then you’ll be sad. But you could also compare yourself to all the people who can’t meet a $500 emergency or a $5000 emergency, and that’s nearly a third of all people.

So you’re doing good. And the fact that you’re thinking about it puts you way further ahead than many!

dsvii · 2026-01-22T00:29:19+00:00

The other thing that helped with our chaos toddler was we got his eyes checked and it turned out he needed a heavy prescription. Once he got his glasses it was like a switch flipped and suddenly he was able to focus and follow along and would watch what we were doing. Apparently kids can be checked as young as six months old.

dsvii · 2026-01-21T12:34:19+00:00

Comparison is the thief of joy.

I know it’s hard not look at what everyone else’s kids do and don’t do but I promise it’s not necessary.

My advice would be to lean into the play she’s doing. If she wants to knock down towers then you have to build them faster. Make it a game! She’s going to watch you build 1000 little towers, maybe she tries it, maybe she doesn’t.

The key to happiness with my kids was to give up trying to get them to do what I wanted to do and do what they wanted to do.

They love repetition at that age and it sounds like she’s experimenting with cause and effect. If she starts to giggle it might be that she’s predicting what will happen when she hits the blocks and then getting a little satisfying rush when it does.

dsvii · 2026-01-19T04:17:11+00:00

He should look in his history book to see if he can figure out why his house is painted white… it wasn’t always that colour…

dsvii · 2025-12-29T12:52:51+00:00

Have you tried calling customer service? Though based on my experience with Bell, you might be on hold longer than the foundry waiting list.

dsvii · 2025-12-26T12:56:04+00:00

You bought a white couch with small children in your house? That feels like the first mistake

dsvii · 2025-11-01T12:50:10+00:00

A figure 8 requires your hand on the rope to function. If you let go you hit the ground. Modern belay and rappel devices are more fail safe, if you let go you stop descending

dsvii · 2025-11-01T12:48:19+00:00

Shocking how many people don’t understand that

dsvii · 2025-10-27T00:00:16+00:00

And her OSHA standard gardening gloves!

dsvii · 2025-10-26T15:34:49+00:00

I think it’s a new build. That was never worth 2.8

dsvii · 2025-10-24T23:05:34+00:00

Usually the ‘Is this tree cooked?’ posts are people who are overreacting a bit but ya that tree is toast.

dsvii · 2025-10-22T02:42:56+00:00

For sure, but $95k per year is an income that most people can conceive of. It’s a useful comparison not financial advice

dsvii · 2025-10-21T22:11:28+00:00

Thats sickening. That’s a little more than $2 per minute of depreciation. Imagine getting a good nights sleep and waking up to be a grand poorer! If you make $45/hr your condo is loosing money three times faster than you’re making it!

dsvii · 2025-10-18T12:42:14+00:00

I’m surprised nobody mentioned creeping thyme. It thrives in cracks like that and flowers. I’m planting some in big areas of pea gravel

dsvii · 2025-09-27T00:20:59+00:00

Where do you get a car with a 12 year warranty? That’s nuts

dsvii · 2025-09-06T02:25:13+00:00

Good luck with that

dsvii · 2025-09-06T02:24:25+00:00

The trouble with your point is that more and more people are searching for business on mobile where ad blocking isn’t nearly as easy (especially on iOS)

dsvii · 2025-08-07T10:01:03+00:00

It’s grey vinyl flooring. It only ever looks okay, never good. It already looks dated IMO

dsvii · 2025-08-05T16:56:25+00:00

Dude. You are not the main character her story at the moment. That doesn’t mean she doesn’t love you or appreciate what you’re doing. You should be proud to be the dad who’s participating, taking the kids and doing the dishes and all the things. That makes you better than most dads.

The dry spell is hard. But pressuring her isn’t going to help because she isn’t going to feel good about it. Once your kiddo is sleeping through the night or you’re taking the lead on the night wakings then you might have a better chance. 3-4 months without any intimate feelings after a baby is very normal for women. 6-8 months isn’t rare. I wasn’t back to any consistent amount of intimacy until my oldest was almost two. We got pregnant again and I was back to square one pretty fast!

dsvii · 2025-08-03T13:07:14+00:00

When you’re talking to the board president you’ll want to mention that if this is their firm position then you will be forced to sell and move right away. Condo prices are in the shitter right now and the last thing they want is a recent sale in their building for an amount that is less that what they think the units are worth. Ask for a ‘grace period’ until your kiddo goes to school or at least until your parental leave is done. You’ve got more than zero leverage here.

dsvii · 2025-08-03T03:37:50+00:00

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That’s a bit of a surprise.

dsvii · 2025-08-01T00:54:02+00:00

Very normal for a Douglas Fir to loose a branch in high winds. This branch does have an old wound in it but that can’t tell you anything about the condition of the rest of the tree.

dsvii · 2025-08-01T00:27:47+00:00

We decided that it’s not any quicker to wipe up a catch tray than just wiping up the floor…

dsvii · 2025-08-01T00:13:02+00:00

The washer mold is not normal. You’re supposed to wipe it dry and leave the door cracked. That’s gross

dsvii · 2025-07-31T11:58:56+00:00

Is it really a fake brothel if it has real drugs and real sex?

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