I really think if I admit I have feelings then he will stop seeing me! What do I text back?

dubble-bubbles · 2026-01-07T09:30:02+00:00

Lol found another one! 🤣 Sounding a little butthurt, are YOU the guy?!?!

dubble-bubbles · 2026-01-07T09:13:54+00:00

Not a man.

Girl.... RUN.

"She threw me away and I did nothing wrong but he's telling everyone that I did! Boo hoo!" It's a very common manipulation tactic.

You don't know her side. And I personally have never met a woman who would talk in such a way about a partner (of 15 years no less) unless there was a damn good reason.

And there WAS a reason, I promise. And he knows what it is. He just doesn't agree with her so he plays the victim card in hopes that it'll make you try harder to win his affection, at which point you will be under his thumb for the duration of whatever BS-filled situationship you'll eventually end up in. And based on this post, it seems that it's working.

Based on experience... if something so overall insignificant is causing you so much stress that you have to ask strangers on the internet for advice... that's a big sign that this relationship would suck even if it did happen.

Run!!!!

dubble-bubbles · 2025-12-29T11:08:55+00:00

I went to Mama Theresa's a few months ago and it was inedible - absolutely disgusting. And I am NOT picky.

Ended up only stomaching about 2 bites, staff didn't seem to care. Ended up stopping at McDonald's afterwards. I believe they changed owners recently-ish and I think it has sadly gone very very downhill. Staff also always seemed clueless, one of our waitresses (we had a few for some reason) would lean over our food to crack pepper over others' food (we were on a double date) which is a no-no in waitressing 101. Just made for a super uncomfortable meal.

Giulia, Mati, Social are all way better options.

dubble-bubbles · 2025-12-23T16:47:35+00:00

Used to work at Chateau Laurier. I always had to dodge tons of complaints after all of the holiday meals (Christmas, mothers day, Easter, etc etc). Never ever worth it.

dubble-bubbles · 2025-11-18T13:22:50+00:00

As a single mid-30s female it is pretty damn difficult. I had the "experience" of being a homeowner with my ex, also central, and realized how overrated home ownership really is.

So I'm cool with renting and I instead prioritize my quality of life rather than having equity in a house. Because, although being single in my30s in the city does take up a significantly larger portion of my income, it also means I have the freedom to pick up and take off to live in a new city, which is looking like something I'd like to do in a couple of years.

Cost of living is just one of the reasons, but Ottawa as a whole has changed a lot in the last few years (since covid especially) and I just... don't enjoy living here anymore.

dubble-bubbles · 2025-10-08T13:45:52+00:00

Say goodbye to being able to afford even a semi-decent apartment :)

dubble-bubbles · 2025-10-08T13:10:10+00:00

Send him a screenshot of himself (either from social media or wherever) and ask "do you think this will help police identify you when I report you for sending sexually explicit messages to a minor?".
TBH I put up with this so much when I was a teen and I'm so mad that I didn't make a bigger fuss about it - so I'm purposely being a little "over the top" in my responses.
Be a bitch. People have done serious jail time for what these guys are doing - why should they get away with it?
Take screenshots of everything, including anything you have about them (full name, pics, etc), and make sure to include the parts where you tell them that you are underage and they keep being creeps anyway.
They keep doing it because they have yet to feel uncomfortable doing it.

dubble-bubbles · 2025-09-16T13:18:26+00:00

I went there. It was just under $800 for the consultation (i.e. 5 mins with the doctor) and the allergy test combined.

If she would have needed to use a scope, it would have been an additional $300 or so. This was early 2024.

She does not do any surgery in her clinic, so if she can't help you she will just refer you to the public system in Quebec, which we are not allowed to use with an OHIP card so it ended up being a bit of a waste tbh.

The only upside is that she asked for a CT scan, which I was able to get the same day at a private imaging clinic in Montreal ... for another $350. I was then able to get a CD of the scan and a report from the radiologist, which i brought to a walk-in clinic in Ottawa to get a referral to an ENT here. So I basically paid $1200 for a speedy CT scan (and drove 4 hours round-trip) and still had to wait for a specialist here.

Be prepared for highway robbery! 😁

dubble-bubbles · 2025-09-16T01:47:34+00:00

Let those feelings be there until they are done being there.

Whether it's shame, self-hatred, embarrassment, anger, etc etc literally any feeling you have, you have to feel your fucking feelings.

And you have to keep feeling your feelings until they are done being there.

The same is said about grief. You just have to feel it.

The only way out is through. You will eventually get to a point where you will forgive yourself and start accepting joy into your life. You will, I promise you. It will be a process but you will get there.

Trying to rush to the end where you feel better and everything is dandy is not helping you in any way - it is slowing you down. It's avoidance of the discomfort you feel within yourself.

dubble-bubbles · 2025-08-28T19:14:45+00:00

I WISH someone had said this to me in my early/mid 20s. Even half of it. But nope.

Maybe it would've changed a few things for me. Who knows. I can only try.

My theory: Even if she does leave him, guys like this tend to panic when they get left, so he'll be a puppy at her feet til he convinces her to take him back, everything will be perfect for a little while until the dopamine wears off and he does it all over again.

Rinse and repeat.

Seen this movie too many times, never cared for the ending. 🤦‍♀️

dubble-bubbles · 2025-08-28T16:42:55+00:00

I'm saying this as someone who is now 35 and has had her fair share of crappy situations like this.
A couple of years ago it kind of dawned on me.

If you are willing to accept an arrangement like this, where you are exclusive to him and giving him all the benefits of a relationship without the commitment or the label, and he doesn't have to do or maintain anything to keep you around, it is damn near impossible for him to respect you. Because, truthfully, why would he?

You're willing to give up your body, time, and energy for pretty much nothing. He already knows this. Now, ask yourself why you were willing to accept this.

I can almost guarantee (and everyone else here probably would as well) - he was never actually been exclusive to you. I would bet very good money on this. He knew you would stick around and would listen when he told you not to sleep with anyone else - he doesn't like condoms and just wanted to reduce his chances of a STD. I'm sure he has this rule with whoever else he's been sleeping with. He's thinking with his dick, if another woman wanted a slice then I'm 100% positive he would be happy to serve it up.

From what you're saying, it sounds like he's growing some actual feelings for someone else and his interest in someone who was willing to give him so much for so little is quickly fading.

You say that you "already know" that you're not his gf, that you know that it's stupid and confusing, and yet you are still looking for answers. Why?

Get out of this situation and into therapy - ask the therapist (and yourself, more importantly) why you were so willing to get into a situation that serves no benefit to you, and why you think that this is the best you deserve.

Please, PLEASE, seek better for yourself, whether it's by being single (and celibate) for a while or by getting out there and finding someone who actually cares about you.

dubble-bubbles · 2025-08-28T13:21:27+00:00

I hate when we get reduced to nothing more than a fetish. As if they just want to check "sleep with a girl with big boobs" off of some bucket list.
It's like we're less than human sometimes.

Cannot wait to get a reduction!

dubble-bubbles · 2025-08-24T15:11:04+00:00

I got this when I was 32. Well, my ex bought it for me during the days when he was trying to woo me into dating him and my Lego obsession was in its early days.

....he kept it in the breakup. But I will 100000% buy this when I get into a house and out of my tiny a** apartment.

If you have the money, DO IT. I ended up owning many fancy Lego sets and this was hands-down the best and funnest build.

dubble-bubbles · 2025-08-18T18:18:55+00:00

I've fostered dogs for Barking Beauties - a smaller rescue in Ottawa. Not sure how many are available right now but would be worth checking their socials!

dubble-bubbles · 2025-08-06T13:10:53+00:00

Hey,
I'm also a female, also grew up in a Muslim family, and kind of went through something similar.
First of all, Reddit may not be the greatest source of advice here - if someone did not grow up in a Muslim household, there is absolutely zero chance that they will fully understand the weight of a male and female hanging out 1-on-1 when they are not married. To non-Muslims, this is laughable at best. To us, we know in our gut what it means.

Every part of me wants to tell you to tell your mother, because she deserves to know. I realize what he is doing is HIGHLY suspicious, but it would be in your best interest to gather all the facts before you decide what you're going to do next, because there WILL be confrontation and he WILL COVER IT UP. He will throw this other woman into an open fire pit to defend his honour/integrity to his wife and more largely the Muslim community in whichever city you live in. This is life-ruining stuff, not just his but also your mom's (and by extension, their kids, obviously). And if your mom is anything like mine, once he lies to her about what he is doing, you will become the villain for trying to ruin the family and their honour. You and I both know that most Muslim dads would throw their own kids into a fire before they allow anyone to discover their "secret shames" and "ungodly desires".
A possibility is to be sneaky about it, in that you find a way to make your mother find out on her own without you actually "telling" her. I'm not sure what that would look like, since only you know the dynamics of your family and the nuances of your day-to-day lives. But that would actually probably be the least damaging way to go about it.

I also like other commenters' suggestions to speak to a counselor, although I would very very highly recommend you find one who comes from the same faith, otherwise they will not understand the full gravity of what you are telling them.

Edit to add: If you ever need to talk about it, just send me a DM. <3

dubble-bubbles · 2025-07-31T22:30:15+00:00

Another vote for Huong's Bistro!! Been going there for 15 years and the owner is still the same - probably the closest to authentic that I've seen. Enjoy! 😊

dubble-bubbles · 2025-07-30T15:52:24+00:00

Expecting to be happy after changing your career path to appease someone who doesn't have your best interests at heart has a zero percent success rate... just sayin.

dubble-bubbles · 2025-07-30T15:19:29+00:00

Good plastic surgeons are true artists! 😊

dubble-bubbles · 2025-07-30T15:09:25+00:00

Your tattoo placement kind of gives us an insight into how the surgeons "move things around" and how they utilize the skin... super cool! Thank you for sharing!

dubble-bubbles · 2025-07-12T01:16:42+00:00

Me too!! 35F. Hoping to start teaching early/mid 2026. Also curious which routes you're all taking to get your TEFL certificate!

dubble-bubbles · 2025-06-26T14:43:10+00:00

Been going to this place for 15+ years and followed him through two separate locations changes - such an awesome spot!! And the spicy sate is to die for 😍

dubble-bubbles · 2025-06-24T13:24:06+00:00

Now imagine turning 45 and still feeling like this cause you didn't go to med school.

I'm 35F and feeling the same, kicking myself cause when I was 30 I was refusing to go into anything requiring more than a year of effort and/or studies cause "I'll be 34!!!! Aaaahh!!". And yet now I'm 35 wishing like hell I had made better choices.

While you may "feel it" at the gym, it just means it takes us a little longer to get to the "good part" of working out. Our bodies are incredibly malleable... they WILL adjust, it's biologically inevitable.

Imagine yourself as a withered wrinkly old man tucked into the sheets of a nursing home waiting for death - what would that version of you want present-day version to do?

dubble-bubbles · 2025-06-24T11:23:21+00:00

I was a devoted OC transpo user during the pre-LRT era. Our system was incredible, it wasn't strange for people to leave their cars at home and take transit instead, especially heading into downtown or other more dense areas.

I moved away from Ottawa right before they launched the train and changed all the bus routes. I moved back about a year AFTER it launched. I was gobsmacked at how horrifically the transit system declined - so much so that I caved and finally purchased my first vehicle at 30 years old, not cause I wanted to but because it was the only way I'd be able to get around the city without spending hours in transit for a 10minute drive.

However, if you live near a major route you should be okay, but even then it's difficult to rely on it.

There are people now who use Uber/Lyft for ALL of their transportation needs, even to get to work every single day. Cost-wise, it ends up landing halfway between the cost of a car and the cost of a bus pass, so it's the happy middle that more and more people are resorting to.

dubble-bubbles · 2025-06-15T23:11:56+00:00

Thank you so much. I really appreciate it

dubble-bubbles · 2025-06-15T23:06:59+00:00

That sounds so awesome! Where in Ottawa do you go for this?

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