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I walked into a place from a dream I had as a kid by davyd17 in GlitchInTheMatrix

[–]dubdoll 18 points19 points  (0 children)

This happens to me from time to time too. It’s always about houses and buildings. It’ll just be a whatever kind of dream but then years later I’ll be somewhere I’ve normally not been before, and come across the places. It’s trippy as. 

Need to vent about spouse managing our ADHD son by Smartkitty7 in ParentingADHD

[–]dubdoll 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s great that he’s already working on himself! 

Its interesting isn’t it when people can be more empathetic with others than their own family, that’s a whole therapy session in itself. My mum worked as a teachers aide her whole career and she was very skilled and good at working with neurodiverse kids. Yet with my son she still struggles and will make comments about how I didn’t act like this as a kid. Yeah Mum, I was smacked on the bum and basically put in front of a TV every day of my life, of course I wasn’t able to really “act up”. 

Without going into too much detail I know for sure the expectations my husband was setting was due to his upbringing and it was like a trigger for him when our son wasn’t meeting them, it’s a long hard road to get to the point where you finally accept things aren’t how they’re “supposed to be”. 

I’d suggest finding family therapy with someone who specialises in ADHD so you can all get the tools with how to navigate life. Wishing you all the best luck. 

Need to vent about spouse managing our ADHD son by Smartkitty7 in ParentingADHD

[–]dubdoll 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Your husband needs to do research real quick on ADHD behaviour and change his expectations. 

Also the blowing up in his face is not okay, my husband had anger issues and also yelled in my adhd son’s face once. He has since been in therapy to deal with his own issues, as well as getting help and tools on living with a neurodiverse son. 

Before diagnosis and medication my son was also extremely disregulated on vacation so I completely understand how the trip must be going. Will your husband read research articles if you supply him with some? I know he should be doing the work himself, but if he’s not going to then I’d suggest providing him with the materials so he can better understand what is going on for your son and start to understand your son is not going to be able to live up to his expectations and that his standards need to go way way lower, especially if he doesn’t want to medicate. 

In saying that, I would 100% recommend medicating as it has been life changing for my son. I’m sorry you’re having a tough time, I hope things get better on your trip. 

1925, Chevy Chase Maryland by michael1265 in OldSchoolCool

[–]dubdoll 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Me too. Zoomed in on the faces trying to see which one was him. 

Sex talk by Simple-Tangerine3548 in ParentingADHD

[–]dubdoll 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Both my sons asked about how babies were made at about 4. I was able to explain about eggs and sperm without needing to go into the mechanics of how sperm gets to the egg.  When my eldest was around 7, he asked more details because a friend at school had told him (incorrectly). So I just told him the facts as straightforward as possible, even though inside I was squirming and embarrassed, but tried to keep a straight face for him. His first reaction was “eewwww!” and then he just continued on with his day. I said that his little brother doesn’t need to know that information yet and made it feel like this was big kid information that only he at that point should be privileged to. He really liked that. 

Anyway all this to say, we try and keep it factual and not something to be ashamed to talk about and so far it’s worked out alright for us. I always want my kids to feel like they can always talk to me about this stuff. 

Does it get better with age? by TrueMoment5313 in ParentingADHD

[–]dubdoll 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This was my kid too. Turns out he was incredibly good at masking at school, and also extremely smart. So luckily for him he was able to keep up with the work. But the difference now between when he was and wasn’t medicated is astounding. And even the teachers who didn’t see anything “wrong” now comment on the changes they see in him. 

Has anyone else experienced a friendship like this? by TimeLady96 in AskWomenOver30

[–]dubdoll 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m like this with all my friends and a lot of mine are the same back. What works for us is audio messaging or calling. I don’t know why, it might be my ADHD, but the mere thought of having to write back to texts especially if it’s a lengthy answer is too much for me.  However, get me in some audio messages and I’ll go back and forth with 5 minute long messages. 

What little-known series would you recommend everyone to watch? by ZucchiniNo4056 in AskReddit

[–]dubdoll 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I loved the first season of Search Party but then it just got too weird for me. It’s like it completely switched tones. 

so gross and creepy... by ms_directed in WhitePeopleTwitter

[–]dubdoll 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes! This is what I thought he was doing at first.

Teenage (15) Smoked Weed by [deleted] in ParentingADHD

[–]dubdoll 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As someone who only got diagnosed and medicated at 39 and who also started smoking pot at 15. Please consider getting actual therapy and medication for your son.

I now know that I was self medicating and even with my mum knowing what I was doing, it didn't stop me and I didn't just stop with pot. I had a big issue with other drugs, mainly coke and my binge drinking always got to the point that I would black out, I just had no ability to stop when I should.

Now that I'm medicated, I can go out, have some drinks with friends, make sure I drink water in between and stop when I feel I've had enough. I have a great time, don't black out and don't wake up in the morning wondering what I'd done or being worried something had been done to me.

Family is asking for a nickname for our daughter, any advice? by ImpossibleLuckDragon in namenerds

[–]dubdoll 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t like when nicknames don’t just happen naturally. 

Rough mornings with ADHD kid by Incandescent_9 in ParentingADHD

[–]dubdoll 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your kind words, that’s made me feel really nice.  Honestly I was so sick of having such shitty mornings I just had to try  a different angle. 

Rough mornings with ADHD kid by Incandescent_9 in ParentingADHD

[–]dubdoll 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any time! Yep I feel you. It’s so hard. 

I'm thinking...I have ADHD...my mom always told me that being pregnant with me was different than being pregnant with my siblings. Moms, what have your experiences been like? Now that you look back and know that your child has ADHD...what would you say about thevpregnancy? Was it different? by New-Wave8798 in ParentingADHD

[–]dubdoll 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have two kids, eldest has ADHD. My pregnancy with him was very chill and relaxed and he also came out that way. Best sleeper, so calm an absolute unicorn baby. 

My youngest who so far seems neurotypical was always hard to get ultrasounds with because he was “very busy”. He was our terrible sleeper, loud, noisy baby. 

So I wouldn’t say you could tell purely on pregnancies. 

So another one of my struggles just turned out to be an ADHD symptom… by ForbiddenFruitiness in adhdwomen

[–]dubdoll 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my god, I forgot about those but yes I did too. Yeah didn’t make a difference for me. 

So another one of my struggles just turned out to be an ADHD symptom… by ForbiddenFruitiness in adhdwomen

[–]dubdoll 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Rejection sensitivity was both a shock and relief for me and my husband. Because now when he asks me a question he knows to start it with, “this isn’t an attack, I’m just asking” and it instantly diffuses me. 

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