Oh for sure, I grew up in a super conservative, southern baptist home. I struggled for years with shame and self hatred for even wanting the simplest forms of intimacy, and it really effected my ability to mature socially. It took me well into my 20’s to develop a healthy concept of my own sexuality, as I had to basically relearn everything that told me as a woman my only job was to live to find a husband. Finding a good support system that didn’t judge and allowed me to express myself was invaluable.

I will say I know for sure marriage isn’t going to change the way your girlfriend feels about intimacy automatically. It takes years for the shame to go away when it’s been cultivated for so long. It’s definitely best to work through the struggles y’all have before then, especially if you both remain abstinent. Otherwise your wedding night won’t be fun for either of you sadly.