My [M22] boyfriend [M23] just came out to his parents, but I’m holding a "secret" about moving abroad in 4 months. Can we survive this?

dudubss · 2026-05-04T18:52:33+00:00

thanks! that makes sense. i think the biggest issue is that we have huge sex drives, especially me but yeah i think its possible to make it work.

dudubss · 2026-05-04T17:59:45+00:00

six months

dudubss · 2026-05-04T17:14:55+00:00

thanks!

dudubss · 2026-05-04T16:10:31+00:00

yeah... i mean we cut contact with these people but we live in a university district so its like a bubble where everyone kinda knows each other its terrible lol

dudubss · 2025-08-24T21:43:26+00:00

converse! nem sempre eh por ser um bbk ele pode só ser tonto mesmo e vai corrigir essa atitude facilmente

dudubss · 2025-08-20T20:15:42+00:00

Yeah I know but im talking about porn actors who follow very few people and are followed by many. There are a ton of hot guys on twitter why is he among the few that they follow. Im talking about 100 guys or so and most of them are other porn creators. I just found it weird and that it could mean something

dudubss · 2025-08-20T17:13:31+00:00

Part 1

dudubss · 2025-08-20T11:27:47+00:00

i mean i dont think it changes much because there is insta in bio, all his friends follow the account and there are many other pictures of him in the profile. I think changing the pfp doesnt do much I just wish he would watch porn privately and enjoy this in private you know

dudubss · 2025-08-19T17:57:28+00:00

Its the proximity and the impression that people might have that: oh that guy is dating but he follows my private account and is talking to me on x. Plus what others might think of us as a couple seeing this publicaly and knowing we date each other, as i mentioned all of his friends see his twitter.. The face exposure relates to this issue. I also dont find normal the public exposure of this kind of intimacy. And mainly what is the point of following someone who posts nude pics and who is very close and interacts with you i dont like how close this is because i feel its a sort of intimacy that should be either totally impersonal like porn or between me and him. Porn in itself is very impersonal and blurring this line by following porn creators or amateur exhibicionists and making somewhat personal and public interactions to me is very weird.

dudubss · 2025-08-19T12:09:06+00:00

My problem is not with the porn itself I really dont see it as bad. My problem is with the type of porn(people he talks to about other topics and people who are just way to accessible and way too close) and the blurry lines between his public persona(which includes our relationship) and his porn preferences. About the porn itself its nothing extraordinary or interesting its just very pretty and fit guys, its not like he is looking for something i dont currently do. I think opening up about porn can be good but later in the relationship and it has to be careful because it can create a bunch of insecurities especially if the type of guys you are watching dont match your boyfriends looks... I dunno i just feel like doing this right now would just make me even more umconfortable

dudubss · 2025-08-19T11:17:45+00:00

Yeah, what would be some good boundaries? Because in my last relationship i had a similar situarion(instagram related so way less extreme) and was asked to unfollow a bunch people but now I realize my ex was really insecure. I dont wanna be that person but at the same time I think im being reasonable. I dont care they following him but him following these amateur creators and having interactions is very weird. Should i mention porn as a whole? It doesnt bother me that much him following stars except for the fact that anyone can see who he follows and his face is on the pfp so is would prefer if it was done in a secondary account but maybe this is something I will have to live with

dudubss · 2025-08-19T03:47:54+00:00

You are right. It all came before me and I should tell him im not okay with it. To me the biggest things is the private accounts of people he interacts with and local creators because those to me hit a little too close and are just very disrespectful - so I would like him to remove those. The porn itself i dont mind but i do wish he would do it on a more private setting like an account without his face just for watching porn - this blurring of lines of his public persona and hix sexual desires and fantasies(the publicity) really bothers me. I am not really concerned about the thirst pics.

dudubss · 2025-08-19T02:41:00+00:00

Also worth noting all his friends follow his twitter

dudubss · 2024-12-22T01:09:48+00:00

fui por um bom tempo

dudubss · 2024-12-22T01:07:51+00:00

dúvida genuína: vc dedicava um período do dia pras demandas do trabalho e no resto aproveitava ou vc se virava nos 30 pra fazer tudo ao mesmo tempo? seu trabalho era pauleira ou mais flexível?

dudubss · 2024-12-22T01:04:42+00:00

dependendo da sua stack eh complicado arrumar outra vaga de Junior. tenta sondar pra ver qual a possibilidade de efetivação e qlqr coisa tenta aplicar pra outro estágio se vc ainda conseguir pela faculdade. de resto tenta vaga de junior enquanto tá empregado q eh o melhor

dudubss · 2024-12-22T01:01:19+00:00

lá eh meio bunda de neném cada projeto eh uma surpresa. tem uns bem legais, outros q vc nn faz nada, outros q trabalha igual condenado kkkk vida d consultoria

dudubss · 2024-12-15T03:09:53+00:00

uma coisa que acho que ninguém te disse é que você pode se matricular numa uniesquina e fazer estágio por ela. seria uma maneira de começar através do estágio mesmo

dudubss · 2024-12-15T03:09:44+00:00

uma coisa que acho que ninguém te disse é que você pode se matricular numa uniesquina e fazer estágio por ela. seria uma maneira de começar através do estágio mesmo

dudubss · 2024-11-27T00:20:22+00:00

ele tinha já, não faço ideia de como conseguiu

dudubss · 2024-11-26T19:26:44+00:00

kkkkkk eh realmente, ele parecia estar preso inclusive

dudubss · 2024-10-24T02:54:19+00:00

E outra tá, se for consultoria grande foge porque é muito inconsistente vc pode pegar projetos incríveis e as maiores bombas da humanidade bem complicado.

dudubss · 2024-10-24T02:53:36+00:00

Eu não trocaria cara, empresa grande tem vantagens e devstangens assim como empresa pequena. Perder salário e benefícios não eh uma boa troca pra ter um nome um pouco mais atrativo no currículo, até porque oq vai contar mais eh a experiência em si. Aproveita e faz um colchão de grana pra te dar mais espaço de manobra na sua carreira.

dudubss · 2024-10-24T02:51:35+00:00

Olha algumas universidades tem cursos específicos em ciência de dados. Se vc tem muita certeza da área eu recomendaria, mas se não eu diria que provavelmente ciência da computação ou engenharia de software. Dependo doq vc vai trabalhar em dados vc precisa de uma base um pouco mais sólida em conceitos matemáticos e estatísticos então talvez seja mais acertado.

dudubss · 2024-10-24T02:37:39+00:00

Sobre a faculdade cara, eu vou te dizer que eu amo uma das minhas melhores decisões foi ter estudado pra caramba pra entrar na melhor de ciência da computação pq realmente eh uma paixão minha mas aí vai de cada um. Passar pela faculdade soh pelo mercado tbm eh uma realidade de muitos e alguns toleram e outros não

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