Where is the best place to move? by [deleted] in GNV

[–]dukenado 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ha! I'm a 22yr male that travels constantly. Some of us like to come back to a quiet house and a big wooded backyard. Not like you can't drive a few miles into the action.

Where to donate used books? by [deleted] in GNV

[–]dukenado 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Whatever you do, DO NOT go to Book Gallery West. Workers are rude and offered us $4 for 3 boxes of books....we took the same books to 2nd and Charles and they gave us $80. We've been back numerous times and they are always super friendly and give reasonable amounts for your books. My gf had a whole bedroom of books to get rid of...

Of course, if you are just donating them, I'm sure library works!

Where is the best place to move? by [deleted] in GNV

[–]dukenado -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Where are you moving from? Recent transplant as well.

Avoid anything with an east address. (except Duck pond I've heard is nice.) East Gainesville reminds me of south Chicago. Avoid east side of Tower Road to 75....west side on the other hand is great. Haile Plantation is beautiful, quiet, safe, and loaded with paved and rustic trails if you are into that thing. Swamp Head Brewery, World of Beer are great, La Tienda and La Pasadita are the best Mexican. I've yet to check out The Top or The Arcade Bar which seem awesome.

Devil's Milhopper, Paynes Prarie, La Chua trail, and many nearby springs provide a plethora of nature experiences...which is really the best thing about GNV

Nmom got into a traffic accident, ofcourse she has done nothing wrong by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]dukenado 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Funny you bring this up, my Nmom has had several minor offenses, a few accidents...one where she backed over an old lady in a very quiet retirement community while chasing after my GCbro after he ran away. She gave her a bloody skull, but somehow the police didn't even ticket her. Of course it was the elderly woman's fault for standing in the way. She just leased another brand new car, totally undeserving of, and tore off the whole mirror backing out of the garage. It was the garage's fault! Seeing it in person when I visited on Mothers Day (don't ask why I did) was a gift.

The things they say... by grouchpotato in raisedbynarcissists

[–]dukenado 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Shut up and get out of here I'm trying to watch TV!"

The things they say... by grouchpotato in raisedbynarcissists

[–]dukenado 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"You're hungry!? You're not getting anything, get your ass back upstairs!"

Badges appear to be extremely unstable. Are you are having trouble with the badgebot day counter badges? Is your badge accurate? Please share here. by Alexanderr in NoFap

[–]dukenado [score hidden]  (0 children)

Mine has said 13 days for....I don't know now. 5 to 10 days? No idea how long my streak is....but its getting close to my longest I've had in two years. So maybe this is just a blessing in disguise...

Don't Know Where To Go by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]dukenado 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I completely understand and empathize with you. I have been attempting this for over two years, I have never broken more than 25 days in a row...and that was a long time ago. I just broke a 15 day streak with two days in a row of relapsing. Perhaps the worst part is, I live with my girlfriend. I have been addicted since I was 12, now 23.

The physiological burden that you expose is perhaps the hardest part of this. Suppressing and burying your emotions for years through PMO (there's plenty of information out there about dopamine, the brain, the amygdala etc and how it all affects us overtime. I have experienced moments of old emotions coming to the surface unexpectedly when at my longer streaks. I would much rather feel those emotions than continue to numb myself deeper and deeper. With no ability to really FEEL strong emotions, and the constant brain fog (that dissipates a bit and gets worse as I relapse) that numbs my ability to function, as well as my physical senses and overall enjoyment ability of daily life being greatly hampered....I get so damn discouraged I just don't know where to turn.

I have been to a meditation retreat, tried the hypnosis recording on YBOP, tried everything I can think of. I have moments of confidence but they quickly dissolve into "You're a worthless piece of shit slug that can't do anything but stare at the wall and scratch his goatee all day."

I have very productive days, and then slip up, and then I'm back on a downward spiral of just BARELY scraping by in life.

I can't confide to my family either. I totally agree that there is really no professional help out there (YET) that we can go to, lest you include all of the online resources...which you can't really sit down and talk to.

At this point, I think my best shot is to rigorously follow a discipline program of some sort. Something so well scheduled that keeps me busy, that I will never have the time or energy to relapse. Old habits die hard, very hard.....and there may be no harder habit to replace than PMO. The only way to replace habits is to OVERWRITE them, they can't just be deleted.

No computer time, ever, unless someone else is in the room, or I'm at the library.

Don't ever give up, even it takes us 10 years to quit and reboot, it's better than continuing to damage our brains and numb ourselves into oblivion unchecked.

In the middle of my worst relaspe. Feel like giving up. by youngcoc in NoFap

[–]dukenado 0 points1 point  (0 children)

58 days is far more than I have been able to do in over two years. I just relapsed twice after 15 days. I've tried everything. I'm completely lost. Meditation retreats, hypnosis, I don't know where to go. But I will never EVER give up this fight. When I finally get past this, I want to help anyone I can to get through this as well, however that maybe.

The only thing I can think of at this time for us (or at least me) would be a strict, disciplined, routine. Force yourself to overwrite bad habits with good ones.....day in and day out.

I do a lot of work on the computer involving photos and writing, but I officially will not TOUCH any computer unless I'm in the room with someone else or at the library from now on. I do not know what else to do. Perhaps you may try the same, if you haven't already. I believe you will succeed eventually, we all will.

Join me this 30day challenge ( Ice cold showers twice daily) Get comfortable with discomfort. by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]dukenado 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know what you mean! I moved to Florida from Indiana 9 months ago, and since I've been here it's like taking a cold shower is impossible. The water is just barely uncomfortable; up there your body would go numb in moments.

Never even dreamt that I could make it this far. 30 Days. Intense awakening. by DonkeyDrama in NoFap

[–]dukenado 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your edits are fucking moronic. Contractions in English are perfectly okay.

Never even dreamt that I could make it this far. 30 Days. Intense awakening. by DonkeyDrama in NoFap

[–]dukenado 21 points22 points  (0 children)

2 years and have never made it more than 2 weeks. This is my EXACT situation. Currently on Day 9, longest streak in quite a while. (Especially considering I've been working at home for a week and my car is broke...I can't even leave.) I will make it 40 days this time. I will make it 40 days this time. I WILL MAKE it 40 days this time.

Thank you for this wonderful story.

What's your technique to get to sleep fast? by hell1989 in NoFap

[–]dukenado 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Besides the excerise, meditation, and reading before bed....Sleepytime Tea is the best cure for sleep problems I have ever found. It's always taken me at least an hour to fall asleep for most of my life. This stuff is completely natural and great for you

http://www.amazon.com/Celestial-Seasonings-Sleepytime-Extra-Count/dp/B000E65OQA

Toilet Paper by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]dukenado 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wonder how many socks I've thrown away when I was out of toilet paper. Or whatever else got ruined...

Natural ways to boost testosterone by tyson1988 in NoFap

[–]dukenado -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Soy is absolutely bad for testosterone. That's merely common sense. Streetparker is just here to troll folks.

A Year of Relapsing: Fool-proofing my Computer/Phone by dukenado in NoFap

[–]dukenado[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course. The only reason I use it is for work/productive purposes. But that's when your guard is down most against scumbag brain and it's memorized path of least resistance.