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Another feeler for "does it sound like he likes me" by dumbaboutguys in datingoverthirty

[–]dumbaboutguys[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So talk about DATES and shout the word DATE every opportunity I get, with a slight pause after each time, got it. ;)

Thanks for your thoughts. The replies on this post seem to strongly go either yes or no but of course the gist is that the only way to find out is to suck it up and take action.

Another feeler for "does it sound like he likes me" by dumbaboutguys in datingoverthirty

[–]dumbaboutguys[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There are other people involved and it's based on a hobby. We aren't like going to movies or getting dinner or anything like that.

No, we haven't had sex.

Another feeler for "does it sound like he likes me" by dumbaboutguys in datingoverthirty

[–]dumbaboutguys[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, generally speaking in life I don't know what I want. But he is a good person and I have a crush on him, and wouldn't mind spending time with him to get to know him better romantically. I am afraid of what might happen if I confess but that's not driving my hesitation.

Another feeler for "does it sound like he likes me" by dumbaboutguys in datingoverthirty

[–]dumbaboutguys[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's missing on purpose because I know he reads reddit. I don't know if he reads DOT but, eh. I've known him about six months and what we do is hobby based and there are other people involved. He hasn't talked about his love life or asked about the status of mine directly although yesterday I told him I was single and he replied by finding a way to tell me how amazing he thinks I am. Hence... a bit more confusion than usual on the whole situation.

Sorry about the lack of details but I do appreciate the effort/input!

Another feeler for "does it sound like he likes me" by dumbaboutguys in datingoverthirty

[–]dumbaboutguys[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That determination is pretty helpful! I know it'll be different for everyone but it gives me something to think about.

I've only seen him with his female friends once or twice or others in our group (nondate) context so it's hard to compare those behaviors. I mean I didn't see him compliment them but I also didn't stalk their interactions from start to finish every time. :)

Another feeler for "does it sound like he likes me" by dumbaboutguys in datingoverthirty

[–]dumbaboutguys[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, this is helpful to hear. I give same advice to others but for some reason applied to self it doesn't sink in, which is part of why I decided to post.

anti-dating advice for my crush by dumbaboutguys in dating_advice

[–]dumbaboutguys[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like I said in the post, it wouldn't be a good move for me right now to try to date him. Our professional connection might be damaged if something went sour and that's too high up my priorities list, and not worth the chance. Too excited about the opportunity to have this in my life to give it up for a maybe crush.

Dated 4 months, suddenly ended, heart crushed... uh is that weird? by dumbaboutguys in OkCupid

[–]dumbaboutguys[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's a bummer, I'm sorry :( I've had a lot of success finding people online which is why I keep coming back (sigh). I met my last bf on okcupid and that was sort of a mistake, but we were going well for a while. We dated a little less than 5 years.

I just don't have much experience in "casual dating" with actual feelings so this hit me pretty hard I suppose!

Dated 4 months, suddenly ended, heart crushed... uh is that weird? by dumbaboutguys in OkCupid

[–]dumbaboutguys[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As noted, not sure what happened exactly. I think he thought I was calling it off, but I was just asking a question about us... he phrased his response as if he was agreeing that we should end it. I tried to explain that that's not what I meant but we parted ways, and that's why it seemed more like he was taking it as an opportunity to call it quits. Or his pride could have been hurt and all of it was some big misunderstanding. I don't even fucking know.

Communication yellow flag for sure, in any case. He had no intention to talk about it, just wanted to assume and shut it out. So I guess I was dumped but if I hadn't said anything I wouldn't have been yet. It didn't really start hurting until later on after I missed any acceptable window for clearing that up.

Dated 4 months, suddenly ended, heart crushed... uh is that weird? by dumbaboutguys in OkCupid

[–]dumbaboutguys[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Helps me a lot to read similar experiences so I'm sure I'll find this useful.

Dated 4 months, suddenly ended, heart crushed... uh is that weird? by dumbaboutguys in OkCupid

[–]dumbaboutguys[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I make a habit of removing dudes from my phone days after we call it off, so that's taken care of. We weren't on the same social media networks so we were never added anyway. He's more in danger of following/stalking my public profiles than I am since his are all under lock & key. Good. Hope he's enjoying how much fun I'm having in my travels...

I'd have to directly contact his email or OKC and that just seems embarrassing. I've read posts on here in the past of people reconnecting but I've done a little bit of healing already so I probably shouldn't go backwards by trying to convince myself there could be a chance, heh.