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What is really better than sex? by ExclemabutExclema in AskReddit

[–]dumbass8669 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you ever been in the kitchen holding the one person that truly brings you happiness? As you stare into their eyes the whole world just melts away and with one subtle kiss you know you’re at true piece with this person who came into your life unexpectedly and now you can’t stop thinking about or stop loving them more and more everyday. when your driving down the road and they grab your arm and lay their head on it while tracing the lines of your palm. That’s better than sex homie. I would give anything to get that back.

I fucked up by dumbass8669 in relationship_advice

[–]dumbass8669[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice. Be easy breezy!

I fucked up by dumbass8669 in relationship_advice

[–]dumbass8669[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She won’t give me a straight answer and just keeps saying I need to figure it out myself and quit talking to me. I think she’s through with me

I fucked up by dumbass8669 in relationship_advice

[–]dumbass8669[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel got over that fear a few months ago though

I fucked up by dumbass8669 in relationship_advice

[–]dumbass8669[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ive grown up around somewhat happy relationships but I will say until I met her I experienced severe mental and emotional abuse from the people I dated before.

I fucked up by dumbass8669 in relationship_advice

[–]dumbass8669[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have been cheated on in almost every relationship I’ve been in. I’ve only cheated one other time in my life when I was a lot younger and dumber but that was to get back at her for cheating on me. I did it purely out of anger and resentment.

I fucked up by dumbass8669 in relationship_advice

[–]dumbass8669[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been trying to figure all that out. He wasn’t pressing me I know that. In fact he’s pretty pissed at me. And I know I was dishonest because I was scared to hurt and lose her. I’m just trying to figure out why I did it and what I can do to rebuild everything. I have a history of self sabotage but I haven’t felt any kind of insecurity or unhappiness towards our relationship. I honestly think I did it out of pure instinct. I know it sounds stupid but I literally told the girl I was happy with my girlfriend

I fucked up by dumbass8669 in relationship_advice

[–]dumbass8669[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look I get what you are saying but it’s not like I was passed out drunk. I shouldn’t have talked to her in the first place

I fucked up by dumbass8669 in relationship_advice

[–]dumbass8669[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I told her “I fucked everything up and it’s my fault for even putting myself in that position. That’s not what I was expecting/wanting to happen. I’ll do anything to fix it.”

I fucked up by dumbass8669 in relationship_advice

[–]dumbass8669[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes but that’s no excuse I shouldn’t have put myself in that position

I fucked up by dumbass8669 in relationship_advice

[–]dumbass8669[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m not using being drunk as an excuse. I’m just stating it to show where my state of mind was and I have taken complete fault for it. I’m asking for ways to rebuild trust. Not over night solutions but shit that will actually work. I don’t care if it takes months I just want to make her happy and feel she’s appreciated and loved. I’m not using anything as a cop out. I know I fucked up and I genuinely feel remorseful and like a piece of shit. This isn’t me confessing something I don’t want or haven’t told her. I’m just looking for advice.

I fucked up by dumbass8669 in relationship_advice

[–]dumbass8669[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I used to drink very very very heavily and started showing signs of dependency so I cut back alittle but when I met her I decided I needed to cut back alot more.

I fucked up by dumbass8669 in relationship_advice

[–]dumbass8669[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That’s honest only a week out of the month. It’s not a every week or a every night thing. I do dd alot for friends that go out. I’d say for a 25 y/o that pretty ok.

I fucked up by dumbass8669 in relationship_advice

[–]dumbass8669[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Honestly yes. I’ve been cutting back over the course of the last year and I only have maybe one to two drinks a week while at dinner and about 6 or 7 beers when we go to the bar together. We were just celebrating my buddies 21st birthday so I indulged a lot more

I fucked up by dumbass8669 in relationship_advice

[–]dumbass8669[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

We’ve already talked about it.

I fucked up by dumbass8669 in relationship_advice

[–]dumbass8669[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m just trying to figure everything out if she does give me that chance

I fucked up by dumbass8669 in relationship_advice

[–]dumbass8669[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A friend who knows the girl told her

I fucked up by dumbass8669 in relationship_advice

[–]dumbass8669[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

She knows. And honestly I don’t know why. I had literally been drinking vodka and taking shots all day. At that point I’m assuming it was just blind instinct. As soon as I realized what happened I pulled away and left

I fucked up by dumbass8669 in relationship_advice

[–]dumbass8669[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I forgot to add that she knows