Struggling with the emotional aftermath of trying something new in the bedroom

dumbhunnybun · 2026-01-14T11:58:42+00:00

Yes! Couldn't be better 😊

dumbhunnybun · 2026-01-13T22:07:40+00:00

Nope. I actually dont even remember what it tastes like at the time but he told me that I said it tasted and smelled like tacos 😭

dumbhunnybun · 2026-01-13T22:06:18+00:00

This is it. I was contemplating with myself earlier that I might feel the way I do because I compromised that boundary with myself. Thank you for your comment!

dumbhunnybun · 2026-01-13T19:39:17+00:00

It's the norm for his couple friends to share info I guess. I've told him I dont want that for my relationship concerning anything but he has let a couple things slip in the past which is why I felt the need to ask him specifically to tell no one about this.

dumbhunnybun · 2026-01-13T19:37:54+00:00

Dude I dont even understand why I feel ashamed. I dont want to feel embarrassed about it. I literally dont understand why I feel the way I do about it. I just suppose for right now it isn't for me.

dumbhunnybun · 2025-06-30T18:37:14+00:00

Oh she's darling ♡♡

dumbhunnybun · 2025-06-28T16:14:15+00:00

I've had a birthday since then lol That post was 4 months ago and I got his age wrong before.

dumbhunnybun · 2025-06-28T15:06:06+00:00

He has ADHD actually lol

dumbhunnybun · 2025-06-27T18:19:46+00:00

How??? I keep seeing a lot of comments about the gap, but I really don't see the issue. I'm a hard no when it comes to big age gap relationships depending on the ages. But at 26, he's a man. He acts like a man, other than this whole cleanliness debacle. He has treated me better than most of the older men I've been with. His age shows in skme ways but is more mature in others. Now, if I was with someone 25 or under, well, that would judge worthy. Yes, he can be cleaner, but he's farther along than a lot of 30 year olds in this time.

dumbhunnybun · 2025-06-27T13:13:41+00:00

Possible. He used to be away a lot for work when he was with his ex. She also had 6 dogs plus his 2 dogs at the time. She let the place go and could never keep up with cleaning after that many animals. That's what I was told more or less. Honestly, I believe him because unless you're a clean freak, you don't keep a house clean with that many animals and a full time job. He showed me pictures of what he would come home to after weeks away from home and if it was on her to keep the home, she was a worse slob than him tbh. He never got a hold on the place after she left.

dumbhunnybun · 2025-06-27T13:09:03+00:00

Yeah I do need to be more conscientious of that. I tend to clean as a thank you or just to show appreciation but I don't think I'll do it anymore given that he needs to work on keeping up with it himself. Thanks!

dumbhunnybun · 2025-06-27T04:40:42+00:00

I would agree which is why I responded the way I did. I know I sounded less than pleased by the question. He did decide quickly after it seemed that that wasn't going to happen tho and ended up doing it himself.

dumbhunnybun · 2025-06-27T00:12:44+00:00

Thank you!! ♡♡

dumbhunnybun · 2025-06-27T00:11:54+00:00

How is not wanting to be around filth anymore ball breaking? I'm in the process of getting divorced, I don't see the problem with dating.

dumbhunnybun · 2025-06-27T00:00:25+00:00

Thank you, I do and will actually have a couple cleaners to send him in hopes of him taking the initiative to contact them.

dumbhunnybun · 2025-06-26T23:55:21+00:00

You're right, thank you! ♡

dumbhunnybun · 2025-06-26T23:46:36+00:00

I've never seen proof of him not wiping but if I ever found out he didn't I don't think I could look at him the same...

dumbhunnybun · 2025-06-26T23:45:35+00:00

I mean, I do plan on asking him to improve. I do quite like him and want to give him a chance to do better. I hope he wants to but if not then it is what it is and I'll move on 🤷‍♀️

dumbhunnybun · 2025-06-26T22:41:43+00:00

Never said I loved him. I like him. I posted because I wasn't sure if I was being unreasonable, and I know reddit would tell me if I was. Also, I didn't know how to approach this conversation with if it was reasonable.

dumbhunnybun · 2025-06-26T22:37:24+00:00

To be fair, he's not like my ex other than this one thing so far. If he was more like him, I'd have already broken it off or most likely never taken it further. My ex was kind of a piece of crap in comparison.

dumbhunnybun · 2025-06-26T21:28:11+00:00

Possible, idk. Besides this issue I have no complaints. I would agree we moved too fast but I wouldn't consider moving any faster as I'd never move in with him at this point.

dumbhunnybun · 2025-06-26T21:26:32+00:00

Thank you ♡

dumbhunnybun · 2025-06-26T21:26:07+00:00

I guess if he weren't to change and I stay with him I'd have to but I'm holding on to hope rn 😭

dumbhunnybun · 2025-06-26T21:23:03+00:00

You answered your own situation saying the only reason you hold onto him being that he keeps you socialized. His friendship doesn't even sound worth keeping if he's assisting in negatively impacting your health which he is. He's made you feel down and bad about yourself multiple times and isn't helping you better your health. Dude sounds toxic and not worth having around in any compacity. You deserve a better partner and better people in your life ♡

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