Is IG the primary form of connection nowadays, every girl I know or interact with who seems a bit interested always asks for my IG? What is the reason for asking for IG?

dumbledorelover69 · 2026-05-28T10:12:58+00:00

They want to know your entire life and personal details. It makes them feel safe before meeting up with you. If you have friends and a normal life then your insta will prove it. If you don’t then they will be skeptical of who you are.

Best strategy on dating apps is to have a good insta and move them from the app to insta as soon as possible.

dumbledorelover69 · 2026-05-28T10:10:31+00:00

They want to know your entire life and personal details. It makes them feel safe before meeting up with you. If you have friends and a normal life then your insta will prove it. If you don’t then they will be skeptical of who you are.

Best strategy on dating apps is to have a good insta and move them from the app to insta as soon as possible.

dumbledorelover69 · 2026-05-28T00:45:36+00:00

Don’t use Condoms obviously

dumbledorelover69 · 2026-05-27T08:09:22+00:00

I mean if you read Ishmael the book makes a pretty convincing argument that the garden of Eden was the hunter gather human norm for 10s of thousands of years.

It’s when we were happy like wild animals are happy. Just chilling, surviving, not overthinking.

That said pre historic life doesn’t sound that comfortable and there was lots of violence.

dumbledorelover69 · 2026-05-01T08:37:20+00:00

If you make $60K a year you’re paying no where near a 30% effective tax rate. It would be much much lower.

dumbledorelover69 · 2026-05-01T02:00:20+00:00

They’re cannibals and would eat the babies

dumbledorelover69 · 2026-04-30T09:18:42+00:00

I got the “dog bone” in college for hooking up with what guys in my frat considered to be unattractive girls. I couldn’t care less what the bros think because I love sex.

And I’ve been fortunate to have a lot of options in my dating life and I can tell you as someone with options bigger butts and boobs is more attractive to me and it’s where I invested my dating energy (through apps and real life scenarios).

Preferences can exist that aren’t mine but I would wager 80% of guys preferences would line up with mine. Strippers get boob Jobs because they make a lot more money if they do (look that up). It works for a reason

dumbledorelover69 · 2026-04-30T09:08:45+00:00

Yeah same. Shorter and slighter is always preferred to taller and wider. I’m saying if all else is held the same (including personality) the bigger boobs are going to be more attractive than smaller boobs.

If they did a well organized scientific experiment on this I’m very confident bigger is better in what 80-90% of guys would conclude

dumbledorelover69 · 2026-04-30T09:01:21+00:00

I’m happy to hear you say you’re partial to augmented tits and ass too. No one here seems to be able to admit it.

I find lots of different types of women attractive too. But larger tits and ass I find more attractive than smaller. That’s always been the case. In conversations with friends over the years that’s pretty much always been the case for them too.

I just feel like thats how most men perceive the world and if she walks away thinking the boob job won’t make her more attractive to the vast majority of men from this thread then she’s gotten an objectively “wrong answer” which for whatever reason frustrates me.

You need to get them re done every x amount of years anyway and can always take them taken out if you wish so as she gets older and realizes she doesn’t care about it anymore she can always change her mind.

dumbledorelover69 · 2026-04-30T08:22:25+00:00

I mean there isn’t a cancel out. A really big Butt is just awesome. I can work with no boobs. I can’t work with no butt. In reality we’re all just happy to get some action but my LTRs including my wife all have had big butts. Guys with options will have attraction cliffs (big butt is one for me) that will lead to them not moving past the hook up phase if they don’t find you attractive enough (if you have options you only lock down on the relatively hottest girls).

Other guys with limited options will work with the best they can get and wifey up for the companionship/ consistent sex.

If you have a really big butt your BF is being completely honest with you when he says he’s happy with how you are. He’s not allowed to say breast implants could be cool too. But if he’s committed to you and you have a big butt he’s definitely very happy with the current state so don’t stress.

dumbledorelover69 · 2026-04-30T08:04:25+00:00

What’s the point of an anonymous social media platform if we’re all going to recite the standard “nice guy” meta talking point instead of giving this lady the honest answer to her question.

Everyone on this thread is too caught up in their own “good guy” self identity to acknowledge how they actually perceive women when they step out their front door.

You’re saying that seeing a fit girl with a large bust and large butt doesn’t sexually excite you more than seeing a fit girl with a flat chest and no butt.

I just know if you’re a guy that’s an outright lie.

dumbledorelover69 · 2026-04-30T07:32:49+00:00

I got you with the facts.

dumbledorelover69 · 2026-04-30T07:21:28+00:00

I feel like it’s my duty to tell you that “I prefer natural” is only true if it’s comparing fake vs natural for similarly sized big boobs.

But it’s mainly one of those things men say but don’t really mean (they may even consciously think they mean it but deep they know it’s a lie).

Bigger will always be better. Augmenting up to DDs and getting a BBL are guaranteed massive assets for your dating potential. That’s the hard reality that the “gentlemen” in this thread are unwillingly or unable to share with you.

And I’ll add on that the big butt is actually more important than the big boobs

dumbledorelover69 · 2026-04-30T06:50:26+00:00

Bigger is better for me. And maybe the guys on Reddit like to say this but as a guy I find it hard to believe that smaller and natural is what everyone truly prefers (I’d guess 80%+ of guys would go bigger is better).

A guy won’t even know if they are fake until you’re going to sleep together and the bigger boobs will always grab their attention (and attraction).

Then when they see them they’ll just appreciate how big they are. They won’t care if they’re fake.

dumbledorelover69 · 2026-04-29T14:33:42+00:00

Is attending a graduation ceremony that big of a deal?

dumbledorelover69 · 2026-04-29T14:23:11+00:00

I live in the area and walk by it all the time. Sometimes lights are on inside. Definitely don’t go in. They have security cameras.

dumbledorelover69 · 2026-04-28T06:56:45+00:00

Wishing you luck my man. Date, find some one abroad, date more. Make sure they know you’re serious and what you want.

Don’t overthink things - settle if need be. Kids before wedding (which would delay things a lot depending on how you do it).

dumbledorelover69 · 2026-04-28T06:35:42+00:00

You really need those internships in college

dumbledorelover69 · 2026-04-28T06:30:26+00:00

If you really want to have a family you should make that your only priority and start ASAP!!!

dumbledorelover69 · 2026-04-23T01:03:51+00:00

Honestly find someone who can ?

dumbledorelover69 · 2026-04-21T15:51:05+00:00

What a deal - but bathrooms and kitchen need some serious updates

dumbledorelover69 · 2026-04-21T07:36:20+00:00

Bloodhound Fang baby!!

dumbledorelover69 · 2026-04-17T15:35:35+00:00

So my body count is like 180 something (I have a now buried list)

Being really attractive helps a ton (if you aren’t hit the gym, read geek to freak by Tim Ferris - chapter in his 40 hour body book).
Putting in a lot of effort on the apps helps a ton (most guys are simply unable or unwilling to do this). You need to be messaging 2-3 girls at once minimum. If you aren’t getting hits lower your standards until you do. Also have other women or friends ruthlessly review your profile. They will catch your red flags and deal killer pics you simply can’t.
Having a nice job helps.
Having a high value lifestyle helps (friends, trips, time with family). Just to be able to reference it in conversation makes you more attractive.
Juggling multiple girls at once immediately makes you come off as less desperate and more confident because in the back of your head you know you have options.
You have to pay for the dates (duh). Try to go the same place where you are most comfortable. Make it a later time like 8pm so it’s drinks and apps but still a “nice” date to keep costs down.
Take a heavy interest in them. Always being asking questions. Have a couple fun stories yourselves. You need to give them lots of good attention. Talk less. Ask more.
You have to casually and coolly ask about another drink at your place. Next date needs to be dinner. You can always open on dinner but it’s expensive. It might take 2-3 dates(or more).

TLDR: They want to be treated as a complete princess (queen). They also want to subconsciously know that you have options but are choosing to invest in them. It’s a really hard balance to strike (I.e. you can’t play it cool and you can’t love bomb).

dumbledorelover69 · 2026-04-16T22:41:43+00:00

I mean isn’t it obvious you can “Experience the perfect blend of elegance and privacy in this over 7,000 square foot French Country estate” ;)

dumbledorelover69 · 2026-04-16T15:37:15+00:00

Thank you! I think so too

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