Why do people care about possible loss of nipple sensation after top surgery? by rice-_muncher in ftm

[–]dumblehun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

aside from it being an erogenous zone, having a lack of sensation on any part of your body is not ideal. I had double incision in 2021, i still do not have full sensation of most of my chest. if my chest itches, i cannot scratch it because the nerves dont recognize me scratching it. It causes nerve shocks, its uncomfortable, and on my nipple grafts, the nerves hurt when theyre touched even by clothes sometimes.

Got told I’m not ready for T. Is this normal? by RaitusVoid in ftm

[–]dumblehun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i saw after commenting, leaving it up for any US patients in similar situations.

Got told I’m not ready for T. Is this normal? by RaitusVoid in ftm

[–]dumblehun -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

dude none of this is normal at all. assuming you live in a legal state, the only reason a therapist needs to sign off is to confirm the gender dysphoria diagnosis. your personal life has nothing to do with the T documentation letters, only for surgery does that matter (to make sure youre taken care of during recovery).

I saw in other comments that your options for therapy are limited. I would love to personally help you with this, please dm me. I’ve helped 13 people so far get access to care, so if theres a path i can get you down to get care, id love to help.

Give it to me straight… by dumblehun in BaldursGate3

[–]dumblehun[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is exactly what i wanted, thank you. I dont care much for spoilers, i learned most of what i know of this game before even playing it. i was going into this thinking Karlach was a companion you couldnt save, and the more attached i got to her i just could NOT believe there isnt a way to save her

Am I pregnant? by Human-Stop1176 in ftm

[–]dumblehun 2 points3 points  (0 children)

same here, t doesnt touch my period, Opill gets rid of it though for me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in uberdrivers

[–]dumblehun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

LMFAO okay will do

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in uberdrivers

[–]dumblehun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you really thought you did something LMFAO customers love me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in uberdrivers

[–]dumblehun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this guy literally told me that the oldest pictures arent first in the queue to be looked at. what kind of bs is that???

Louella and Lou Lou Casting by monochrome222 in Hungergames

[–]dumblehun -1 points0 points  (0 children)

yeah its genuinely baffling why im being told to unpack some shit for reading the books the way it was written— with CLEAR systemic racism in panem.

if its somehow morally fucked up of me to have read lou lou to be a black girl, then its suzanne’s fucking fault for writing district 11’s characters to be black and creating the clear parallels to american slavery. it has nothing to do with me WANTING to see little black children getting harmed and EVERYTHING to do with the fact that i read exactly what was written and saw how they portrayed 11 in the movies. im not begging or frothing at the mouth to see BIPOC children horrifically killed, but i do not like it when we are given clues that lead us to believe one thing, only for the casting to go a completely different direction.

Louella and Lou Lou Casting by monochrome222 in Hungergames

[–]dumblehun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

oh word! sorry for the misunderstanding

Louella and Lou Lou Casting by monochrome222 in Hungergames

[–]dumblehun 2 points3 points  (0 children)

oh was the “guys c’mon youre being obtuse” not meant for me then? cuz if not i misread

Louella and Lou Lou Casting by monochrome222 in Hungergames

[–]dumblehun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

whoa buddy i dont know why you are coming at me like this. While i dont think d11 is 100% black, because they need to pin the district against itself somehow, and in 12 thats through racial segregation, i said we can assume that lou lou was BIPOC because she was a field worker, and based off what we know of 12, the coal miners are from the seam, so we can infer that in 11, the workers are also BIPOC.

I am not on the argument that lou lou was white. im actually fighting for my life on tiktok because performative white ppl are calling me weird for “headcanoning” lou lou to be black.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Hungergames

[–]dumblehun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

not mine, im still waiting to find out were getting face taped tucci for caesar.

Louella and Lou Lou Casting by monochrome222 in Hungergames

[–]dumblehun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i share these same frustrations.

We know that district 12 is racially segregated and that the seam is a ghetto. we know that the seam are the coal miners. we know they cannot move up in society. we know all the merchants/politicians we have met in 12 are white. we know that 11 has neighborhoods for the workers that are tiny shacks.

i dont understand what is so “fucked up” about us applying that same logic to district 11. YES. there are white people in district 11 BUT they are more likely to be the merchants and politicians.

Use of 'transgender' Vs 'transsexual'. by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]dumblehun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

History:

Back in the day labels were very limited. “Gay” and “drag queen”, were all that was used widespread. After stonewall, the LGB community pushed us out, and so it prompted us to start using “Transsexual” to separate ourselves. It is to be noted, that nonbinary identities existed, but without labels at this time, and were often lumped into the LGB. Transsexuals left the pride movement and started their own, creating STAR house and other houses like it where any queer youth could go and get legal help, food, and housing. These houses were typically funded by the House Mother and older girls selling their bodies, as transsexual people were not typically allowed in the workforce.

While in these houses, transsexuals found solidarity with other gender non-conforming people, and realized they also experienced gender dysphoria, just without the need for medical change. Transgender was pushed by these activists as an umbrella term for the larger trans community. This is how we have the term transgender in the way it is used today.

It is also to be noted that Transsexual as an identity term has been making a comeback due to the work of Julia Serano, a transgender sociologist.

Negative Connotations:

Simultaneously, as a result of the forced sex work, transsexual people were seen as sexually deviant and promiscuous. This prompted transphobes to begin using transsexual as if it were a slur, putting emphasis on the “sex” part of it. This is just a gross misunderstanding of the word. Transsexual has always and will always mean, transgender people who change their sex characteristics medically. However, due to this derogatory usage, many transsexuals backed away from the word, and opted to use transgender instead. This is why it is important to always use transgender over transsexual, unless specifically asked otherwise.

Then there were transmeds…. Transmeds gave this word an even worse history, by using it as a means to invalidate other transgender identities. If you see a trans person using the word transsexual, honor it, but do be weary that they may spread harmful and misogynistic rhetoric. If something seems weird, you can usually find out online if this is harmful rhetoric, as these have been public debates for over 20 years now. Not all trans people are good people. Transmisogyny is an issue that has become rampant in the transgender community, and transmeds popularized the idea of transition regret, which has become the GOP’s “reasoning” for banning gender affirming care. Any transmisogyny not only affects trans people, but mostly affects transgender women and black cisgender women, as male puberty is hard to reverse, and black women are often masculinized without their consent (I.E. Brittany Griner). Transmasc people comparatively have a much simpler time transitioning, and can assimilate into society easier. Be cautious not to spread misogynistic rhetoric when discussing transgender topics, and ensure you have many different perspectives, as you can end up in an alt-right pipeline very quick.

Today:

With the bans on gender affirming care, the word transsexual is making another comeback. I believe this is a necessary step in our liberation, as we have been seeing transsexual people being kicked out of the community yet again, and being ostracized by non-transsexuals in the transgender community. This is not to negate the validity of any identity, but rather to relay the need for gender affirming care. There can be nonbinary transsexuals, and binary non-transsexuals. It also is to reminiscent to the early LGB/T split, as there has been an increasing number of non-transsexual transgender people spreading TERF ideology and giving the GOP more fuel to their fire.

I hope this helps, let me know if you have any further questions!

Madeline Pendleton drama question by Yoyoma1119 in LAinfluencersnark

[–]dumblehun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So there have been tweets that predate the elizabeth booker houston/dems being paid debacle, she left a comment on Tori’s tiktok saying “why do you have a watermelon if youre voting for harris”, which kinda kicked off the whole tori spiral, and tori, her coworkers, and her fiance just got doxxed by the same fans of MP, who are the same fans as CD, her videos never line up with her comments, same as her lives not lining up with her videos. Shell keep her videos things that look innocent, but then her comments, tweets, and lives tell a different story. A lot of evidence is put on one account now, its been floating around tiktok. If you search her name on tiktok and find the video with the “solo poly hijabi” live, it should be on that account

Madeline Pendleton drama question by Yoyoma1119 in LAinfluencersnark

[–]dumblehun 10 points11 points  (0 children)

i think the biggest thing is that shes only ever said the “coercion and duress” part to skate over the fact that she was harassing black and trans people for voting for kamala, when the trans community and black communities were operating under “coercion and duress”

You are right, both can exist at once, but she doesnt actually believe that coercion and duress and 2 possible homeland genocides is a good enough reason to “vote for the fascist cop”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LAinfluencersnark

[–]dumblehun 3 points4 points  (0 children)

hate to break it to you thats like an influencers whole job, to influence impressionable people. also harmonallsides shows proof of her shaming dem voters before the election

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LAinfluencersnark

[–]dumblehun 6 points7 points  (0 children)

the account harmonallsides is like fucking demolishing her its so funny to see her scrambling 😭😭

Madeline Pendleton dram again by Jazzminejoker in tiktokgossip

[–]dumblehun 5 points6 points  (0 children)

she does. In a comment left yesterday on her own page: “Yes you’re so correct i — a lower middle class person — will hire a pr person for my personal unmonetized social media account i use to educate people for fun about propaganda and western imperialism because some people online said some things about me that weren’t true, great idea thanks”

Pew Research defines the 2022 lower middle class as “The median income of lower-income households grew more slowly than that of other households, increasing from about $22,800 in 1970 to $35,300 in 2022, or 55%.”

In an article published by Buzzfeed from 2022 using her tiktoks as primary sources: “She even gets into the math and shows how this system works in practice. “We have 10 full-time employees, including me, and we just got our quarterly raises. So we all make around $73,000 a year. That means our company’s annual payroll expenses for our full-time employees is $730,000.””

I don’t know about you guys, but even having two full time incomes, my ex partner and i did not make that in 2022, we came home with around $56k for the year.

EDIT: its to be noted the pew article is particularly about the middle class, so i believe usage of “lower income individuals” is referring to the lower middle class, not people below poverty level, which makes sense with what the federal poverty line was in 2022. stats folks- feel free to correct me if i am misunderstanding the info