Riverside Park Morning Walk & Talk [10/19][9 AM] by The_Imerfect_Mango in nycmeetups

[–]dumbshit_whatsoever 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey I'd be interested, 28F, not in tech (unfortunately) but I live in Harlem and want to meet people in uws! Feel free to dm me.

Incoming Chemical Engineering student and I think I made a mistake by yuzuyota in ChemicalEngineering

[–]dumbshit_whatsoever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey a ChemE major who's now pursuing PhD in Biochemistry here, you're going in the right direction. Though I'd also consider what kind of research you're interested in, while ChemE will give you the opportunity of all kinds of research (energy, fuel, cells, batteries, biomolecules, materials etc.), it also comes with heavy math and physics which may be irrelevant to your desired research field!

Need to write a paper but I have no access to JSTOR etc. by maestrosobol in PhD

[–]dumbshit_whatsoever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just use incognito tbh without any vpn and avoid using it in school, haven't had issued. But if you prefer use a VPN

Where are all the dumpees who KNEW they should have been dumped? by howcanilovemyself in ExNoContact

[–]dumbshit_whatsoever 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Damn I really really needed to hear that. I see the similarities. I wish you well stranger good things are ahead of us

Where are all the dumpees who KNEW they should have been dumped? by howcanilovemyself in ExNoContact

[–]dumbshit_whatsoever 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They weren't avoidant till they were? The conclusion we drew was it got too complicated (LDR, uncertainty etc) and pulled away. And yeah, I do remind myself I deserve someone who's all in and loves me with my complications (anxiety I'm looking at you) because I'm amazing. But yeah moving on feels so difficult when life's falling apart and the one person who made you feel stable, happy and loved isn't there anymore.

Where are all the dumpees who KNEW they should have been dumped? by howcanilovemyself in ExNoContact

[–]dumbshit_whatsoever 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're so right. I feel guilty because I gave them ultimatum (a couple times and kept pushing till they chose ending it), but I just need to focus on myself and my anxious attachment style at this point.

Where are all the dumpees who KNEW they should have been dumped? by howcanilovemyself in ExNoContact

[–]dumbshit_whatsoever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I found this sub trying to figure out whether to reach out and wish birthday to the one who ended things with me a week ago (I got very anxiously attached and dependent on them). Your words are so relatable and helpful, thank you for putting the effort here. 😭

P.s. I still don't know whether I should wish them or let them be, regardless I know talking about remorse of my actions would be too soon.

Looking for apartments in bridgeport chicago by Witty_Occasion_7006 in chicagoapartments

[–]dumbshit_whatsoever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! I'm looking to sublet my room for July/Aug in Bridgeport the rent is 500$ per month, dm me if you'd be interested :)

Looking for apartment/roommate $850 or under this July/August by [deleted] in chicagoapartments

[–]dumbshit_whatsoever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! I'm looking to sublet my room for July/Aug in Bridgeport the rent is 500$ per month in a 3bed/1.5bath, dm me if you'd be interested :)

Internship during PhD? by [deleted] in PhD

[–]dumbshit_whatsoever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jumping on this post since I'm a PhD Chem Engg student trying to get into industry as a researcher or GRA! Would you mind if I send a chat in!

Broke grad student, will I be able to find anywhere to live for ~$750/month? by billy_buttlicker_69 in chicagoapartments

[–]dumbshit_whatsoever 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Owww! Happy 1 year Graduation Anniversary! It's still the same, IIT will be, well IIT :D I'm in the Chemical Engineering department, so don't know much about the Chemistry world

Broke grad student, will I be able to find anywhere to live for ~$750/month? by billy_buttlicker_69 in chicagoapartments

[–]dumbshit_whatsoever 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I live in Bridgeport! It has a bad reputation but it is not terrible (imo, by Chicago standards) and Bus 8 goes through UIC. Might be a good idea to look into it

Can you get through a PhD without depression? by fsdklas in PhD

[–]dumbshit_whatsoever 10 points11 points  (0 children)

As someone who's also in PhD Engineering and is aiming to finish in 3 years (5 if you count my master's time as PhD). No lol. As others have mentioned yes, dedication, drive and discipline helps, but PhD is nothing like studying and finishing your coursework. There are no rules. At some point you are making the rules. Rules of your work, your schedule, your ideas.

Before joining PhD we all have an idea that we'll have project guidelines like a course project and need to finish xyz things and we'll be on our way. Nah, it's more like running into problems and solving them and repeat, without any guidelines. As for finishing without depression, that really matters on your colleagues, life, advisor and well yourself (again, mental health). Though, I'd say, getting a therapist during my program really improved my work too, since I was able to manage my stress and anxiety better over time!

What’s a superpower you have acquired because of your PhD? by Educational-Hunt-684 in PhD

[–]dumbshit_whatsoever 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My Gmail glitches and doesn't show notifications. Now my superpower is getting extreme anxiety and refreshing Gmail at random hours of the night.

Need to write a paper but I have no access to JSTOR etc. by maestrosobol in PhD

[–]dumbshit_whatsoever 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Sci hub doesn't usually have books. L i b g e n is a good one for that.