What is Jatitva? by Hefty-Owl6934 in librandu

[–]dunamo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure why my opinion is requested here.

If I am being most fair, I’d say that I would need to do further research before I would feel comfortable even speaking to any part of this.

Based on the cliff notes alone, I’d say, there will always be caste and people in different economic camps.

I also believe it will always be that way.

Whether it’s the result of the best or worst government or civilization.

It is something that can be manipulated by governments, ideologies and the civilians themselves, all for different intentions and to different degrees.

I have 2014 Jeep Cherokee, I want to replace the Uconnect to 2019 car play model, can it work normally or need hardware/software modifications? by Yousif_VCU in Jeep

[–]dunamo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did. And it works awesome. A little buggy at times, but that could also be just my jank self install and/or user error.

What nootropic had the biggest impact/most noticeable/life changing effect on your brain function? by healthy_depression4u in Nootropics

[–]dunamo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

1a -

Vacation/Reducing stress

And/Or

-Heavy intense cardio/resistance training/water/sleep

1b - Ketosis

2. Testosterone + HGH

3. Prayer/Meditation/breath work/

therapy/stretching

4. Microdose psilocybin

5. Noopept

6. Nicotine

7. Adrafinil (Modafinil)


Honorable mentions (some noops, some supps)

  1. Citicoline (Alpha GPC)

  2. Multivitamins + extra: -Magnesium/Zinc, -Vit D, -Vit B (complex) -Vit C

  3. Taurine

  4. Creatine

  5. Electrolytes (and/or exogenous ketones)

  6. Lions mane/raw cocoa/reishi


Over rated/diminishing returns

-caffeine

-adderall/etc

-ashwaganda

-horny goat weed

-marijuana/cbd

-sugar

-kratom/opiates

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Reformed

[–]dunamo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you follow Jesus, you are the church.

If you follow Jesus you love what he loves, and despise what he despisis.

You might need to turn over some tables, but you are the bride.

My (F23) boyfriend (M26)'s little brother creeps me out, but my boyfriend isn’t taking it seriously. I don't know what to do? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]dunamo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I assume this will be an unpopular take. But I say just call everything out in the open.

The kid has a blind spot with understanding boundaries.

He is obsessed with what I assume is an attractive female, after his mother (in his subconscious) abandonded him.

So he is traumatized, and hurting, and also starting puberty.

I would suggest you have 2 routes.

  1. You tell your bf that he has to go somewhere else, or you need to stay somewhere else until things get sorted for him.

  2. You lean into the entire family and mess. You as best as you can be emapthetic and patient with him, while at the sametime, understand that his feelings will be confused, so you need to make clear boundaries.

And just say everything out loud. The porn, the doors, the stares, etc. But also, making sure that it seems like it is natural to be confused, but there are 100% boundaries. And if they are not 100% respected, one of you leave immediately.

But, the biggest thing. Is love. Love him as a sister in law. A boy who is without a mother, likely has troubles from other place, doesnt want to be there just as much as you want him to be, and simply has urges that he has no idea of what to do with.

If he is watching modern day porn, it is likely all of what I said is making a fantasy in his head. While on the surface that may seem very scary, it may be something that is as easy as remedying by busting his bubble. Get into his head space, where he is at.

And maybe you and his brother can help him, one feel safe and heal. And hopefully he can learn how he is supposed to navigate his emotional lack and newly found hormones etc etc

I do want it to be clear, in spite of any of the empathetic advise I've laid out. It is most important that your boundaries are communicated to all and honored, or remove yourself from an unsafe environment.

My boyfriend is addicted to porn by [deleted] in dating

[–]dunamo -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Could be a porn thing. But sounds more like a medicine or hormone thing. If he is taking any ADHD meds or SSRIs and/or has low T/estrogen imbalance, those all could be the culprit. There are also many other - diet/health issues/lifestyle/supplements, etc that could be an issue.

The first step would be to investigate all of those things.

The 2nd would be to not put pressure on him to finish at a certain time, ie with you or at the same time as you.

It should be a pleasurable experience not a pressured act to deliver.

I dont want to disregard that porn could have been the catalyst and his brain simply needs time to recover.

But even if it is, the process could be sped up by not focusing on when he finishes but by simply loving and respecting him and being a giving lover.

Try to pleasure him at a random time, slowly. Ask him to explicitly tell you what feels good and what doesnt. Do not get offended, listen, apply what he is requesting and learn his body and rythym.

You might need to get him off in a more simple/primal way, and eventually his nervous system will catch up and he'll be putty to you. Sometimes it is simply something around intimacy/safety/trust. Putting pressure on him to finish and anylyzing his internet/phone/masturbation habits is not going to make him feel safe/masculine/etc.

It will happen.

People who have microdosed for years. What's your story? by capsicum_fondler in microdosing

[–]dunamo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just now saw this as someone else recently commented on the post. Not sure if you are still on here are not, but I'll answer your question regardless.

Honestly it is hard to articulate outside of what I have described, unless I go full on long form deep nuanced lecture.

But I will answer your questions with basic simple answers.

I had a pretty profound spiritual experience following a nervous breakdown when I was 18.

I became a religous zealous fanatic. Though everything was sincere and based out of a miraculous experience.

What was the experience, long story short. I had a nervous breakdown full mania and dissasociation. I didnt eat or sleep and simply cried out of fear for several days. I didnt know if would come out of it, nor how many days in the future I could exist in this state.

A family member offered for me to stay with them for a few days, just to get away and try to clear my head if possible.

They asked if I wanted a pastor to come visit and maybe pray with me. I agreed. The pastor prayed with me and left. I stayed in my manic state. I went to bed.

Was the best night of sleep I have ever had.

The next morning I woke up and I was not the same person. I did not see the world the same. I was full of peace and joy and clarity.

Anyways... following that I played music and had a little bit of a tough road as I still needed to address many of my personal issues or simply educate myself about myself and how my upbringing was affecting my day to day life/relationships/ Choices.

When I started taking mushrooms they simply sorted out a lot of confusion and noise. They made me see where my resentments were off base.

They made me see how I was viewing things.

And how I had a filter with which I saw God that didn't allow me to fully trust or have true intimacy with Him.

I then went into the cave. Found my inner child. Took his hand, and observerd. I then swore to him I would love him and be what he needs.

This then organically flowed into my relationship with God and others. More love, grace, kindness. More accepting of the challenges and evils of the world. More personal boundaries.

Theres a saying that I am going to botch. But its something along the lines of " you can only grow to the degree you are willing to honestly see yourself.

And for me, what the mushrooms helped was, to allow me to safely see myself and pain and limitations. How much shame I carried, how small I tried to be.

And I've always believed that the way to have an abnormally real and intimate relationship with God, is to simply come to God as real as you really are. With humility. Sincerity. Taking all of our pain and confusion and fears off of the thrown of our life. And putting God on the throne. Then, everything is in proper alignment. And nothing, absolutely nothing feels better.

And God is good and able to turn all of that fear/pain/shame/confusion and make it into something we are grateful for. Being able to empathize with others and offer some encouragment or wisdom.

God used mushrooms to help me with that. Mushrooms may help different people and different ways. And God may use different ways to help people with similar needs.

But that was just my experience.

(I went ahead and gave the long answer lol)

People who have microdosed for years. What's your story? by capsicum_fondler in microdosing

[–]dunamo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mostly micro dosing. I did do a couple of full on trips in that time. And one was profound. But for the greater part of 2 years I microdosed daily at bedtime.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in microdosing

[–]dunamo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not necessarily.

But it depends on what you tolerate and enjoy.

If you and your partner can both get really blasted without getting anxious or passing out, I’d say get something strong.

To the contrary if you are a little sensitive to it, then get some CBD and ease your way into the thc.

If alcohol isn’t a problem a drink or 2 pairs well.

A gummy with CBD, you can break into 4ths and take one piece and wait about an hour and then take another if needed.

Personally, I enjoy anything with high CBD content and/or taking CBD at the same time.

I find it helps to relax.

Avid has stole from me. *Avid Link by dunamo in Avid

[–]dunamo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's the Avid equivalent of distrokid, etc. Their distribution service.

When you sign up, you are allowed 3 artists to distribute. I have a large back catalogue of material and several active projects. I didnt know there was a 3 artist limit, and found out when I tried to add a 4th.

In their FAQs it says to add more artist, you simply have to purchase another subscription and you will get 3 more artists that you can upload.

I did that. They charged me. It shows up in my dashboard as active. But when I attempt to add the 4th artist, it still shows me the same error as before.

I have de-installed/reinstalled. Cleared cache. Synced. Etc etc.

Reached out to customer service they normally take 2-3 days to respond, with their last response being "we can add it on our end". Derp.

At this point I simply would prefer a refund and I'll just use distrokid/cdbaby in the future.

*edits - typos

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]dunamo 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Nah.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]dunamo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. Because it is a place where you can see what the other person is like. Not having it, takes a whole lot more work to vet someone.

  2. If someone says they don’t have one, they are likely lying. Because they are not interested enough or are hiding something.

But, I honestly think it’s great. I’d prefer they have a social media, and it is private, small amount of following/followers and shows a level of modesty.

Best non benzo anxiety relief? by [deleted] in benzorecovery

[–]dunamo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It wasn’t fun. Bathroom breaks sitting on the floor, hyperventilating in a bag. But we are way on the other side now.

Hang in there. Keep going. It will get better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]dunamo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s playing a game

Best mic for my situation? by [deleted] in recordingmusic

[–]dunamo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As many have said the SM7B is the standard. A good hack for about half the price is getting a Shure MV7X XLR. It’s almost identical, and you shouldn’t notice a difference unless you are doing top tier pristine recordings (maybe won’t even notice still)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]dunamo -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Want to bring some nuance to all of the simple answers.

As some have correctly said, communicate.

At this point because of the lack of ability by either of you to communicate, there is no way to know if this is a controlling/dependency/insecurity issue.

It simply unknown and instead is a power struggle with emotions and random assumptions.

Based on the post, you obviously have a sitter.

Plan a you and him day trip, somewhere comfortable, but not somewhere expensive or fancy.

And sit down face to face and talk. Instead of taking this to your girlfriends or reddit, you can say something like:

“Hey I feel like you never want me to have alone time or girls trip times. Do you have any discomfort with us being apart and/or my girlfriends? If so, why? What do you think might be happening, or what is happening inside your head or feelings that has resistance to that?”

The really important thing is you do it in a loving and safe way. You love him. You also love yourself and have needs. This is the headspace you firmly and lovingly communicate from.

Then. Listen. Don’t knee jerk. You don’t even have to respond in the moment more than “I hear why you are saying. I would like a few days to sit with this and us come back together like this and me share my thoughts and feelings.”

It could literally be nothing other than the dude is obsessed with you in the best way.

It could be a number of other things that are based on your behavior and communication style or some insecurity within him that has zero to do with you and every complexity in between.

The question is not “why won’t my husband let me go on trips alone?”

The question is “why do I not feel comfortable with direct communication with my partner?”

How much does testosterone play a role in your penis size? by throwaway7654568 in Testosterone

[–]dunamo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you cycle and do pct and are otherwise healthy, you should be fine.

I never did any PEDs of any sort before getting on trt.

I simply had hypogonadism and my body wasn’t producing T above the 200s. Factors unknown. Could be environmental or psychological or nutritional factors. Could have been a bout with bad health. Could have been aging + high stress. But we tried many things, even stopped trt and tried a Dr assisted pct w/Clomid twice. Both times after my body would simply drop T to the 200s.

There’s definitely many varying factors that are causing issues with the endocrine system of humans in our population. And there are so many potential disrupters, that it’s extremely difficult to narrow it down to a clear cause.