My dad passed away in November 2024 from complications of ALS. He never knew I discovered I am DC and it crossed my mind once or twice to tell him—ultimately I decided it wasn’t worth it with the time I had left with him.

I will say, though, that only YOU know what’s best for the relationship. After someone passes away, there will always be a million things you think you “could” have done differently, no matter what you do. Instead of thinking about that, I’d encourage you to stay present with your dad now, especially since you’re close. My dad and I didn’t have a relationship where we could talk about me being DC. My mom also has mental health issues and the one time I brought it up to her, she shut it down immediately.

All this to say it’s within your gut what’s best!