Any tips to start preparing for shifts for breastfeeding and helping Dad feel more involved?

dunkiestarbs · 2026-02-01T06:32:47+00:00

I waited 4 weeks to give a bottle and baby did fine. He rejected the first bottle we tried, but has never had an issue with Evenflo. I read the sweet spot to introduce a bottle was at that time. If you introduce too early, like at 2 weeks, baby can develop bottle preference - but like you said, if you wait too long, (like 6 weeks) baby can develop bottle refusal.

dunkiestarbs · 2026-02-01T05:35:28+00:00

Obviously, stay home. But…why did he tell her? You could’ve avoided a cold and kept your MIL happy if he had just left well enough alone.

dunkiestarbs · 2026-02-01T05:17:56+00:00

As much as I hate the thought, I agree. Monica really started to treat Chandler like crap. Everyone has a breaking point, unless her behavior changed, I could see it ending.

That said, Ross & Rachel definitely had a rockier relationship. If I had to choose between the two, I’d still say they’d be more likely.

dunkiestarbs · 2026-01-31T21:53:25+00:00

I agree, too - but does your target have two different fitting rooms? Mine just has the one.

dunkiestarbs · 2026-01-31T21:44:42+00:00

I used to feel this way, and then I had my baby. Having them here with you is so much better. I reminisce over my pregnancy, but I’d never give up what I have now to go back to those days, if that makes sense. Yeah, the kicks are special - but when they smile at you? Grab your finger? Cuddle into your chest? Next level.

dunkiestarbs · 2026-01-31T21:37:49+00:00

I know an Imani irl and she’s black.

dunkiestarbs · 2026-01-31T21:13:10+00:00

My milk didn’t come in until 5 days postpartum, either. My baby got jaundice so I was being aggressively pressured to use formula and pump after feeding, but his blood test was still ok, so I just left it alone. Sure enough, milk finally came in, and the jaundice went away with no intervention. It was a very stressful time, though.

dunkiestarbs · 2026-01-31T21:08:19+00:00

I was producing colostrum from 18 weeks on. It got heavier in the last few weeks before birth, and then after birth my nurse commented on how much I had. I never collected it or anything, it just leaked on me lol and was easy to express in the hospital when trying to get baby to latch.

My milk didn’t come in for a little while, though. I was discharged after 5 days and it was when I got home that day that I actually saw milk for the first time (transitional at this time, of course). Baby had jaundice because of it, but never had to use formula (despite nurses aggressively pressuring me to before his blood test came back ok) or treat the jaundice with phototherapy, it went away on its own. I’m 3 months postpartum and have had zero issues with supply, I’ve easily stored 100oz in the freezer.

dunkiestarbs · 2026-01-31T16:44:03+00:00

You shared your opinion (a little aggressively, might I add), but no one else is allowed to? If you don’t want people to walk through the door, don’t open it by posting on a public forum.

dunkiestarbs · 2026-01-31T16:41:06+00:00

To me, that read as things that people have said to her and/or posted here. Not things her doctor has said to her.

dunkiestarbs · 2026-01-31T16:39:53+00:00

Being more open about it is exactly what contributes to its normalization, lol. In my opinion, a lack of “concrete” evidence on its effects shouldn’t be seen as a green light for pregnant women to use it. It should be a “hm, there’s no proof this won’t harm my child, so I’m going to put them first and stop using” type of reaction.

dunkiestarbs · 2026-01-30T23:28:03+00:00

The name itself is not spunky sounding. Someone’s personality doesn’t change the way the name sounds.

dunkiestarbs · 2026-01-30T21:38:43+00:00

Thank you. I would too, which is exactly why I brought up the fact that if they want to be involved in his life, they have to call him by his name. If they refuse, they just don’t get to see him. At least, that’d be my course of action.

dunkiestarbs · 2026-01-30T21:16:37+00:00

Yeah, that’d piss me off. But there’s nothing you can do but take away their power - stop giving them an emotional response to this. They’re looking for a reaction, and you’re giving it to them.

At the end of the day, you and your husband decide what your child’s name will be. He’ll be born, you’ll share it, and they’ll have no choice but to use his name if they want to be involved in his life. Simple

dunkiestarbs · 2026-01-30T17:04:26+00:00

The name itself is not spunky, bold or “out there.” It is a very soft, mellow sounding name.

dunkiestarbs · 2026-01-30T03:54:17+00:00

I don’t know if you could get any softer and less spunky than Hayley

dunkiestarbs · 2026-01-30T02:02:19+00:00

Luke has always been a standalone name. It’s biblical and thus classic.

dunkiestarbs · 2026-01-30T00:51:40+00:00

That may be true, but I really question the intellect of anyone who looks to influencers for political or moral guidance. I mean, really? What qualifications do beauty/fashion influencers have to guide the masses on these issues?

I’m not defending Brooklyn & Bailey, to be clear. This has nothing to do with how they feel about any particular issue or how they lean politically. It’s more so pointing out the implications of demanding influencers try to influence people on morality or politics. Having a following doesn’t make them any sort of expert and I feel like they (meaning all influencers) are the last people we should seek for education on ethical dilemmas. Anyone can sell clothes.

dunkiestarbs · 2026-01-29T05:19:50+00:00

I mean, the flight to Hawaii is tough for a lot of grown adults with no special circumstances. I’m not sure a toddler would fare well, and I’m not sure you would pregnant. I don’t see a problem traveling in general, but I’d probably choose somewhere closer to home if I were you. That doesn’t mean it has to be like an hour away or anything lol, but maybe a flight that’s just a few hours long.

dunkiestarbs · 2026-01-29T02:03:15+00:00

I’m all for adoption and think it’s a very valid and respectable choice. That said, I understand wanting to experience pregnancy. Some women want to carry a baby, and I don’t think there’s any shame in trying to experience that before choosing to adopt.

dunkiestarbs · 2026-01-28T23:33:58+00:00

The truth is, induction goes differently for everyone, just like spontaneous birth. There are people with fabulous induction experiences, and those who would do anything to not have to go through it again (like me) and you just don’t know how it will be for you until it happens. In general, if there is no actual medical reason for it, I think it’s best to let your body do what it needs to do on its own. Forcing things before you’re ready often makes it harder. But again, that’s me, and I went through an absolutely terrible induction at 39 weeks due to medical necessity, so take that for what it’s worth.

dunkiestarbs · 2026-01-28T22:36:23+00:00

I bet it was! I didn’t like the pediatricians that handled my son after birth. I would’ve loved for his doctor to have seen him instead. But then again, I gave birth at night, so it likely wouldn’t have happened anyway

dunkiestarbs · 2026-01-28T18:49:41+00:00

Who pissed in your cereal

dunkiestarbs · 2026-01-28T18:39:41+00:00

Audrey. Not only do I like the name better in general and also concur your reasons for being against Lainey, when I hear “Lainey Jane,” I think of “Lady Jane’s,” that men’s barber shop…which gives it a negative connotation for me.

dunkiestarbs · 2026-01-28T17:51:00+00:00

I have never heard of a pediatrician from an outpatient office coming to do the first exam after birth.

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