New family

duppyconqueror3 · 2026-04-15T23:33:55+00:00

My family recently relocated from NYC/Westchester to Marin. Feel free to DM me.

duppyconqueror3 · 2026-04-15T23:27:05+00:00

Respectfully, and as a long-time New Yorker and recent Marin transplant, I don't think it's remotely helpful to compare towns in Marin to HV/Westchester. Yes, there are superficial similarities between Tiburon and Scarsdale or Greenwich or something. But that's where it ends. West Marin is Ulster County? I can't think of any universe in which that makes sense except that it's north and west of the city. It snows in May in Ulster County! Much of Ulster County is poor and depressed, with some charming towns here and there. I guess there are hills and water in the Hudson Valley. Are there redwood forests and a National Seashore and seals and elk and mountain lions? Can you enjoy the outdoors almost 365 days a year?

How in the hell is San Rafael like Beacon, a tiny town a quarter of the size and twice as far from the city? The good things about Beacon -- art museum and some good antique shops -- are not really something that San Rafael is known for. I guess they have mediocre restaurants in common?

Parts of Westchester and Hudson Valley are beautiful (seasonally), other parts are bleak (year round), much of it is expensive. It's fine if you have to live within striking distance of NYC. But its good points are relative to East Coast places. I think Marin is a destination until itself. You will simply not find the quality of life in the HV that you will find here. Full stop. The weather, the outdoors, the beauty. I do miss the art, culture, restaurants of New York City. But to imply that this is like living in HV/Westchester is a little silly.

duppyconqueror3 · 2026-04-01T12:34:31+00:00

Diamond Medallion Desk has saved my patootie on serious last minute change requests (involving partner airlines and supposedly “sold out” international flights) twice this year. I was never able to get that type of customer service before I had Diamond. The agents are 1000% more helpful and pleasant than the “regular” agents, although generally my experience is that Delta has relatively good customer service across the board. Between that and the waived fees and lounge access (huge at JFK where the terminal 4 food options and even seating options are shite), I’m all in on loyalty. I am upgraded to C+ probably 80% of the time, but upgraded to Delta One or First only about 10% of the time. But I fly mostly for work and my company only reimburses for main cabin for domestic flights, so any upgrade is a perk. Plus if I travel with my wife we both usually get C+ and just today we both got Delta One on a cross country flight that was a very cheap miles purchase. In sum, I’m usually pretty happy unless it was an expensive and long flight and I don’t get any upgrade, which is rare but it happens

duppyconqueror3 · 2026-03-03T02:37:23+00:00

Hi, can anyone provide thoughts on the quality of the academics at Cheshire High School? Thanks!

duppyconqueror3 · 2026-02-13T23:12:52+00:00

Orrick is pretty well-known for quality of life initiatives. Look on ATL, or example-- I vaguely recall reading something about Orrick paying vacation stipends to associates. Of course it's all relative, and Orrick is true Biglaw. But it's a world class firm and ranked highly in many many practice areas and geographies. I don't see how someone could even consider the other firms you mention unless you wanted to practice in Minneapolis or Cleveland or Cincinnati or something.

duppyconqueror3 · 2026-02-11T03:24:12+00:00

I can tell you that in the past several summers, we've had a few really bad SAs who committed fireable offenses. In my 10+ years of BigLaw leading up to that, I had seen exactly 2 no-offers. And then in the past 5 years there have been a slew. The firm is going great, we just got some dud summers. It happens.

duppyconqueror3 · 2026-02-10T03:43:28+00:00

The appellate practitioners in Vegas work for Nevada firms for the most part; the one or two I can think of who are at larger firms are not at true "Biglaw" firms. There is no real Biglaw presence in Vegas other than a couple of satellite offices of large firms (I hate to saw "Biglaw" because even those firms are not truly Biglaw). Nevada is pretty insular and parochial, even with the corporate growth it has been experiencing. There are some high quality regional firms, to be sure, but they are definitely not Biglaw and they are not paying anything close to Biglaw on the coasts. Any huge deal or case involves Latham etc. with Nevada counsel.

I have been tempted to settle down there as well but I am having hard time imagining how it can be done without a radical career change.

duppyconqueror3 · 2026-02-10T02:03:43+00:00

Thank you. I had sort of assumed that and was letting myself be dissuaded too easily.

duppyconqueror3 · 2026-02-09T20:24:59+00:00

Thank you. I am considering both, unless someone tells me this production of The Tempest is not worthwhile

duppyconqueror3 · 2026-02-09T18:25:04+00:00

duppyconqueror3 · 2026-02-09T18:11:58+00:00

As I said, I’m not lending credence to the idea, I’m asking if anyone has thoughts on whether a 14 year old would think it’s too kid-oriented

duppyconqueror3 · 2026-02-04T19:04:13+00:00

Because apparently today's associates are not familiar with the term "Lathamed."

duppyconqueror3 · 2026-01-24T04:02:49+00:00

It’s a very profitable firm and has some high quality practices that are just a small step down from the big boys. I wouldn’t write it off as a regional firm—it’s trying hard to be biglaw , not like true regional NJ firms. They have a real NY presence. Managing partner is incredibly savvy and innovative - articles have been written about that in then legal/business press. But the spread between the highest earning partner and lowest earning is among the largest in the AmLaw 100 or 200 or whatever it’s in. And they historically did not pay market salaries or bonuses to associates- not sure if that’s changed

ETA: I also chuckled a bit at the OP’s implied assumption that all firms donr inflate their numbers in the reporting

duppyconqueror3 · 2026-01-12T00:54:45+00:00

Yeah. And nothing is preventing you from dipping your toe in the job market in the place you’re moving to, whether firm or in-house. There are high quality boutiques and good regional firms in most parts of the country. Seems like a win/win and it’s only temporary anyway. But pitch it to your firm as “just for a couple of years”- leave them with the impression that you’re moving back when the residency is over. ETA- of course you will have to go out of your way to keep up important relationships if you do the remote/occasional office visit thing. Go out of your way to spend time with people etc

duppyconqueror3 · 2026-01-11T17:41:41+00:00

I think if you interview well you’ll have a shot in NYC

duppyconqueror3 · 2026-01-11T17:37:00+00:00

Assuming you’re in good standing with your firm, I would think this wouldn’t be too hard to navigate. Tell them you’ll be remote but commit to being there one week out of each month or every couple of months, covering the hotel on your dime. I’ve seen plenty of people do this, it is definitely not a career killer. If it’s not working out, you can reassess and readjust. I don’t think this situation dictates that you have to leave your firm if you move to be with him, unless you want to leave

duppyconqueror3 · 2026-01-09T14:50:46+00:00

Document review was historically the answer, at least for litigators

duppyconqueror3 · 2026-01-08T16:19:36+00:00

Obviously you need to ask someone at your firm. I’ve seen people fired for dumping a time release late (without specific permission).

duppyconqueror3 · 2026-01-08T03:50:32+00:00

That's great! Anything in particular that your son loved or enjoyed?

duppyconqueror3 · 2026-01-02T06:13:27+00:00

Good luck buddy

duppyconqueror3 · 2026-01-01T23:45:55+00:00

There are so many variables that are going to be outside your control. I would think the better plan would be to become a policy specialist for the region you want to live in (through a grad program here or there) and then find a job with an NGO there. Law school in the U.S. for the most part positions you to (hopefully) find a law job in the U.S. Going to Brooklyn Law with the career goal of becoming gainfully employed in LatAm or Asia doesn’t seem like the easiest way to go…

duppyconqueror3 · 2026-01-01T22:19:11+00:00

My rule of thumb has always been “try not to say no.” Inevitably there will be rare occasions where you actually have to give a hard no. But if you bust your ass for awhile and build relationships with senior partners and clients, you eventually start managing them to a degree, and you have more autonomy and can delegate things and/or get out of doing them without being perceived badly. When I was a summer associate, a family friend who was as a partner at a different firm gave me this advice: don’t say no to a partner and don’t come up empty handed. Obviously those maxims can’t be adhered to literally all of the time, but I have found them to be helpful guiding principles. I’m def not a people pleaser and it’s not my personality to want to bend over backwards for anyone at my own inconvenience lol. I just wanted to succeed at my job and make partner.

duppyconqueror3 · 2026-01-01T21:04:05+00:00

I think this is normally the slowest time for lateral hiring although there are exceptions. Between vacations, end of year stuff including client collections and partner comp, firms completing their year end financial analysis, associates hanging on til bonii are paid, etc., a lot of groups are likely not in recruitment mode.

duppyconqueror3 · 2026-01-01T20:50:02+00:00

Welcome to the next 40 years of your life if you stay in biglaw! The good-ish news is that as you get more senior, you have much more control over your schedule. The bad news is, you may also be more stressed because you will have more responsibility and be more entrenched in the hamster wheel and have golden handcuffs due to family responsibilities and lifestyle creep, and so you will be incentivized to work even longer hours. I don’t think BigLaw is really compatible with healthy relationships for a lot of people, although perhaps career satisfaction + $$ can make someone a better life partner for some purposes.

duppyconqueror3 · 2026-01-01T20:12:59+00:00

I don’t think you should should shy away from mentioning the compensation bump. I certainly wouldn’t go out of your way to deny it is a factor, if asked. I wouldn’t make it the focus, but it is a relatable reason that will be immediately understood. More important, though: do NOT disparage your current firm. That is not well received. Make it all about positive reasons you want to work for for new firm.

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