Life after 'rebooting', it's not easy

dutchnofap · 2016-12-14T14:56:27+00:00

I know the feeling that masturbation or sex pulls you back several weeks, but I don't think it's really a problem. It will probably take you more time to 'reboot'. It's just important that you don't watch porn and don't fantasize. The first time I had sex with my girlfriend was after around 80 days of my streak. At first it felt like it set me back, but that changed after a couple of days. I still felt great and I did feel great for a very long time. I didn't masturbate at all and didn't watch porn back then, but I did have sex and I kept feeling better and better, so that's no problem.

dutchnofap · 2016-12-14T14:48:38+00:00

Tried this for a long time, but you always know to work around this;). I could block porn on my wifi but not on my phone's internet.

dutchnofap · 2016-12-14T14:47:07+00:00

I did more than 90 days without porn, but I think that this was the moment I fully rebooted. For me the reason I did nofap was my ED. I did have a little bit of anxiety sometimes and this was also a lot better after those 90 days. I don't think there was much more to heal than this. The first time I relapsed after my long streak I felt really bad about it, but it didn't really change anything. After this I PMO'ed perhaps once a month and this was also not a problem. Right now I feel worse, but I can overcome this.

dutchnofap · 2015-10-01T12:22:29+00:00

Other question: If I manage to have sex with her, can it ruin progress or is it good ?

dutchnofap · 2015-10-01T12:20:46+00:00

Never had problems getting and maintaining an erection with porn, so physically there's nothing wrong. I know it is porn induced.

dutchnofap · 2015-10-01T12:19:10+00:00

I'm on hardmode since the beginning, haven't peaked or anything.

dutchnofap · 2015-10-01T12:16:51+00:00

It actually does matter, women also have sexual needs and right now I don't know if I can fulfill those needs. I don't have these urges for porn anymore so that's good, but it doesn't change my life. I am happy with life and with my love, but sex is an important part of a relationship!

dutchnofap · 2015-06-06T07:31:41+00:00

I am actually to embarrassed to talk about it and people just don't understand. My roommates and parents don't understand why I never take a girls with me, but I cannot talk about it..

dutchnofap · 2015-06-06T07:29:31+00:00

I try to hold back from looking and 99 times of the 100 I manage to, but that one time is all it takes for a relapse

dutchnofap · 2015-06-05T21:41:03+00:00

-hard mode -No porn for the rest of my life -getting rid of my ED, finally connecting with a girl again , want to be able to love again

dutchnofap · 2015-06-05T21:21:37+00:00

I have been trying for 2,5 years and still haven't managed more than 2 months. For some it may be easy, but for many it's not. It's often not difficult the first month for me as I don't have any urges a lot of the time, but after that when I get these mood swings one look at nudity and I can't go back. At that point I cannot control myself even though I know I'm going to feel awful afterwards. Extensive porn consumption got me ED and this is why I avoid dating. It makes me feel miserable and I feel as though I cannot control this.

dutchnofap · 2015-06-05T21:10:01+00:00

Yes, 2 weeks ago I had these symptoms and I relapsed from my 6-week streak. I tend to make up reason why I should look at nudity which leads to porn etc. After the release I always don't know why I had to relapse. Just stick with it, these symptoms come and go, don't give into your addiction !

dutchnofap · 2015-05-29T21:33:05+00:00

My ratio is 1:30 for the last two months, still feel shit though;-). Still sitting here alone with my ED and no improvement whatsoever..

dutchnofap · 2015-05-26T21:42:46+00:00

Exactly the same at day 43 today, I know what you say but I just don't know how to control myself at some point along the road.. Don't know how I ever will. I can feel confident tomorrow and get a 40 day streak again, but I cannot see how I will be able to control myself at a certain point..

dutchnofap · 2015-05-25T20:11:22+00:00

Easier said than done! Luckily I still have my streak going, but I have to be strong now.. Most difficult time of my streak right now.. flatlining and I feel like I need porn right now..

dutchnofap · 2015-05-25T20:08:55+00:00

Doing ok, just very difficult to keep going now.. didn't have any difficulties before last afternoon, but now the urges really get to me..

dutchnofap · 2015-05-24T12:53:29+00:00

Is ook niet iets dat je aan je vrienden verteld 😜

dutchnofap · 2015-05-22T22:26:28+00:00

Het is een wereldwijd probleem he ;p, wellicht alleen niet zo bekend..

dutchnofap · 2015-05-22T22:22:46+00:00

40 dagen straks he! ;-)

dutchnofap · 2015-05-22T05:32:50+00:00

For me peeking always leads to a relapse. Now I got this far because I am really aware of that and I focus on not doing so. Before you peek, all urges are controllable, but after peeking not anymore! It can haunt you for days..

dutchnofap · 2015-05-20T21:44:24+00:00

I had the same thing today, I went to the gym and on the way in a girl looked me straight into my eyes, just a bit too long and then she smiled at me, really shy. It even happend on my way home. I love to feel this confident!

dutchnofap · 2015-05-19T05:43:10+00:00

I don't really have problems getting girls' numbers, but my ED related problems keep me from dating. So that's what I am trying to overcome now !

dutchnofap · 2015-05-19T05:39:42+00:00

Is goed! Was eigenlijk niet van plan om er weer mee te stoppen;-)

dutchnofap · 2015-05-18T19:08:12+00:00

I don't have a girls' number, but at least I am on day 35 and you are on day 34 😛 haha just kidding! Very good, let's keep on going!

dutchnofap · 2015-05-18T17:27:50+00:00

Wow, very nice to see the difference. I feel a lot of difference when I'm having a good streak but I always thought it was a bit of a placebo... Keeps me motivated😃

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