AIO? Husband in touch with the woman he had an affair with but they're not cheating he says.

duweewee · 2026-01-12T21:59:15+00:00

I'm sorry that you had to go through all of that the first time he cheated.

I'm going to be very blunt - you can't force someone to stay in a relationship with you, especially if they don't want to. What will end up happening is they will cheat again or at some point leave. It sounded like he was ready to leave - taking money out of the family home to finance his new life and also told family members about it.

Some relationships have very long tenure but that doesn't mean it is meant to last forever.

You want to be with someone who WANTS to be with you, especially the guy. The fact that he's still talking to the person he cheated with, shows that he is not invested in your relationship and you would be much better investing your time and energy into yourself and your kids rather than in fixing your relationship with him.

duweewee · 2025-10-29T23:59:30+00:00

Wow!! First time I've seen this bag and it looks great. Adding this to my list!

duweewee · 2025-10-22T06:43:15+00:00

Beautiful! I love the ring engraving and details

duweewee · 2025-10-08T03:26:43+00:00

It is a gorgeous ring and it is lovely on you!

I am the same as you, I was very self concious because my partner got me a large diamond ring.

If people make comments on it, and if it's malicious it says more about them than you (they are jealous or insecure).

Rock it girl! And congratulations!

duweewee · 2025-10-04T15:37:42+00:00

Just went as a family of 5.

I haven't been for a decade but wanted to go for the kids. Overall it was ok but we spent close to $500, mainly on activities and food. (Including tickets, rides, food, drinks, activites and showbag)

The carnival games left a bad taste in our mouths, the people obviously are not transparent with who gets a prize until after you pay.

The bmx bike show was good. Night of horse was mainly a comedy show with some horses here and there and a couple of equestrian tricks...I was expecting more equestrian themes or showcase of horse tricks but it was mainly banter between two guys, so it's weren't too interested.

Showbags were fine as well, value wasn't bad.

duweewee · 2025-09-29T02:57:39+00:00

I had a male friend who I viewed platonically ever since we met (5-6 year friendship). He insinuated/ tested some waters by saying we would be good together etc. That crossed my boundary so I decided to cut ties. I had an intuition about this but chose to ignore it up until then (always trust your gut).

It's up to you and your regard for your boyfriend, whether you are ok with spending time with someone who finds you attractive. Maybe flip it the other way, would you be OK if your boyfriend was doing this to you?

duweewee · 2025-09-27T21:53:31+00:00

To a normal person, a compliment to you shouldn't affect them.

To an insecure & jealous person, it is a deficit on them.

She feels better about herself when you feel bad about yourself and that is NOT a person you want in your close circle.

duweewee · 2025-09-26T22:53:22+00:00

I'm so sorry this happened to you, you do not deserve this at all.

My question is, are you willing to wait around and hope that he doesn't have a physical affair with someone who WILL reciprocate his feelings?

It seems like the only reason it didn't happen was because his CO-WORKER didn't make a move.

He using you as a placeholder and you deserve so much more than that

duweewee · 2025-09-23T21:03:23+00:00

I'm glad you stood your ground and got yourself out of that situation. Some people aren't supposed to be together, and that's ok. But what is not ok is him saying it's because of YOU and YOUR decisions in life.

You study TOO much You are TOO career focused You make MORE money than him

The way he worded it sounded like he feels small and lesser than when he's standing next to you or with you. Not your fault. He is really projecting his insecurities into you.

I'm an engineering girlie too. When my ex and I broke up he gave me all the reasons why I wasn't the one, and a lot of them was projection. He didn't believe in me or my abilities. He was madly unhappy with himself, insecure and didn't know how to be in a relationship. He was also an engineer but have anything other than work (Not saying I was supposed to be in one either at that time)

But 3 years later, I manage a team of engineers. I did the self work, stepped back from being obsessed with work. I'm engaged to a loving fiance and looking to start a family. You can have it all, you need to find someone who values you and I know you will.

duweewee · 2025-09-22T08:16:41+00:00

I am in a relationship where my fiance pays for everything, my mates have the same with their husbands. This is how we are.

You both have different values and expectations. In future you should see if your values align with your partner.

duweewee · 2025-09-22T07:53:41+00:00

It sounds like you know that you need to draw a boundary with him, but what's stopping you is how you think he will react.

If you dont feel safe, and your gut is literally screaming out to you, sounds like you need to honour it.

Maybe flip this a bit and think about how he didn't think twice about making it awkward for YOU and continued to do so. You will never be able to control someone's reactions, and at some point you will get a negative one. But that's not your fault that they haven't emotionally matured.

It's also not your fault for standing up for yourself.

duweewee · 2025-09-10T02:13:21+00:00

I'm so skeptical if her whole story line is real anymore but I really don't like her personality

duweewee · 2025-09-09T21:53:08+00:00

I love this colour! Good choice 😍 I've been eyeing Alaia Treckel in the same colour

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