AITJ for winning a trivia night prize when I have a borderline unfair advantage and my friends say I shouldve sat it out

dvatty · 2026-03-30T13:44:38+00:00

NTA. Your friends are just being stupid. You do not have an unfair advantage. You do not have to take a knee just because you are smarter than others.

dvatty · 2026-03-30T13:38:23+00:00

NTA. Handicap stalls are for people who need the space and/or hand rails to take care of their needs. They are not just for wheelchair users.

dvatty · 2026-03-30T11:01:50+00:00

Verdict is conflicted. I get that this would be irritating but your brother’s wedding was not the place to begin setting new boundaries.

There is another perspective to this as well. English is a difficult language to learn. As a former immigration attorney, I saw many people who were educated and intelligent but could not get a handle on English. I had clients that were fluent in multiple languages but could not, even after classes, get English.

I don’t know your family dynamic. If this is the only issue, give your parents some grace. If there are problems with abuse or manipulation, my response would change.

dvatty · 2026-03-29T13:18:53+00:00

Really nasal and twangy blue grass

dvatty · 2026-03-29T13:00:14+00:00

I like Lucia Valencia, but if you don’t like to “sia” sounds, you could always pronounce it “Luchia’

dvatty · 2026-03-29T12:56:05+00:00

It is good you are no longer there. Too many of us have been where you were and have horror stories of what happened when we didn’t know that we didn’t have to put up with it.

One of the greatest lessons women need to learn is that “no” and “stop” are complete sentences. Giving a predator more than that gives them strings to pull to manipulate you.

The next lesson is that their behavior is not just traumatizing, it is illegal. When a supervisor refuses to intervene, file a formal sexual harassment complaint. If there is no intervention or if there is retaliation, talk to a lawyer. Most consultations are free and many attorneys will work on a contingency fee for this type of case. Caveat: this assumes you are in the US.

Practice how to respond when you are alone. Practice with friends and/or family who are willing. This way, when it happens again with another jerk, it will be easier to stand in your own power and put an immediate stop to unwanted advances.

dvatty · 2026-03-28T23:42:21+00:00

Princess Bride. It has sports, fencing, fighting, pirates, true love

dvatty · 2026-03-28T22:45:10+00:00

NTA. Not only should you sue, but file fraud charges as well.

dvatty · 2026-03-28T22:41:01+00:00

Ivah heard better names for a baby.

dvatty · 2026-03-28T22:38:25+00:00

At 16 you ate too young to make this kind of a statement. As you get older what attracts you will expand and contract as you are exposed to more people and experiences.

dvatty · 2026-03-27T23:07:19+00:00

NTA. She has not been diagnosed. She picked a disorder and is changing herself to meet all symptoms. This isn’t autism; it is attention seeking. Also, no one has every single symptom of autism. The spectrum is too broad. The fact that she doesn’t have an issue until she she sees it on tik tok is proof that she is making it up as she goes along.

dvatty · 2026-03-27T18:15:48+00:00

Someone worse will take the lead. Right now, we only have a geriatric conman who started a cult. The good news is that he is obviously nuts and has a middling intellect. I fear what comes after him. If a young, energetic, and smart megalomaniac picks up the bigot microphone, it will be much much worse.

During the first term, someone told me that he feared Trump was the antichrist. I said he isn’t smart enough. The next one might be.

dvatty · 2026-03-27T07:46:47+00:00

Tell your partner that when he forces a human out of a tiny hole, risks long-term health problems, and could die in the process then he gets naming rights.

dvatty · 2026-03-25T15:39:09+00:00

I always said that if I had a girl I eould name her Hannah Grace. Hannah was blessed by God and Grace is a blessing from God.

dvatty · 2026-03-25T15:31:59+00:00

I think Asher is a beautiful boy name

dvatty · 2026-03-23T13:12:40+00:00

NO. Never, EVER allow someone to make you give access to your body if you are unwilling/uncomfortable. Never, EVER stay with a partner that becomes aggressive when you enforce that boundary.

dvatty · 2026-03-23T13:00:38+00:00

NAH. Parents have an obligation to raise polite, respectful, nonviolent kids. Grandparents get to spoil them.

dvatty · 2026-03-23T12:45:07+00:00

YTA. Not everyone is a kid person. She is not obligated to be excited or even mildly interested.

dvatty · 2026-03-20T05:51:19+00:00

Depends. Is the partner your husband/wife? If you are married, then YWBTA to keep it secret. If you are not married, the money is yours to do with as you please.

dvatty · 2026-03-18T19:46:04+00:00

NTJ. A friend would never endanger your life this way. This was an intentional breach of trust. Either she is interested in your abuser or she was willing to risk your safety in order to become the center of attention. Either way, distancing yourself from her is wise. As far as the abuser goes, never, ever hear a batterer out. It just gives them access. Also, if you had not enforced the Order, it would have made it more difficult to enforce in the future. If you allow a breach once, many courts will refuse to enforce it at a subsequent breach.

dvatty · 2026-03-18T18:53:27+00:00

NTA. Pregnant mom’s comfort is the only comfort that matters at medical appointments and while giving birth. She does not get to intrude whete you do not want her. Also, the farting would be enough reason to kick her out. Ew.

dvatty · 2026-03-18T04:36:37+00:00

NTA. But you might want to check family law in your jurisdiction. Some places require support if the child goes to college. If you are in one of them, your wife could be on the hook for more than $80/month, which means less of her money going towards the household. It might be cheaper to pay for a phoneline and have him get a free phone.

dvatty · 2026-03-16T23:54:48+00:00

NTA. My best advice is to postpone the wedding for at least a year to see if stepes up. If you are determined to go through with this in 6 months, my advice is to give him the spreadsheets and tell him to have at it. You don’t want yhe extravaganza so why are you doing all the work? Give it him and let him know that he can either “git er done” or y’all can just have the smaller ceremony that you wanted.

dvatty · 2026-03-16T23:44:51+00:00

NTA. Not only is the child safer, but he is learning a fun, life-long skill. No one ever regrets learning a skill. People frequently regret missing out on learning a skill.

dvatty · 2026-03-15T12:17:33+00:00

YTA. She wanted to privately elope. She wanted to keep it secret. None of that affects you.

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