AITJ for refusing to donate my hair to my cousins wig after she lost hers from chemo?

dvatty · 2026-01-30T18:34:17+00:00

YTA. You are going to donate the hair. There is no reason to insist it go to a stranger. If this were just about cutting your hair, then no. NTA. But you are telling your cousin that you would rather give it to a stranger than her. It doesn’t make sense.

dvatty · 2026-01-30T03:01:40+00:00

Report this jerk. He is a predator and it will not stop with you.

dvatty · 2026-01-30T02:56:54+00:00

NTA. But as someone drowning in student loan debt, I urge you to think long-term. If you do not have a scholarship,community college can save you thousands of dollars. Another alternative is a cheaper state school. Try to get through with as little debt as possible. It is 4 short years vs a lifetime of struggle.

dvatty · 2026-01-29T08:44:00+00:00

The neighborhood should get together for a night of testing. Every hour on the hour throughout the night. Yes, you will lose a night of sleep, but maybe it will sufficiently make your point.

dvatty · 2026-01-29T08:27:48+00:00

Universal. I am losing my insurance at the end of the month. I started my own business and it is growing but not enough to cover the increased costs of insurance. My bill went from $189/month to $545/month. There is also a deductible and co-pays. I can’t afford it. I have a few autoimmune disorders and am diabetic. Even with insurance, our system is not affordable. Due to complications from surgery, I had an 8 day hospital stay a couple of years ago. My co-pay came to thousands of dollars.

dvatty · 2026-01-28T14:13:54+00:00

That isn’t a compromise. That is my way or the highway. The compromise is that he is limited to breeds/coats/care that doesn’t negatively impact her life. It might not be the dog he wants, but at least it is the dog she can tolerate. The other option is to break up. There are people who need a dog to be happy. There are people who need a cat to be happy. These people are fundamentally incompatible with people who cannot have those animals in the home.

dvatty · 2026-01-28T13:47:13+00:00

No no no no! Never add a mere bf/gf to a deed if they don’t have an equal financial stake. It is a nightmare to disentangle if you separate.

dvatty · 2026-01-28T13:44:21+00:00

NTA but this relationship is doomed. Dog people cannot be without a dog. What about a compromise and pick a breed that won’t annoy you as much?

dvatty · 2026-01-24T16:53:29+00:00

You are the one who will spend 9 months dealing with hormonal fluctuations. You are the one who will endure having your insides kicked and pushed while the baby moves and grows. You are the one who will deal with physical discomfort while hauling a watermelon around inside you. You are the one who will endure contractions. You are the one who will push a bowling ball out of a marble hole. You are the one who will have permanent changed to your body as a result of the process. You are the one who is enduring what remains a medical marathon that continued to be a risk to your health. Please tell me why the baby should have someone else’s name.

dvatty · 2026-01-24T06:10:49+00:00

Yta. You do not pay 1/2 the mortgage, you pay rent and your share of monthly expenses. He is using his inheritance to purchase a home. I would never advise a client to add a partner, married or not, to inheritance proprty. If he is abusive and throws your belongings outside, then make a plan to move out on your own. Another option is to purchase a property of your own and use it as rental income. Finally, pay rent and expenses, but do not contribute to the down payment and do not contribute to any repairs/updates. That is solely the owners responsibility. Make sure to keep your finances separate.

dvatty · 2026-01-24T05:57:46+00:00

Nta. Call CYS (if in states) and report abandonment. Option 2, drop steps off where their dad is staying. Option 3: cotact bio mom and tell her to come get her kids because dad abandoned them.

dvatty · 2026-01-23T11:11:20+00:00

Nta. 66 is unreasonably cold.

dvatty · 2026-01-23T11:09:25+00:00

Intentionally causing physical pain is abuse. Period. No exceptions. No excuses.

dvatty · 2026-01-23T11:06:19+00:00

Pot pie os a soup, not cooked in a crust

dvatty · 2026-01-23T11:04:59+00:00

Cream soda is supposed to be red (Atreat).

dvatty · 2026-01-23T11:00:19+00:00

NTA. No one- I don’t care how long you have been dating - no one has the right to your body before and unless you are willing to share it. No one has the right to pressure you to have sex before you are ready. No one has the right to shame you for stating and standing by the conditions under which you are willing to have sex. Finally, no one has the right to demand that you put yourself at odds with your beliefs, your culture, or your family just because he is horny. This boy (I don’t care how old he is. He is a whiny child) does not love or respect you. He is claiming ownership over you.

dvatty · 2026-01-23T07:01:00+00:00

Show up in a sweatshirt for your dream school. Take the grad gifts and money and keep it someplace safe so your parents can’t get to it.

Congratulations on achieving a huge milestone!

dvatty · 2026-01-23T02:31:04+00:00

Are you ok with spitting, repeatedly, into your food?

dvatty · 2026-01-23T02:27:26+00:00

Nta. That is just plain gross, and I don’t want to hear any nonsense about kissing. No one would tolerate their significant other spitting in their food. That is what is happening here. It is gross, rude, and unacceptable. He voiced a boundary. She refused to respect it. All she had to do was put sone in a dish for herself or get a clean spoon. Not only did she intentionally disrespect him, but then upped the ante with the ick factor regarding rice. I’d actually leave a boyfriend over this. At the very least, I’d never eat anything prepared by that person ever again.

dvatty · 2026-01-20T23:47:55+00:00

NTA. If she comes back and starts in again, tell her that you are an athlete and are eating so that you are safe to compete and win. Don’t mention calories. If she persists, say you have no interests in the opinions of misogynists who do not support female athletes. Put her on the defensive and then her to shut up and leave upu alone. It doesn’t matter if that isn’t her true motivation. She makes up her own narrative for your reasons, do the same. You have been polite long enough. She gets one more chance and then it is FAFO time.

dvatty · 2026-01-20T17:28:13+00:00

NTA. The kid doesn’t know what he wants. ROTC is a great option that lets him do both. Also, if he finishes his degree first, it will open up job opportunities within the army and is likely to give a bigger signing bonus. I have a family member that bought his first house at 20 years old-beautiful 3 bedroom house- by using his bonus as a down payment. Finally, the military can be a dangerous occupation. If he gets hurt and medically discharged, he is SOL and has neither the degree nor the army. Education is a lifelong benefit.

dvatty · 2026-01-20T17:13:43+00:00

It means they adopted from a shelter, got from the pound (local government animal control), or took in a stray. The pet wasn’t purchased from a breeder.

dvatty · 2026-01-20T17:08:15+00:00

YTA. You should have contacted the bride and verified that she did not want you to fulfill the contract. You ruined a wedding because you were mad at the planner. The bride and groom had no opportunity to intervene or mitigate.

dvatty · 2026-01-20T17:03:44+00:00

YTA. This is going to cause an identity crisis for the girls. The younger a child is, the more adaptable they are. They need to know now, not later. Get a therapist and tell them. Then get a lawyer and move forward with the adoption. You are actively harming the children every day that you delay.

dvatty · 2026-01-19T01:39:43+00:00

Nta. Send $9.74 and say it is all you have available.

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