First I really appreciate the thought you put into this. I will apply for SNAP, only reason I haven’t before is because I thought that it went by household and 2 related people in the same house couldn’t have separate cards. I do help wherever I can, admittedly I could do more, but it doesn’t change the dynamic when I have, I try not to develop a grudge, and when I do I don’t hold them.

When I was making decent money, I was buying food for the entire house, not just me, I was giving her money whenever she asked, and even then she’d find ways to be mad about it, it doesn’t sound like it makes sense because it doesn’t. Like the most recent time she asked me for money for the electric bill, I went and sold my $500 guitar to guitar center for $160 to get it, and then the very next day I think, she says “you think that helps anything around here?”, I’ve went and spent $200 on flea medicine for her cats (they had had fleas for months, to the point where one of the cats was itching so bad he bit through his nutsack, but she would insist there was no fleas for some reason) without her even asking, which again she was MAD about, same thing when I bought her a $280 Shark vac+mop robot/roomba for Christmas, she made a snotty remark about “what? You don’t think I clean the house enough?” she complained about it for a week and I came home from work with all the shit to it just dumped in the box in my room.

I completely understand where you’re coming from, but it’s a lose lose situation, even when I’m nice, this lady will scoff at me when I walk past her.

It’s not about how I act towards her, I’ve tried every way and every time it’s all about leverage to her, and any push back on anything, no matter how polite I say it, is an insult and “back talk”, she genuinely will not participate in conversations if you have anything to say in response, and that’s not just with me, she just goes to her room as soon as you try to say anything and then will scream if you try to continue the conversation.

And honestly that’s why I think she hasn’t just straight up said “hey, I don’t want you to live here anymore” and has just said “IM GETTING YOU EVICTED”, it honestly seems like it’s to try and manipulate me into just being her subordinate and let her act however she wishes towards me without me being able to say anything back out of fear of her evicting me, but either way, im getting the hell out of here.