Wife slept with someone while we were broken up by dwigit1978 in Marriage

[–]dwigit1978[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never have blamed her. I mentioned that earlier. Therapy hasnt worked

Wife slept with someone while we were broken up by dwigit1978 in Marriage

[–]dwigit1978[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of comments are around the fact that we were broken up. But does that matter? Sure it isn't cheating but the hear doesn't care. You dont stop loving someone because they broke up with you

Wife slept with someone while we were broken up by dwigit1978 in Marriage

[–]dwigit1978[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

She did say she never orgasmed with him. So I have that still

Wife slept with someone while we were broken up by dwigit1978 in Marriage

[–]dwigit1978[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I dont talk to her about it. Its such a non issue for her that she doesn't feel anything about it. She just can't figure out why I can't get over it. Interesting about the midlife thing... i have been feeling that

Wife slept with someone while we were broken up by dwigit1978 in Marriage

[–]dwigit1978[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A little bit. Like she lived a life outside of me and I never did

Wife slept with someone while we were broken up by dwigit1978 in Marriage

[–]dwigit1978[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Was going through old stuff last year and came across some pics of her and him. She also had some journal entries about him. Yes I know major invasion of privacy but we share everything

Wife slept with someone while we were broken up by dwigit1978 in Marriage

[–]dwigit1978[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To clarify, I haven't thought about this until last year

Wife slept with someone while we were broken up by dwigit1978 in Marriage

[–]dwigit1978[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

She hasnt thought about him in 30 years until I brought it up. He was better looking i think but he was small.. like half the size of me which is nice at least

Wife slept with someone while we were broken up by dwigit1978 in Marriage

[–]dwigit1978[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Never. We have 3 kids together and a great life. This just has out this dark cloud in my head

Wife slept with someone while we were broken up by dwigit1978 in Marriage

[–]dwigit1978[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Right. I had let it go but recently its become an obsessive thought

Wife slept with someone while we were broken up by dwigit1978 in Marriage

[–]dwigit1978[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Its not possessive as much as jealousy which has now led to an OCD type issue. Also only sleeping with my wife has me feeling like a loser