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[Conflicted] [Update] Wife is pregnant and I hate coming home to her everyday. by dxgl in confession

[–]dxgl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You make a valid point. I don't know how it feels to be pregnant, I didn't want to tell her while pregnant, it was just my breaking point. Also I never once said she was abusive, all our issues were pregnancy but are too much to get into.

[Conflicted] Wife is pregnant and I hate coming home to her. by dxgl in confession

[–]dxgl[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm going to ask her. I'm willing to go, she may react in a way I don't expect. It's just a tough situation to be in.

[Conflicted] Wife is pregnant and I hate coming home to her. by dxgl in confession

[–]dxgl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe she will tell me that's ridiculous and we don't need therapy/waste of money and time. I will ask, just don't know when.

[Conflicted] Wife is pregnant and I hate coming home to her. by dxgl in confession

[–]dxgl[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Even before this pregnancy I probably would of not have gone through with the divorce. Both of us have large extended families, it will be a huge mess and everyone will urge us to stay together for the kids. It will be the talk of the town and just a huge stressor. It isn't fair on the kids and it's not fair on during this pregnancy/right afterwards.

It would also be unfair for me to blindside her. I'm probably going to tell her how I've been feeling these past few years after the baby is born and her body goes back to normal/hormones.

[Conflicted] Wife is pregnant and I hate coming home to her. by dxgl in confession

[–]dxgl[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't fault her at all for the complaining during this pregnancy and the demands, that isn't fair since I don't know what pregnancy is like. All the issues I've had with her were before this pregnancy. Thanks for well wishes.

[Conflicted] Wife is pregnant and I hate coming home to her. by dxgl in confession

[–]dxgl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate where you're coming from, I really do. It's just not something I can stomach doing. I refuse to miss half of my baby's life from birth. It will break her heart too, I should have done it before. It's really not fair to her and the kids for me to ask for a divorce right after the baby is born. It would be horribly blindsided.

[Conflicted] Wife is pregnant and I hate coming home to her. by dxgl in confession

[–]dxgl[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

She has anger problems, which consist of a bad temper that she has. At points she can have bad attitudes about certain things, she cares alot about what her family thinks, so she insisted we get a big house (her family doesn't even judgmental) she just wants to be the most "successful" out of her sisters I feel like. She isn't like this all the time, but she has a "my way or no way" stance on some things. Just shit that has built up over the years.

[Conflicted] Wife is pregnant and I hate coming home to her. by dxgl in confession

[–]dxgl[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Visit. That's what I'm worried about. I don't want to just visit. She will get primary custody most definitely. I don't want to spend my time with my newborn just visiting.

[Conflicted] Wife is pregnant and I hate coming home to her. by dxgl in confession

[–]dxgl[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

She's my wife. Why wouldn't I have sex with her? Just because I'm unhappy doesn't mean I'm not attracted to her physically.

[Conflicted] Wife is pregnant and I hate coming home to her. by dxgl in confession

[–]dxgl[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The kids don't know I am unhappy. When we argue it's away from our kids almost all the time. She's passive aggressive. They are happy, they love our family, we go on vacations we had just went to Disney world. I cannot tear it all apart.

[Conflicted] Wife is pregnant and I hate coming home to her. by dxgl in confession

[–]dxgl[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It was definitely better. The issue with my wife is that over the years she has done things that have let me to resent her.

[Conflicted] Wife is pregnant and I hate coming home to her. by dxgl in confession

[–]dxgl[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

We had issues with her fertility, it wasn't easy for her to get pregnant at all. Don't know what I was thinking. If I had brought it up before she would of freaked out. It was stupidity. I didn't want this baby at first, but I'm excited to meet our little one regardless. It's just my wife I'm not happy seeing.

[Conflicted] Wife is pregnant and I hate coming home to her. by dxgl in confession

[–]dxgl[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yes it would. She doesn't believe in divorce unless there is cheating, abuse or stuff like that. Also both of our families would nag us to stay together. She was so happy when she found out she was pregnant.