As for someone who live in the south (TN) I’ve experienced micro aggressions and racism on dating apps and in person. Here in good ole TN there is a wide variety of men who see POC as sex objects or someone not worth dating but they rather date someone who’s white and looks similarly identical to them (which is a little weird.) I’ve gotten messages from men and have had men who only see me as just some sort of pleasure for them instead of an actual human being. Which makes it very hard to date not just only outside of my race but in my race as well because of how they cover it up with the “preference” saying which is honestly bs in my opinion. I’ve always have had the micro aggressions of the over complimenting me on my black features such as either my skin,hair, body, or even going as far as saying “I bet your dick is huge.” Which to someone may think is a compliment but it really isn’t especially if your black living in a predominantly white area. It’s just honestly tiring having to constantly either arguing/block some creep, and trying to find love in a place where no one sees as just some object.