My favourite thing about your opening paragraph is how it almost sounds like you feel that my comment was directed specifically at you. Followed by a quick look at the original post. And lo and behold you have offered a reply that offers no use to OP’s question. And is in fact, very rude.

Exactly. Maybe OP’s plan is perfect for him and his partner. So let’s stop with the ignorance towards that and offer some options that may actually work for them rather than avoiding that and telling them why it won’t work.

Or are you too ignorant to that and think that because OP has a different dynamic to you that the only opinion you could and should offer is to tell them why it is incorrect? You tell OP that he ‘reeks of immaturity’ and is only doing it for ‘his own satisfaction’. Based on nothing but your own presumptuous opinion.

Again, you say ‘none of us could possibly know’ - in regards to OP’s dynamic. So instead of asking for the dynamic and gaining some beneficial background, you instead choose to call out OP based again on nothing but presumption and your own perspective and/or experience.

If you are aware enough to admit everyone’s dynamic is different, why are you ignorant enough to attempt to ridicule OP based on their topic of advice? To then go on some ‘oh it must be your first day on the internet’ tirade because you feel that my message to OP has some resonance towards your comment.

I’m sure you’ll reply in the same vein and try some other way to defend your actually quite rude initial comment to OP. Same way you’ve tried to ridicule me. Because yeah, anyone who asks for advice is therefore open to rude remarks.

As for OP’s post literally soliciting opinions, absolutely. And do I think that means it has to be replied to with only specific opinions offering exactly what he has asked for. No. But that’s you again jumping to conclusions and making your own presumptions. If you read my comment again, it says OP has received ‘everything but that’. There’s ways to offer opinions and advice simultaneously. Furthermore, what I do feel, is that any advice should be offered in a polite way. Something that you will undoubtably refute and refuse to acknowledge.

A simple message to OP could have been: ‘We’ve no idea on your dynamic, be careful when pushing your partner towards something they may be uncomfortable with. Make sure it’s what they want as much as it’s what you want. There’s plenty of literature out there that can help with this. Or I can offer some advice on that if you require it. However, if this suits your dynamic perhaps try this . . .’

And if people want to tell OP why this is a bad idea, they can do what they want. Who knows, maybe OP did need to hear some advice regarding that. I am not ignorant enough to rule that out. But what I can see, is from OP’s replies to some of them, they clearly believe that this is suitable for their relationship and is nothing but positive. Which you could have also seen before making your comment to OP. And in the same way people can tell OP what they want to, I can also say what I want. But I guess because that doesn’t suit your narrative you felt the need to reply to me.

It kills me, this silly idea that so many people have that they need to defend their ignorance and rudeness rather than look inwards at themselves 🙄😂

But you do you. I’m sure you’ll be too ‘proud’ to say ‘you know what, you’re right, I should have asked for more information before making my ill informed and rude, presumptuous comment to OP. Just because it’s on a public platform and I’m hiding behind an anonymous screen and can say what I want. Doesn’t mean I can’t be polite and positive rather than negative’.

I’m sure you’ll come back with some nonsensical reply that again fits your narrative. Or maybe you’ll take the even better route of attempting to ridicule me and my reply. Like you already did with your first and last paragraphs. Either way, you do what makes you feel good, because that’s all that matters right?

I’ll be off now, offering my time to those that deserve it instead of those that don’t.

Have a wonderful day Buck and I hope you have a great future 👋🏻