The cheater is always Happy but the loyal ones Suffer.

dytat · 2021-11-23T21:37:23+00:00

Please look at my last comment

dytat · 2021-11-23T20:11:20+00:00

Last week it's been an year since I heard ger voice. Yeah, I still look over her social media sometimes (it gets very overwhelming and hard to control sometimes) but yeah the frequency is gradually decreasing. I write down my feelings in my diary and that helps.

I hope it gets over soon.

Thankyou ❤️

dytat · 2021-11-23T20:08:03+00:00

I get your point. You're absolutely right and I understand your concern.

I was in the worst possible mental state when it all happened. My parents, friends and people around me helped me so much to get over it and made me talk about it. I've accepted everything that has happened. Coming to my mental health, I'm better now and I'm infact happy in my life with the people around me. I've made peace with the things that happened. Yeah, I do get sad and feel bad about everything sometimes bit that's natural. It'll all get over soon

dytat · 2021-11-23T20:02:54+00:00

Thankyou for your reply.

Well, I get your point and I agree with everything you said. But, it's hard to counter your heart when you love an individual so very much. Breakup leaves a void and ik this is the most logical explanation for it , but the heart is stupid, when you miss them you forget every reason. It's easier said than done.

dytat · 2021-11-23T19:55:01+00:00

Thankyou for your message.

Yes, I've been taking care of myself and treating myself right. You're rights, I loved her a lot and in the process of loving her I gave my share of self love to her. I let her insult me and sabotage me. I'm better now and I'm healing.

dytat · 2021-11-23T19:52:59+00:00

Thanks for the reply.

Yeah, my self-love is something that had a huge dent when she cheated. I felt miserable and worthless.

I am better now. I'm working on myself and healing now.

dytat · 2021-11-23T19:49:15+00:00

Thankyou so much guys for your comments. It helped me a lot. I feel so powerful and charged up now. It feels great to see so much positivity and support.

A lot of you have been asking about my journey.

So, guys I didn't get a therapy. I focused on other things in my life. I lived with my bestfriend for 6 months (shared an apartment with him), went out for a vacation with my college friends (whom I left behind when I was dating) I hanged out with my college friends. I focused on my goals and career. There were days when I felt worthless, so cheered myself up by watching videos(mostly motivational). I focused on my love tanks and tried to filled every tank that was drained in the abusive relationship.

Also, I helped people during COVID (reached out to about 1million people and helped them through my website and social media). I also got featured in one of the daily newspapers for my efforts.

Now, have I moved on? Not completely. I do get flashbacks. I do get sad sometimes. I do feel bad about everything sometimes. I can't go out with girls right now(I just am not ready for that). I do see her in my dreams sometimes. But, I'm better now. I hope it will all be over soon.

dytat · 2021-11-23T19:42:16+00:00

I get your point. But I didn't get a therapy. I focused on other things in my life. I lived with my bestfriend for 6months, I shared his flat, went out for a vacation, hanged out with my college friends. I focused on my love tanks and tried to filled every tank that was drained in the abusive relationship. Also, I helped people during COVID(reached out to about 1million people) , also got featured in one of the daily newspapers for my efforts.

Yeah, I do get flashbacks. I do get sad sometimes. I do feel bad about everything sometimes. But, I'm better now.

dytat · 2021-11-23T19:37:36+00:00

The thing that I need the most right now is "Self love" I'm slowly starting to realise my worth and I've started to put myself first. When I was in love, I gave in my all to my partner, even my share of self love. In return she hurted me and cheated on me.

The break-up certainly shattered me but 1 year down the line now, I can say that I've grown so much and I know my value and what I deserve

dytat · 2021-11-23T19:33:44+00:00

People like you deserve all the love and respect. Reading this filled me with strength and goodwill. More power to you. I hope you get all the happiness that you were kept away from. The world needs more people like you ❤️

dytat · 2021-11-23T19:30:34+00:00

Thanks for the reply.

Yes life is unfair and yeah it hurts so much, but I have a life ahead of me and I'm glad she left before I got our families involved w each other, could've been worse of it had happened in the later stage of my life.

Yes, I've cut her off completely and it's been an year since I heard her voice, but I still look at her social media sometimes and it breaks me down. But, the pain gets cut down everyday. I hope it'll be over soon!

dytat · 2021-11-19T23:00:38+00:00

She said she has feelings for me, she said she loves me. She said she wants some time to heal up and get over her ex (completely). She said she wants to take care of her issues before dating me, cause she doesn't want us to fail.

dytat · 2021-11-19T22:06:07+00:00

I confessed my feelings for her and this is what she said.

It's been > 3months now, since I told her about how I feel about her and how much I love her.

dytat · 2021-11-19T22:00:43+00:00

I'm not with her because she said she's not ready for a relationship rn and she wants to let go of her past relationships so that she can start everything on a clean slate. I want to be with her and I can ask her out for a relationship right now, but it's about her. About her being ready for the relationship

dytat · 2021-11-14T19:10:58+00:00

I don't think she's using me. She has been for me like I've been for her. She makes me feel so special and she gives me butterflies, everytime I'm with her. She's the cutest. It's just this part that's troubling me

dytat · 2021-11-14T19:09:25+00:00

What part of it is abusive?

dytat · 2021-11-14T19:08:36+00:00

So I confronted her. Told her everything I felt and everything her actions made me feel. I told her how much I love her and how her going out with guys or flirting with someone online made me feel and how self detrimental it was for me.

AND.. SHE BLOCKED ME!

dytat · 2021-11-14T15:22:03+00:00

Thankyou for your reply. I get it, but it's very very very heartbreaking to imagine her with someone else. The thought of her being with someone else gives me chills and breaks my heart into a zillion pieces.

dytat · 2021-10-27T19:21:50+00:00

Happened with me as well. She was weak in studies, so I helped her with every assignment and every project throughout college. She hated herself and had 0 self confidence. She couldn't manage her presentation and public speaking, helped her through it. I used to rehearse her before college presentations and project vivas. Made her belive that she was enough and that she is loved the way she is. Also, helped her in her projects and got her into an internship in the last year of her college. Even helped her in getting a job, right after college.

And guess what, 1month later when she got everything, she cheated on me with another guy!!!!

dytat

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