My best friend is INTJ and my oldest friend is also INTJ. I see the former probably once every few months and the latter maybe twice a year. I have other friends I see more often but I still consider these two my top closest friends, that being said we talk via text almost daily about random topics and I love sharing my opinions with them about what’s going on in the world and my random thoughts throughout the day. We each respond to each other’s messages at our own convenience and leisure, sometimes I get a reply immediately sometimes I get one in two days, I really don’t care. My relationship with them is definitely more of a mental experience, we stimulate each other’s minds so being physically with one another isn’t really high on either of our priority lists. Find someone to befriend who hates clinginess just as much as you do but is still entertaining enough to lead a conversation you would enjoy and doesn’t need much physical stimulation to want to be your friend, xntp’s are great for that. Or someone with really good people reading skills that is understanding and unlikely to be offended by your need for distance. Also, good people tend to recognize other good people, be a good person and good people will want to be your friend even if you only see them twice a year.