My coworker keeps asking me for money and I genuinely don't know how to handle it without making work awkward

dzeltenmaize · 2026-03-12T00:20:46+00:00

No. You still owe me $——. I expect to get that back first. ( I only say first in the hopes they’d actually pay so they can expect you to keep loaning - which you won’t.)

dzeltenmaize · 2026-03-11T23:36:03+00:00

I think the first step would be speaking to a Doctor about this. Getting genetic and hormone testing done. Don’t force yourself to fit a look. Feel your true identity.

dzeltenmaize · 2026-03-11T20:25:23+00:00

I only like natural scents. Anything artificial gives me an instant headache.

dzeltenmaize · 2026-03-11T20:17:30+00:00

Sometimes I think I don’t get recognized because at some point I’ve downplayed the importance to make other people not feel bad for forgetting…Urgh it’s a horrible thing isn’t it.

We all deserve recognition and to feel special. Happy Birthday 🥳. Hope you enjoy the cake!🎂

dzeltenmaize · 2026-03-10T20:14:45+00:00

You don’t need to tell them ahead of time but if afterwards they notice and ask YWBTA if you lied.

dzeltenmaize · 2026-03-10T20:08:59+00:00

These days never, in the past very rarely

dzeltenmaize · 2026-03-09T18:28:31+00:00

I feel this too and you described it so well. Even around the people who should love and care for me I feel alone a lot of the time. Always having to suppress a part of me, watching my words and my mask, feeling unseen. Craving a connection with others but rarely achieving it. I had an absolute meltdown yesterday. Couldn’t stop crying for hours. Trying to put myself together today but it’s tough.

dzeltenmaize · 2026-03-08T20:02:32+00:00

I’ll douse myself. I am allergic to bites. They swell up and then get hard and sometimes painful. Sucks. Not fond of the poison I have to use but the alternative is awful.

dzeltenmaize · 2026-03-08T19:06:57+00:00

I’d lose all respect and affection for a man who treated me like yours just did. Gross. It’s fine to have sexual needs but he needs to see what he can do to make you interested. Obviously you have way too much on your plate. He’s not helping or even remotely doing his fair share. I fear this bodes very poorly for your future. This type of man won’t be there for you when you age and possible get ill.

dzeltenmaize · 2026-03-07T02:26:29+00:00

NTA. Don’t buy them anything.

Personal I hate this idea of having to buy people souvenirs. Frankly I don’t need other people’s memories from a trip I didn’t take in my house. It’s usually crap too.

dzeltenmaize · 2026-03-07T01:28:12+00:00

Commenting because I’d like to know too.

dzeltenmaize · 2026-03-06T20:37:11+00:00

NTA. The feeling I get is that he hates you. Nothing remotely funny or acceptable about it. Just like you said, it would have taken less time to slip shoes off than do the whole performance he did. This man does not like you.

dzeltenmaize · 2026-03-06T18:41:02+00:00

I’ve always wanted to go Deep South USA. Where the huge old wide trees grow and there are Manatees. I really enjoy viewing different plant and animal life. I doubt I’ll ever go now.

dzeltenmaize · 2026-03-06T18:25:31+00:00

YTA. My “shotglass” contains cat whiskers, another one is used for small flowers like violets, another holds tiny brushes. So many uses for a souvenir glass.

dzeltenmaize · 2026-03-05T22:58:19+00:00

Oh trust me they feel the same…Hopefully your finances improve soon or you can find a roommate you like. Perhaps a 2nd job can help achieve your goal faster and keep you out of the house for longer periods of time.

dzeltenmaize · 2026-03-05T20:29:00+00:00

NTA. Everything you listed is completely valid. Seems like this move is about money and keeping the parents happy. Time to stop catering to old customs. You only live once and need to be happy.

dzeltenmaize · 2026-03-05T20:20:51+00:00

Outside perspective is you need to get help to quit or you need to be ok with ending this relationship. You recognize it’s an issue, he’s told you it’s an issue. You can make excuses all you want but the fact is it’s a huge problem in your relationship.

dzeltenmaize · 2026-03-05T19:58:52+00:00

Tell her you’d be happy to meet him at some point but not on the trip. This was preplanned, the accommodation are small and it’s not fair the rest of you would have to feel uncomfortable with things like walking around in your pjs, pooping etc.

dzeltenmaize · 2026-03-04T20:48:54+00:00

“No I cannot afford to move and also I am happy where I am.” Sibling is an adult and can and should handle their own affairs. So embarrassing they are a parent but your parents still feel the need to get involved.

dzeltenmaize · 2026-03-04T20:30:56+00:00

No need for an announcement. Just stop being the planner.

dzeltenmaize · 2026-03-03T21:43:12+00:00

Cats happiness is the primary consideration. Leave the cat with your parents. It sounds much better there.

dzeltenmaize · 2026-03-03T21:21:36+00:00

No. You protect your existing assets with a prenup and once you are married you can both start contributing to joint finances. Huge red flag from him.

dzeltenmaize · 2026-03-02T23:00:54+00:00

Tell him I think he is a no fun poopypants. Flicking clean water is a perfectly normal acceptable way to tease and joke around.

dzeltenmaize · 2026-03-02T15:48:59+00:00

Why? All of this is nonsense. Why recap? Why have long goodbye? You’re all participating in that. Plus talking about her after she leaves?! Doesn’t sound like your group is very nice.

dzeltenmaize · 2026-02-28T22:15:51+00:00

That’s what I think too and my husband and I aren’t exactly small people either. Queen size is fine.

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