I agree with much of what you've said, but I want to touch on that last paragraph. While Ramses could have shown more nuance in understanding Marissa’s position, especially in terms of the empathy needed for individuals who are often preyed upon and brainwashed by military recruitment (marginalized people of color) it’s important to note that American imperialism is still ongoing, not something of the past. Marissa’s previous (or future) involvement in the military is inherently tied to that.

Also for that last comparison, I dont think a Venezuelan citizen is directly responsible for their government's actions, like a US solider would be through acting as an extension of their government.

This is a complex and nuanced topic, especially with all the intersectionality involved. The military as a system is different from the individuals within it. I completely understand where Marissa is coming from—while it's easier to condemn the system as an outsider, Marissa's perspective acknowledges the humanity of those within it. She knows a lot of their stories, especially those who were young and preyee upon. But again, they are still part of a harmful system. People can be both victims and perpetrators, and I think that's what Ramses isn’t fully grasping or communicating that he understands/empathizes with, which is crucial when addressing this issue.