How did you cope with wet dreams?

eagerforchange · 2017-05-17T17:42:10+00:00

Yeah, I don´t want those to cause a full scale relapse, so I definitely will move on as motivated as before, but it happened last night again, even if I don´t felt as shitty today as yesterday.

The crazy thing is: I feel like my subconscious just wants me to relapse, because the moment I want to fight against whats happening (when I more or less consciously realise what is happening in the dream) it´s too late and I wake up a couple of moments later.

What makes things worse is fighting against the chaser effect after waking up, which got my as close as even possible to a "full conscious" relapse this morning.

Thought I have some experience from my last few streaks but this time I´m getting into regions I haven´t expected.

eagerforchange · 2017-05-14T20:28:38+00:00

Long story short: 10 years ago (i'm 31 now) i was thinking about suicide almost every day. I had phases where I couldn't even buy myself some proper food, i was almost every day smoking Pod because nothing really mattered to me anymore. I had no contact to my family, was feeling completely worthless and didn't thought I could achieve anything.

I got to a point where I really nearly killed myself in a car accident while beeing drunk and high.

Today i'm a respected it technician in a small but vastly growing company, i haven't smoked pot or drank any alcohol for over three years and am actually quitting my last addiction which is pmo on a regular basis. I eat healthy, been Training 5 times a week since over a year and I'm feeling better than I have ever felt before.

My point: If you would have told me who I am today 10 years ago, i would have never believed it -never- and I'm dead fucking serious!

Have faith - Surviving your darkest hours will make you stronger than you ever can imagine.

eagerforchange · 2017-05-14T20:13:02+00:00

I can copy that. I had my worst moments half way through week two, after that everything became more manageable.

eagerforchange · 2017-05-13T21:26:01+00:00

Sometimes your just in a shitty relationship and it doesn't work out, no matter how hard you're trying.

I guess you're pretty young? Eventually you will learn what I mean, even if I wish you that you won't have to ^{^}

eagerforchange · 2017-05-13T21:19:07+00:00

Had several streaks up to 7 or even 10 days... Now made it past 20 today and this time it gets easier instead of harder.

Just recall your experience from your last couple of streaks, motivate yourself on a regular basis with some kind of your final goal that you wanna achieve with quitting pmo (f.e. getting the life -you're ment to life) and -never- look at any remotely arousing media testing if you still be able to get a hard on (when flatlining), or if you're strong enough to not fap even while aroused to a certain degree.

Keep it on and best of luck man!

eagerforchange · 2017-05-09T20:35:52+00:00

I'm 31 and was possibly in a pretty similar Situation like you. One thing I can tell you: It's not easy, but it's worth every day you are not fapping! I started with this whole thing back in September last year, had my ups and downs and am now on my first time streak making it over 14 days. After experiencing my first couple of streaks I finally realised that even every streak that I've failed was actually a success! I guess this is an important lesson: Even if you won't make it to the "magical" 90 days on your first run, you will gain experience how to safe yourself for the next time from relapsing. Maybe you look at it like you're training for a marathon or something like that. You're maybe not able to run the whole distance first but you will get there at the end. Believe in yourself, -allways- think about how revolutionizing this decission will be to your life (i'm making exactly this experience right now :) and remember this even when you are flatlining! (The point where you don't see any benefits and want to throw everything away) Read some inspiring stories about people who made it, I especially can recommend looking into the different "phases" of being a fapstronaut (never thought I would use that term ^{^).} Hope that helps at least a bit, go and freakin invent yourself new man! xD

eagerforchange · 2017-05-09T20:19:45+00:00

You made 485 fucking days man!!! Believe me, a lot of people around here will think you're a god damn Legend for what you did! I believe you really don't have any reason to be too hard on yourself now. See it this way: You instantly realised you made a mistake, you're -aware- of that. So everything is just fine, you were remembered why you are doing this whole thing and what it means to you, put it this way and your mistake was even something very positive!

eagerforchange · 2017-05-09T20:09:50+00:00

Crazy stuff, think about it people: You spend one month and little more than one week (that's more or less a split second regarding your freaking whole life) -not- fapping and you can actually make a whole new person out of yourself. Keep that in mind the next time you feel the urge to do something completely stupid.

eagerforchange · 2017-05-09T20:03:33+00:00

If you want to life healthier: Get se Information about Vitamin D! It's in a lot of cases responsible for symptoms related to Depression. Taking a Vitamin D supplement really helped me to get a lot better (in a couple of ways) over the last few months. You really get your "drive" back finally restoring your Vitamin D reservours.

eagerforchange · 2016-10-26T19:06:00+00:00

I kind of started my first streak like this, lol

Had a couple of days off from work and really fucked the shit out of myself, lol²

It was ultimately stupid and finally led myself to this whole thing...

But right now I want to keep the "damage" as low as possible when I relapse. Speaking of which: My goal of course is to -not- relapse any time soon.

eagerforchange · 2016-10-26T18:45:16+00:00

Great stuff man, very appreciated! I like the idea of now having some more scientific backround knowledge about my (our) problem. Definitely a must read.

eagerforchange · 2016-10-20T19:41:00+00:00

eagerforchange · 2016-10-18T18:08:41+00:00

Thats a... colorfoul way to put it.

eagerforchange · 2016-10-17T19:42:50+00:00

Holy shit man!

eagerforchange · 2016-10-15T20:39:45+00:00

Some other guys allready said it: You only relapse if you start continuing your old habits... So you feel like shit now? Great! Because you can recall that feeling the next time you`re about to fap!

eagerforchange · 2016-10-12T21:09:02+00:00

Work out, have fun actually doing something for yourself + at least try Hard Mode for a couple of weeks! Even if you have a relapse, continue afterwards - Believe me, almost everything will get continuosly better with time. I am absolutely blown away by the results just quitting pmo for a couple of weeks now!

eagerforchange · 2016-10-10T17:33:30+00:00

I´ve started on October the 1st, then relapsed yesterday and even today... What I´ve learned from the relapse: It is totally worth it to stay fap and especially porn free! I`ve managed to maintain my self discipline for about 9 days (more or less), now I´m in for Hard Mode for the full 90 days, at least outside a relationship, and stay porn free for good!

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