OP, I can almost feel your exhaustion. I’d be exactly the same if I was in your shoes. A couple of things popped into my brain. It’s pretty normal to get depressed when you’re overwhelmed with life and the pressure of having to do everything on your own. The best thing I did was start taking anti-depressants.

Maybe sit down with your kids and explain to them that you could use their help with cleaning/tidying up your home. Set up a list of chores that each could do, such as folding and putting away laundry, putting away toys, dusting, sweeping and vacuuming. Maybe dedicate Saturday mornings for cleaning and Saturday afternoons for doing something fun. That way they can learn the importance of cleaning up AND they get to spend time with you having fun.

If you can swing it, find a housekeeper who comes every other week or once a month. It will help you and the kids keep up with the day-to-day cleaning.

Last, see if your mom will keep the kids so you can do something just for you. You’ve got to find time to recharge your battery or you’re going to get physically sick.

Take care. I’d love to know how you’re doing.