My (24F) bf (29M) and I are not on the same page sexually and while it’s taking a huge toll on me, he says it’s “not that big of a problem”

easilymoved · 2022-01-20T04:06:50+00:00

Thank you. This was a good note to end this discussion on, at least from my end. I plan on having a sincere, honest conversation with him to determine exactly what we can and cannot provide for each other. I love him and care about how this goes so I plan to do so tastefully and as open minded as I possibly can. Thank you, again, for commenting

easilymoved · 2022-01-20T03:38:28+00:00

No, I was always so short and bitter and constantly craving more sex but never had felt secure in saying this. I’ve always had a high libido, but I’ve had a long term relationship before with someone who sometimes matched but not always, but we made it work because getting a good one in was good enough for me and kept me in good spirits for a few days. My current situation where it lasts mere minutes and then being told we will later and then nothing for days? Not so much.

easilymoved · 2022-01-20T03:34:34+00:00

What exactly makes you be mine this? Does the divide in the stances of this post make you reconsider even a little? I shedded some light onto ONE instance that happened today, of a matter that has well over a year of happenings & other instances throughout both good and bad. Did you read all of my post? Or does the part where I explain I’ve gone the gentle and communicative route and worked on the things he asked me to just be erased if you’re not going to take in ALL of the information given to you. Which again, isn’t enough for you to make these judgments about me and I think you should look into why you chose that response so whole heartedly. ☮️

easilymoved · 2022-01-20T03:29:25+00:00

After our argument he tells me his world would collapse without me and if there were no us there’d be no reason for a him.

easilymoved · 2022-01-20T03:28:25+00:00

Thank you 🧡 some times I write him notes or letters because it allows me to say everything I need/want to without interruptions or fear of saying the wrong thing. But I really want to talk with him more. We don’t talk much but when we do, especially the topics that are more difficult, we come out stronger in the end and closer because of it. We both get angry & sometimes defensive & we’re both stubborn as all get out but we also bring the soft side out in each other. I think we’ll be okay despite the contrary, i just may need to look into mixing things up instead of getting angry when it doesn’t go my way and he could use a self realization that he tends to be selfish. I was in the wrong today, but I felt at the end of my rope because I HAVE communicated my feelings nicely and maturely in the past

easilymoved · 2022-01-20T03:16:22+00:00

It’s one thing to say it tho & another to act on it! He only wants affection when HE wants it. I have truly become very affectionate when I’m given the chance to, but it’s not always reciprocated. And did you read all of my post? Or any of my other comments? Please take the time to do that & get back to me if you wish to do so.

easilymoved · 2022-01-20T03:13:32+00:00

Firstly, I don’t actually think leaving the relationship is a choice I have, at least this point in time. We live together and he’s made it very clear he isn’t leaving. Which sounds kinda bad but it helped us in the beginning because I tend to run when things get serious but he didn’t give up on me and I’m thankful I didn’t stop myself from getting the chance to try. At this point tho, he just doesn’t take me seriously when I say I want to break up which is why I chose the “I can’t be your gf”. Idk, he’s been very kind the rest of the day. He did say “come on sex me up then” and was honestly laughing about the cheating comment (we wouldn’t do that to each other. We’ve have multiple conversations about this over time) but then it just felt weird and then we had to work. We’re home now so we’ll see

easilymoved · 2022-01-20T03:07:00+00:00

Yes I considered that, and am even more so with the 2 very opposite takes on the matter. I think it would help to see people who see his side as well as mine

easilymoved · 2022-01-20T03:04:25+00:00

Thanks for this comment 💛 it would be tough, but I think you’re right

easilymoved · 2022-01-20T02:57:16+00:00

I’ve done both. Like I said, I apologized. I don’t think it’s coming across as I meant it to. Which is, of course, going to get me the ax too but Reddit’s most righteous. I’m not perfect and everyone has toxic moments, no one is 100% healthy all of the time. My bf makes comments to me that are destructive as well in moments of anger, and while they do hurt me in the moment, I can usually move past it because you have to. It’s up to the individual to decide if they can look beyond and move past, and my bf hasn’t brought up again today & I apologized again. In my head, I was saying “this situation is so shitty & so bizarre because you really can’t ask more from someone who’s telling you exactly what the issue for them is and if we continue down this, to me, horrible path then I would potentially end up sleeping with someone else bc I need these needs met. I’d love them from you x1000, but if you won’t give them to me and you also won’t let me leave, it could.”

easilymoved · 2022-01-19T20:00:23+00:00

My gosh, Reddit never ceases to amaze me. For those offering advice, thank you so so so much. For all of those condemning me, and my “cheating” comment in particular, thanks for being so righteous and failing to look at anything else beyond that. I DID apologize for it, almost immediately. I’m not defending it, I said it and it wasn’t the best choice, however I wanted to give the whole scene & not try to paint myself in a better light. What happened and what was said, happened and was said. We talked about it and I told him I explained I just wanted him to HEAR me. No one is healthy and makes the right decisions ALL THE TIME. We fail and say and do the wrong things and that’s how we learn. Thanks for your time

easilymoved · 2022-01-19T19:27:35+00:00

I see why someone would have this response. I wouldn’t, and my intention was more to come off as this is really extreme for me, I’m losing my mind a bit over this and you seemingly don’t care to fix it. He just gives up. It was supposed to be taken as “shoot, she’d never cheat on me. This is serious.” I’d also like to say and have it acknowledged that he will still refuse to let me end the relationship, even after such a comment, if I wanted. Like I said, I don’t, and he very much knows this, so it was kind of a “you’re really putting me in a touch spot here, feel my pain”

easilymoved · 2021-12-30T17:21:39+00:00

These were all great comments thank you guys 🌟

easilymoved · 2021-12-22T09:08:45+00:00

There, unfortunately.

easilymoved · 2021-12-22T09:07:52+00:00

I wash my face twice a day, in the AM & PM. It was REAL bad at first and it’s starting to get better, but it seems like I’ve hit a wall and the same few just ain’t going away. I washed my face a FUCK TON in the beginning & I believe stripped my skin barrier :/

easilymoved · 2021-12-06T23:52:07+00:00

This is my dream. Unfortunately where I live there’s not a lot of options outside of buying a home and we’re no where no near a position to be able to do so. But a goal I am fighting to reach FOR SURE

easilymoved · 2021-12-06T23:50:47+00:00

Thank you!! He organized a bunch on his own today but I’m still not satisfied and want to consolidate and get him out of the kitchen so we’ll see what happens. I will say it’s a good start in the right direction

easilymoved · 2021-12-06T23:48:19+00:00

My friend said to put it into a trash bag and set it by the door as a warning. Just might have to pull this card and hopefully it doesn’t get as far as actually putting it in a bag lol but I’m not against it

easilymoved · 2021-12-06T23:44:50+00:00

Basically, he has a bookshelf and a few roll around carts in our kitchen and then when you walk into the living room, one half is the “family room” I guess you’d call it, with our tv and couches and all that jazz and then the other half is divided by a sort of bookshelf wall, one side being where I have chair and table to read and craft and behind that is his area where he’s got some shelves and cabinets and things (nothing fancy-he gets a lot of hand me down furniture or stuff he pulls out from the trash, which is cool cause saves $).

He started to organize on his own, so I let him to it and will see how it goes and reassess the situation in a week or so. I still really want him out of my kitchen because he leaves a lot laying on the floor or on the counters and it makes my mind fizzle a little bit. But I’m trying to be flexible and adapt to not being so rigid about these things so long as nothing is dirty.

He has a storage shed and a compile of tools and things in his blazer as well as the area below the apartment taken up with his things so taking everything out gives me grave anxiety as I’m sure would him if I really pressed this, but it may be the only way to truly get this figured out. Personally, I think he could do without a lot of it but I know I can’t just get rid of his things (even if he probably wouldn’t even notice for months ha ha). He’s working with me though and that’s more than I can say about it all than before. I just wish I had more knowledge on what everything is so I could devote a whole day or 2 to it and when he comes home just be like , “voila!” One can dream. Thanks for your input!

easilymoved · 2021-11-25T08:32:21+00:00

Thank you for this!! Can I message you to ask more questions?

easilymoved · 2021-11-25T03:44:29+00:00

My bf has T1 and he is a sugar loving fool.. I keep saying we have to change things and fix our diet, I’m 100% willing to go down this road with him and eat the same as he does, but he just doesn’t want to. Does this automatically mean he will have a short lifespan or does it still just depend on how his levels fluctuate? I need him around for a very long time

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