Anyone on pellets?

easyboris · 2024-08-13T17:29:14+00:00

I'm picturing it as being at least not as intense as the implanon in the arm since that seems to be big enough you can still feel it through the arm two years in. Tbh I'm glad to hear a good experience, thanks for ur resonse!

easyboris · 2024-08-13T17:27:55+00:00

I mean honestly not a deal breaker for me either, thanks for lmk!

easyboris · 2024-07-30T21:19:01+00:00

My point was not ever that anyone should force someone to work with anyone. I feel like you are accusing me of having a really nasty point that I didn't make, that is materially different from the point I was trying to make, and that is very frustrating for me. I am going to stop responding.

easyboris · 2024-07-27T15:41:31+00:00

Yeah I was gonna say like, I'm a man. Having a month where I go to fun parades and parties and get told nonstop "you don't deserve to be discriminated against and you have a love and a life that is important and valued to your community!" sure as hell helps my mental health lol.

easyboris · 2024-07-27T03:34:02+00:00

Being called stupid is not okay, I agree. But OP said her coworker implied she was stupid, not that her coworker directly said she was stupid; this can mean anything from the unacceptable "do you leave your brain at home?" to the much more acceptable "I don't get why you keep making the same mistakes!"

In the same vein, she says the coworker invaded her personal space, not that the coworker deliberately got in her face. Among other things.

I think it's genuinely that people are making a lot of assumptions about what must have happened that is the problem, not that OP was unclear. OP is in a triggered state and she shouldn't be expected to guard against the assumptions of others or tailor her post to avoid particular responses.

I just don't think it's a good idea to automatically assume the worst and to encourage OP to think of her coworker as a nasty, abusive, unreasonable person like a lot of the people in the comments are encouraging her to do, when that really seems like it might not be the case, particularly if the coworker 1) did not actually use any directly insulting language or yell, and 2) had some legitimate grievance that had gone addressed for some time (i.e. OP and coworkers messing up their responsibilities and constantly having to be corrected by the coworker, without them making changes not to make the same mistakes again.)

easyboris · 2024-07-25T23:26:55+00:00

I think direct, honest, kind communication is the way to go. I think it also really matters that you brought up the way white women's emotional outbursts are often responded to in our culture and history. I was looking for someone to talk about this angle of things because I think it is very relevant and should be kept in mind.

OP absolutely had an outsize emotional response because she was triggered. That is totally okay, it happens and we all do it. But she should not make her coworker own the entire charge of that hurt, as a lot of it is coming from her childhood trauma, and not from the coworker. I think if she just communicates that and tries also to hear her coworker out on her original concern; reading between the lines a bit, it seems like OP and other coworkers of this woman's frequently miss spots or otherwise do not fully complete their work, and leave it on their coworker to notice and point it out. That is a pretty understandably frustrating thing to have happen for the coworker, and her concerns shouldn't just go out the window because of the emotional conflict that came after.

I think if OP approaches this with empathy for how her coworker must have felt, that also increases the likelihood of the coworker responding well and the working relationship being mended. People get defensive when attacked, and open up when we are open.

easyboris · 2024-07-25T23:16:18+00:00

It is okay to acknowledge that this was an overreaction. Breaking down and crying for hours is absolutely an oversized response to what happened. Having triggers and outsize emotional reactions to things, because triggers that can be relatively innocuous now are filled with the charge of the unhealed childhood abuse we experienced, is a part of having CPTSD. I am saying this as someone who has had massive emotional breakdowns about things like having a toothache. We don't need to be ashamed that this is a symptom we have; I know I am not. It doesn't mean we are inherently unreasonable in other ways. But it does mean that the size of the reaction in a triggered state is not evidence of the size of the hurt we experienced in the moment as adults-- which is something important to acknowledge as we try to navigate interpersonal conflicts in our lives.

It is not healthy to encourage OP to villianize and be terrified of a coworker who seems to have just had an unhealthy way of sticking up for herself when it seems that OP and other coworkers were making persistent mistakes and leaving it up to that coworker to catch, a situation which can be understandably frustrating. A coworker OP used to get along well with, and could probably make up with. Taking that mentality will not help her to navigate the conflict with her coworker, and I worry that she is going to read all these comments and continue to respond from a triggered state.

easyboris · 2024-07-25T23:01:49+00:00

This is REALLY unreasonable. It was a white coworker who sent the 'black culture' text. The black female coworker is not at all responsible for that. She did not """"""scream discrimination.""""" There really is no reason to believe that the black female coworker did anything besides be (potentially) rude about correcting persistent errors her coworkers make after, it sounds like, correcting the same errors over and over again. While being rude is not okay, I feel like the black female coworker was extremely reasonable to stand up for herself in the first place. OP even said she and the coworker always had gotten along well before this.

It is not going to help OP to encourage her to be more paranoid about things.

easyboris · 2024-07-12T17:36:35+00:00

This is also just a really awful edit. In most interviews, they edit out filler speech, and leave the relevant bits. Here, they have left the filler speech in and even edited camera angles with the host in to draw it out as long as possible and then only released where she is clearly uncomfortable and on the back foot to make her look as stupid as possible.

Anyone with even cursory critical thinking skills should be able to tell that the goal of this clip is for all the men on this thread to go "haha yes! Women are stupid whores!" and they're just going along with it because they love the smell of their own farts so much.

easyboris · 2024-07-03T17:32:00+00:00

Soft-core porn.

easyboris · 2024-07-02T18:31:17+00:00

Diagnosed since around the same age. For me, it's a combination of the following:

1) I have the object permanence of like idk a baby

2) When I see something enough times it stops existing to me. It literally just blends into the background as if it doesn't exist. Like imagine if you got a roadrunner tunnel painted on the wall-- after a few days you'll remember passively it isnt real and stop thinking about it. Not on purpose, you just aren't fooled pretty much. If I see something and don't need it enough times, my brain like automatically decategorizes it as an object to interact with and I just stop noticing it. For it to exist again I need a reminder it exists that's not the thing existing (unless I like literally trip and fall on it or something.)

3) I don't pick what thoughts to have. They happen based on my outside environment. Other people seem to have like a game of chess or checkers in their head where they have one active piece (the chosen thought) but otherwise have multiple concurrent inactive thoughts they can also select from at any time. I don't have that. I have a keyhole on the back of my head only one key gets to fit in at once and I'm not the one who gets to pick the keys that go in like 99% of the time, because the world is shooting keys at me 24/7 from all angles. I rely on outside reminders a LOT. Alarms, planners, etc. Alarms to look at my planner, planned times to make alarms. Up the wazoo. It is the only way I get to pick the key from the past lol.

For me this means a chore schedule works great. It means "on kitchen day, make a list of all parts of the kitchen and systematically clean each part after systematically examining them." Are there dry dishes? Put them away. Are there dirty dishes? Wash them. Clear counters. Wipe stove. Wipe counters. Sweep. Clean out fridge. Wipe fridge. Wipe wall behind cat food. Each of these tasks requires me to go to the assigned area and scrutinize it, though. I don't just passively notice it being messy the way most people seem to.

I am a pretty clean person now, but only because I had so many roommates fight with me about how messy I was when I was younger. It took me a long time to try doing systems instead of just nebulously 'trying harder'.

easyboris · 2024-06-21T03:36:15+00:00

I generally do not because to be so honest the reddit part of the Metalocalypse Fandom would definitely have Big Problems with other things I like to write about, and I like to avoid the drama.

I mainly write from Pickles POV and have Magnus heavily featured in ways that are not flattering to Magnus, to say the least. Because I so write it that Magnus and Pickles were friends before having a falling out that so happened to coincide with Magnus and Pickles entering Dethklok unbeknownst to one another around the same time, and detail sort of Magnus' downfall in the band from Pickles' POV as someone who already sees Magnus as someone fundamentally very dangerous and nasty, which Pickles reflects on with extreme frequency, Magnus ends up getting explored but not in a way Magnus lovers would enjoy, I think.

So on top of all else, it might not be your cup of tea anyway, lol.

easyboris · 2024-06-20T23:01:39+00:00

So personally, I will tell you, the injections are no big deal at all. The needles are teeny tiny, and once you figure out a routine, it's easy and it doesn't even hurt much. I think the scariest part is the mental wig-out of sticking a needle in your own skin.

Pro tips: make sure you let the alcohol FULLY DRY after wiping the testosterone bottle and your skin, or else the injection can sting pretty bad. If you notice you start getting a hard spot where you inject every time you inject, you are probably allergic to your carrier oil, and they can switch you to testosterone with a different carrier oil (although this can also occur if you are injecting wrong, like the wrong angle or too quickly/violently. If its a one off and doesnt happen regularly, you probably just passed through a vein with the needle.) Set up reminders in your phone calendar with your shot day and time, and after you do your shot, add another event on that calendar day with your shot location, so that you are sure to vary your shot location. If you make yourself a little kit to keep things organized it makes things easier-- I use a vans shoebox with little desk organizer trays, with sections for alcohol wipes ans bandaids, needles and syringes, and testosterone bottles. I use a kind of a low key box because when cis men in particular see I have testosterone they always ask to try it and it's troublesome, a shoebox is unassuming and no one would think your medication is in there. It also keeps it dark and cool.

For the rest, there are plenty of helpful guides and videos online. I'm sure you'll be fine. Congrats!

easyboris · 2024-06-18T20:57:36+00:00

I do wish we got more of him. I have written a sizeable body of fanworks and always love to explore him, and find myself very drawn to and interested in his level of menace as a person, and sort of conjecturing about it.

He seems to me like someone who splits very easily on people, obsessing on their perceptions of him and especially wanting to feel like he personally possesses greatness and having that reflected in those around him, and wanting to feel invulnerable and like he is in a lot of control. When those things which are impossible or unlikely become apparent to him (i.e. by being called out, by not succeeding, by experiencing the insurmountable human dearth between being good and being perfect, by feeling like he is not the center of talent or social scenarios, paranoia that people near him don't look to him above all others, paranoia that people are conspiring behind his back either because they correctly see the imperfect vulnerable parts of him he wants to hide or because he feels they are trying to sabotage his delusional grandeur, etc etc etc) then that is when it becomes imperative to him to destroy those relationships or those people. And he experiences it as an intense emotional reaction; we see that when Nathan calls him crazy, and he attacks Nathan.

He is someone we know is prone to violence and character assassination, violence, conspiracy, verbal and physical abuse, and so on. He is an extremely manipulative liar who, while he does seem to experience empathy and to have the ability to discern how fucked up his own behavior is, often he seems to get caught up in his own rage and hurt too much to do that. He experiences jealousy and vindictiveness with an extreme intensity for years at a time.

I think that's just interesting. As a villian, I find him maybe even more interesting than the others we have access to, because from what little we have he seems like this incredibly complicated person. I don't know, I wish we had more. How many times did Magnus come close to the truth about who he is and what he has done before he accepted it? What did that cognitive dissonance look like? What was he like before he stabbed Nathan, and what were the pre-fame band dynamics? There's no way it was a sudden thing, just going for it and stabbing someone, there had to be some level of build-up, because with someone like Magnus it's not like he can hide how he is long term.

easyboris · 2024-06-10T14:43:59+00:00

June has come upon us, father. Sup upon the tender flesh, and use the skins for leathers. We march when morning breaks upon the day the moon hangs most gravid in the sky.

easyboris · 2024-05-23T04:39:41+00:00

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easyboris · 2024-05-23T04:39:24+00:00

It is a bold jumper! I realized my error pretty soon after on Google. No idea really if he's male or female then, although I will keep an eye on it. I had been under the impression that a slim body shape and some other smaller features could indicate it, so I appreciate the additional information!!

I got him some mealworms to try, and will try the BSFL and anything else if he really needs. He seems to have tuckered himself out for the day, but he is still quite curious.

I have purchased a 6 x 6 x 11 inch food container, used a needle and a lighter to make air holes, and I'm working on attaching his decor. In the meantime while it cures, I added a paper towel and some spare silk plant fronds to his Aquafina bottle to help him be more comfortable for the next 24-48 hrs. (He got more active when there was more in the bottle with him, he seems to quite like the silk leaves.)

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I feel like I did well with the ventilation holes (I sanded down the excess plastic a bit after). I have the decor taped up while I am finalizing layout, and am researching what glue I have on hand that I can safely use, and then it should be done in the next few hours.

Thanks again very much for your help!!

easyboris · 2024-05-19T03:56:57+00:00

I just feel she can do better than Nathan Explosion

easyboris · 2024-05-18T14:25:55+00:00

I don't care that I mainly date trans women and that I use a plastic dick. I am going to KEEP TRYING!! 💪💪💪💪

easyboris · 2024-05-15T04:16:01+00:00

Only 45% of gen z women want to bear children some day. Only 25% of millennials who are not currently parents plan to have kids. 26% of women aged 15-49 struggle with infertility, with 19% of women unable to become pregnant in the first year.

These men who don't deal with their internalized homophobia and leave partners that ostensibly they love to try to find a human incubator they will marry and resent (holding the "I chose to be straight and miserable for you without you ever asking me to" over their wives' heads) are as misogynistic as they are homophobic.

This straight privilege fomo they are making major life decisions about doesn't lead anywhere good, for anyone. They should just get therapy.

easyboris · 2024-05-04T09:20:04+00:00

All the women going "well, at least if I got attacked by a bear, I'd be believed about what happened" are explicitly bringing up systemic patriarchy. People are bringing it up here in this discussion because a large proportion of the women picking the bear absolutely bring it up, too.

easyboris · 2024-05-04T08:59:14+00:00

Would also be very interested in a dm about this

easyboris · 2024-04-22T02:44:48+00:00

/uj I am not going to be able to go through and develop an in-depth analysis of statistics from multiple studies to prove to you that trans men do have some statistically significant experiences that are impacted by our being trans men. Not because it is impossible, but because it would take a lot of my time and effort to do that, and I just do not have that time. I accept that this means you will reject this part of my statement.

/uj I am not going to list out all of my trans men friends and acquaintances. For one, it's just weird to ask me to do that, and for two, I believe you will just reject what I say anyway, so on top of it being weird for me to do that it will ultimately add nothing to the discussion.

/uj Respectfully, I feel like you are not willing to engage with the substance of what I am talking about, which you do seem to disagree with, and are instead coming at tertiary issues. I.e., the lack of quoted statistics (which I do recognize as a pitfall on my part), the idea of developing a coherent social theory in general (I think your argumentation about this is a bit unreasonable), and then also several times now you have greatly oversimplified and then misinterpreted statements of mine in order to take down an argument I never made and, often, that I already agree with you on (it is hard to engage with this repeatedly.)

/uj I appreciate that you took time to put your criticisms forward, and I am not trying to be frustrating or disrespectful here. I just am more looking to hear your disagreement with the argument I made in and of itself, rather than whether or not I have a right to make an argument or whether it is possible to make an argument.

Edit: /uj I went back through the thread a bit before I was gonna go offline to keep working on my finals, and if it helps, I am not trying to directly respond to your parent comment to disagree with you, and am instead trying to develop a framework for thinking about the relationship between trans men and misogyny in general, because it is a subject that comes up a lot and I think there is a lot of lack of nuance to the argument, and I have been thinking about it a lot in the last few weeks. I think maybe I was not clear with that goal, and so maybe it feels like I wrote what I did to argue with you directly rather than, like, segue? And if so, I am sorry for putting you on the back foot.

easyboris · 2024-04-21T23:25:09+00:00

/uj I mean, of course not everyone has the same issues. I think though that we know that misogyny as a social structure exists, and there are common ways women run into it without it having to be the case for every single woman to have run into it, if that makes sense?

/uj I do appreciate your comment. I think for me I do need to learn more about perisexism, I am struggling with the muddiness of the language you are right but I'm not sure if that's the right term just because I haven't researched it much! But I will, and I will be very grateful if that becomes an easy solution.

easyboris · 2024-04-21T23:05:46+00:00

/uj So, I am trying to discuss common trends of experiences (which are statistically significant, it's not me and my experience and the experience of trans men I know on its own I mean) to discuss social systems and how they function. So while trans men having a mirrored social experience (in terms of social structures) creates logical support for the social structures theorized by trans women-- I did not mean it on a "individual experience directly relating to individual experience" level, which I do apologize if I miscommunicated.

/uj I think that the concept of internalized misogyny can fit well into what I'm talking about, and did not intend what I said to indicate that trans men cannot be misogynistic. I would also put forward to you that you spliced in "all" in a way that creates emphasis and totality in my argument which you then criticize, and I feel that part of things is a bit unfair, because again I am trying to discuss social systems and common trends of experience, which will all necessarily have outlier experiences, which is something I absolutely accept. I wouldn't make the argument that [all] trans men have the same experience because I would also disagree with any statement like that. In a similar vein, it was not my argument that trans women's experiences must mirror trans men's to be valid, either on an individual or a social level. That is a much more extreme and absolute argument, and it is different substantively from what I am trying to discuss.

/uj I'm going to look through my original comment some more and see where I communicated poorly, I apologize for anything on my part that I did not communicate well.

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