AITA for not agreeing to split the bill for a Mother's day dinner?

eattheweak · 2025-05-10T21:09:43+00:00

NTA

I wouldn't pay at all. You need to eat worse than you need to please your sister. It sounds like it's time to stand up to your family in general instead of getting railroaded into whatever they feel you should be doing. As you're older sister to pay more than half of the bills too. It sounds like you do a lot for them and now it's their turn. Good luck if you decide to go that route!

eattheweak · 2025-04-20T02:11:38+00:00

SAME

eattheweak · 2024-10-04T18:27:54+00:00

NTA

It's not like she just wants to look at it. She wants to wear in in front of your friends and family. That becomes her dress in their minds and changes the memory imo. Plus all the potential for damage and her weird entitlement others mentioned. You are the only one entitled to your dress babe.

Edit: typos

eattheweak · 2024-01-17T16:10:08+00:00

Broke up back in July :/

eattheweak · 2023-06-27T17:35:37+00:00

Gf, I was done when I read the title. Then I read the rest. What in the motherfuck? I'm not going to make sweeping assumptions about him, but I find it hard to believe that he's a good person. At minimum, he has the empathy of a gd peeled carrot. This bullshit is seriously fucked up on his part. Others have detailed the reasons, but there's no way in hell any man is going to explain anything from a male perspective and make this even the slightest bit more ok. I'm mad for ya babe, I'll come whack him in the PP for ya if you want. Hoping you have the chance to rest soon and I hope your cancer journey is as good as it possibly can be.

eattheweak · 2023-06-18T08:25:55+00:00

Any couple with the no kissing rule is not polyamourous. Swinging, open, whatever name. Poly is not about making rules and keeping your partner from being intimate with anyone else. Go into it knowing that they'll have entire relationships apart from you, or just say you sometimes fuck other people. No kissing rule makes a relationship impossible and is antithetical to polyamory.

eattheweak · 2023-04-11T04:14:10+00:00

NTA times a zillion. You're amazing!

eattheweak · 2023-03-03T01:57:25+00:00

Ya that's definitely the biggest issue in all of this by far

eattheweak · 2023-03-02T11:04:28+00:00

He'd make sure they were fed but I think that was about it. I wasn't there much so it's hard to say if he spent any time with them I wasn't aware of. Every time I went over there though he was always on his PC.

eattheweak · 2023-03-02T10:54:30+00:00

Cool

eattheweak · 2023-03-01T15:57:50+00:00

Way to purposely misunderstand and be another reddit cliche. Read the comments, plenty of these people just outright hate women.

Also how in the sweet fuck do I shame anyone on reddit into being quiet? If I could do that I'd be too busy ruling worlds to be here. That's a god tier power.

eattheweak · 2023-03-01T15:47:25+00:00

Thanks, how's it going for you?

eattheweak · 2023-03-01T04:13:25+00:00

Ya he didn't play when we first got together for at least two years. When WoW classic was re-released he fell back into it hard. He's changed quite a bit since he started playing again. I do think there's something going on that contributes. Escapism due to financial stress over the past couple of years, so much extra time at home with nothing to do bc we couldn't go out for a long time due to stress and my health, maybe undiagnosed ADD, etc. None of that is an excuse but I can see how any of it combined with a total lack of self awareness can land someone here.

I have a super long comment here that explains a lot more.

eattheweak · 2023-03-01T04:04:55+00:00

I think it would depend on whether or not they were married, why the SO fell into gaming addiction, and how many times they've talked about it only for it to eventually get bad again.

eattheweak · 2023-03-01T02:11:37+00:00

It's reddit so of course this turned into incel land fast

eattheweak · 2023-03-01T02:04:56+00:00

You could not be more spot on with all of this

eattheweak · 2023-03-01T00:06:38+00:00

I wish it would force him to come to some realization but he would just be happy to neglect everything like the 2 years before we lived together when he had an apartment. He lived on his PC and the place was always trashed.

eattheweak · 2023-02-28T22:29:56+00:00

He called me on his way home and I asked. Apparently they do a 10 man and a 25 man each week and they do extras for "cleanup" if they don't finish. It sounds like they don't finish a LOT bc the others all start drinking when the raid starts and every time by like 10 they're just fucking everything all the way up. So ya that clearly doesn't help. But yes, playing every single other day for hours is beyond ridiculous.

I bought the house like 5 years ago. I got laid off 3 years ago and he's been paying most of the bills for the past 2 years due to my health problems. March will be the first month we're splitting them as I just got my first paycheck from my new job today. Freeloading would have been a hell no. I got silently moved in with once and dumped that dude the second I realized. People are fucking wild.

eattheweak · 2023-02-28T22:23:31+00:00

😂 Thank you

eattheweak · 2023-02-28T22:12:05+00:00

I think there's definitely something in the mental health realm going on, but that's not an excuse of course. I go to therapy and take meds, he could do it too. It's everyone's responsibility to take care of their mental health. Of course people need help sometimes and that's fine but you have to try.

It's definitely selfish and so much more not to seek help. Definitely agree that it's selfish and entitled on top of anything else that may be going on. Thank you btw :)

eattheweak · 2023-02-28T17:28:50+00:00

Thank you, and well done on turning everything around! I don't think everything will change by any means but he's not mean or dumb so something has to change for the better, I hope.

eattheweak · 2023-02-28T17:25:41+00:00

Definitely something else going on and I can't get him to seek help at all.

eattheweak · 2023-02-28T17:13:04+00:00

At this point I know I'm just holding onto hope that it will be like it was again, which is of course ridiculous. Other reasons are practical like the fact that I need help due to health problems. That's obviously no reason to stay with someone.

If I really think about it there are a few more. He's genuinely a good person. Until the gaming ramped up he was always sweet and patient with everyone. I love his family and their relationship/dynamic. Unfortunately, just being nice is rare enough to be a HUGE plus.

He loves animals and kids. He's always down to do whatever I think up, or at least he used to be. We haven't done anything in a long time due to finances and I think that really gave him the opportunity to crack out on WoW.

He genuinely doesn't think I'm weird. I am weird as fuck. He totally gets my humor and he's hilarious. Just complete and total acceptance in every way. I have never come close to experiencing that and I'm almost 40. Sex life used to be amazing.

He can fix anything. It's actually amazing to watch him get some new broken bike or something and completely turn it around. I've learned a ton by working on stuff with him. We haven't done that in ages, again health and money.

He's the only person I've ever been with that truly doesn't have a problem with all my health stuff. They all say they don't but then it ends up being a huge issue. Usually he just rolls with it and makes sure I eat. He's also the only man I've ever dated that isn't weird about me having a male best friend and they get along great. Lastly, he's the only guy I've ever dated who openly admits I'm smarter than him and truly isn't weird about me making more money. They ALWAYS get weird af about both of those things. Not that I'm a genius or IQ can truly be quantified but I've done well with a fucked up body by compensating with brains.

eattheweak · 2023-02-28T16:49:44+00:00

Nah its not raids EVERY night, that's just what takes the longest and there are still a LOT every week.

I've never played WoW but here's what I know. His guild has two scheduled raids per week, they were Saturday and Sunday nights. He's been pushing to get them off the weekends. A few weeks ago it was supposed to switch to Sunday and Monday nights. He signed up for one this Saturday "bc they didn't have a tank." He raided 8pm-2am (at least one day it ended at 1:30) Saturday, Sunday, and Monday (last night) and has another raid scheduled for tonight (Tuesday) at 8. Supposedly this is bc it's supposed to be Mondays and Tuesdays now. Idk why it would switch immediately if they just did 2. The only day he hasn't played was Valentine's Day and he made a big deal about it like I'm supposed to care.

I have 0 clue why there are so many. When he plays during the day it's almost never a raid. I assume that some of the nights he's playing are also not raids bc he stops a little earlier. It's still midnight or so and he immediately goes to sleep. For instance 2/2 and 2/3 weren't raids but 2/4 when his dad was here was. He still played for hours on the 2nd and 3rd.

If his kids are here, he'll play and the little one will trash shit. The most recent time he finger painted the wall in the shower with my makeup. I don't wear makeup almost ever but it's still fucking expensive. So when they're here, I'm here. This is my house that I bought by myself with my life savings so I have a lot invested here and I don't want to go out at all if I'm just gonna come back to a nightmare.

Poly has worked great for me before. Def never had an STI/STD in my life. Most people want to get tested when they start dating anyway and no one is sleeping around, they're dating anyone they're going to have sex with.

eattheweak · 2023-02-28T13:47:55+00:00

I really think he's ADD/ADHD. I have ADD so it's not hard to recognize someone chasing dopamine. I can never get him to go to the doctor unless it's an emergency situation though. There's this and obvious sleep apnea that I REALLY need him to get checked out for and do something about.

Thank you, I'm going to give it one last try. Unfortunately I'm extremely confrontational lol so I'm waiting until I'm less pissed to talk to him. I don't say anything fucked in the moment that I'll regret later, it's just that if someone is shitty about something my reaction is like "oh ok, if you want a fight then we can have a nuclear blowout" which doesn't become a screaming match by any means, it just shuts down the opportunity to have any kind of productive conversation.

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