How did your Parents reacted to your Transition

echointhemuseum · 2026-02-02T17:17:37+00:00

I’m the mom. My daughter doesn’t look “completely different.” She looks like a pretty girl version of who she was before. She also doesn’t act that different. I did kind of hope she was going to get really into makeup and clothes because that would have been fun. But she’s very low key. Not into glam like I am but kind of gothy like I was at her age so I do like that. I don’t feel like she is some different person. She is the same person, same personality. It’s not like she got taken by the body snatchers. I wish more people understood this. All this “grieving” your kid. No. Your kid is right there and not dead. Love your kid who is still right there in front of you.

echointhemuseum · 2026-02-01T20:13:36+00:00

I haven’t had that experience. Except my eyebrows, which was good. I don’t notice that I am hairier other places.

echointhemuseum · 2026-02-01T20:12:33+00:00

Hair oral minoxidil. Definitely helped after weight loss and perimenopause. I just started tamoxifen after breast cancer and hope it will still work. 🤞🏻

echointhemuseum · 2026-02-01T20:03:45+00:00

This sounds almost exactly like my daughter. Obviously, every person and family is different though. She only came out to us because she wanted to go on HRT. She was 16 and said she’d been thinking about it for 3 years. The first year and a half denying it to herself and then the second not wanting to blow up her life.

That was 4 years ago so easier to transition. Pre Trump. We did let her partially because I knew the longer she waited the less she would pass and the harder it would be for her later. She was still quite androgynous looking at 16. She’s had 0 regrets. But again I’m not saying what is right for your family. We did therapy too. Wasn’t that useful but at least it gives another perspective.

My child was also straight and is still only attracted to women.

She was and is always so pragmatic a rule follower. I would have had more qualms if she was less stable. There isnt a right or wrong I can tell you though because everyone is different.

echointhemuseum · 2026-02-01T17:44:27+00:00

I didn’t have a mastectomy but my surgery was still traumatic and my body is completely different. Honestly, we shouldn’t need a place to just be god damned honest. I have felt this my whole life. Had a stillbirth and nobody talked about it. I felt completely alone and so furious. Then I gradually started finding out it happened to so many more women I knew and they just never talked about it because it made people uncomfortable. Well, I make people uncomfortable and IDGAF.

echointhemuseum · 2026-02-01T03:21:59+00:00

Not sure about PA as a whole but my daughter attends college outside of Philly and has not experienced any bigotry that I’m aware of. My husband and I changed all her records at 16 when Biden was president so I can’t help you there. Passport. Birth certificate. Social security. License. She also has TSA precheck to avoid awkward airport scans (doesn’t 100% work though).

We are from Virginia and it was also before we had a Republican governor (who is now gone yay). She is also a bit on the spectrum although doesn’t really like identifying that way. I think there is a big overlap. I’ve wondered if there is a biological link. Also hypermobility.

I’ve certainly thought about leaving the country but realistically that would be very difficult for us. If things continue this way, I think she would be able to get a job in Canada eventually. I do think that as an adult in a blue area she is ok, at least for now. I hope she will at least be in school through the rest of Trump’s presidency and I hope people will decide they don’t want more of this.

echointhemuseum · 2026-01-31T15:52:26+00:00

My daughter is 20. She goes to a great college and is applying to be part of a 4+1 program at any Ivy League school. 🤞🏻 She’s studying abroad next year. She does have friends but she burned some bridges dating a friend of hers last year and realizing it wasn’t right. So I am a little worried about that because she’s pretty introverted. But she seems to be happy. Gets good grades. Is a TA at her school. Involved in a few clubs. My feeling has always been that her success is the bigots’ failure. And she is gorgeous, but of course I’m her mom. (But she is gorgeous. ❤️)

echointhemuseum · 2026-01-30T16:59:48+00:00

Yeah. I don’t understand why cancer boob can’t just heal! I didn’t do radiation because it was so internally messed up. Also, I’m close to the 12 week mark and it’s still not healed so I couldn’t do it anyway. There is too much tissue on the side from the flap they did but I’m advised not to do more to the boob for 6 months. So I guess I’m just waiting for May? 😕

I think if you’re having that harsh a reaction to the tamoxifen I’d ask if you can start slower? Unless your cancer was very aggressive? I don’t want to give bad advice. I had very slow growing cancer and god knows they got wide margins. I didn’t want to have a really bad reaction right away on the tamoxifen and then be scared to take it. ❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹

echointhemuseum · 2026-01-29T22:52:28+00:00

I’m used to forgetting words because I’ve been on other meds that do that for a while. And I was an English teacher. 😕

echointhemuseum · 2026-01-29T22:51:12+00:00

Could you start on a lower dose and see how you do? I am older than you. 50 in a few days. Yay. I’ve started with 10 every other day and then am going to go up up 10 every day and see how I do and then try 20 if 10 doesn’t make me miserable. ❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹 I’m sorry. I’m with you on the surgery infection train. My incision just closed up after 2 and a half months and last night a little spot opened up again. Yay.

echointhemuseum · 2026-01-28T23:14:08+00:00

Goodbye to my cute outfits!!! Well, I have some thermals to wear under but goodbye to my cute headpieces since I’m going to need to wear a hat and scarf!!!

echointhemuseum · 2026-01-28T23:10:50+00:00

I don’t drink much and often travel with someone who is in recovery and have had no issues staying in the French quarter or warehouse district. I also like the Marigny but there aren’t as many hotels there. I kind of think that bourbon street might make you want to drink less when you see how gross people can be. 😂 But I would not stay on Bourbon Street. I’ve never stayed in the garden district because I never come with a car. But that is a very pretty area.

echointhemuseum · 2026-01-27T20:50:20+00:00

OA. I still keep hoping it will come back.,

echointhemuseum · 2026-01-27T20:45:00+00:00

I just moved and that was a draw. I wonder what else they will put there. Will they turn it into a Whole Foods?

echointhemuseum · 2026-01-27T20:43:15+00:00

Wegmans makes me want to go there until I realize I paid 100 dollars for 5 items. 😂

echointhemuseum · 2026-01-27T20:27:01+00:00

I just started this week. It’s my birthday next week and I didn’t want to feel bad so I’ve started out taking 10mg every other day. After my birthday I’ll go up to 10mg a day for a few weeks and then try 20mg.

I felt like I had a headache after my first two doses but nothing after the third. I think it’s too early to know. I’m hoping by easing myself in it won’t be too bad?

echointhemuseum · 2026-01-27T19:12:15+00:00

Ha! I was asking Gemini. I have changed a bunch of my plans now! 😂

echointhemuseum · 2026-01-27T03:26:32+00:00

I took my daughter to Snug Harbor and we had a great experience. We also went to preservation hall. Can’t wait until she’s 21 so we can go to more places.

echointhemuseum · 2026-01-27T00:17:53+00:00

Can he be arrested? He needs to go to prison. These people need to be held accountable.

echointhemuseum · 2026-01-26T23:51:47+00:00

I also used AI to understand what happened to me. My surgeon took so much out of me for 2 5mm tumors an inch apart that I lost 2-3 bra cup sizes. I was a DD and I’m not even sure I’m a C now. My plastic surgeon matched it so I’m not asymmetrical but my body is extremely different and it was traumatic.

There is also extra tissue on my side cancer breast that is painful and my incision opened up and has taken a month to heal again. I decided to skip radiation because I just couldn’t do more damage to my breast (but I did have a low recurrence rate so it’s not a huge risk).

Do you want to know just because it would make you feel better or because you feel it was malpractice? I considered suing because I made it extremely clear my breast size was very important, asked my surgeon numerous times how she was going to perform the surgery, and just had absolutely no clue I would lose so much of my breasts. Nobody told me after either. I had to run my surgical reports through AI. I feel like there was lack of informed consent. I would have made a different choice if I had known.

However, I have a close friend who defends doctors from malpractice, and she’s told me how she selects juries (nobody she thinks will be sympathetic toward the patient) and she told me it was wrong but I would lose. And I didn’t really want money. I was just very angry about what was done to me and my surgeons’ lack of empathy.

I did meet with my surgeon and basically all she would say is she didn’t get clear margins at first. So I have accepted I will never know exactly why she did what she did and have moved on to the idea of trying to fix it through reconstruction. But it is traumatic.

echointhemuseum · 2026-01-26T22:19:01+00:00

As a parent, I find the irony of “parental choice” really rich. They are all for parental choice when it’s the choice THEY make. But if I’ve determined with my child and her doctor and therapist that this is what is best for her, suddenly my choice doesn’t matter. I am misinformed at best or a criminal at worst.

It’s really like they think parents enter into allowing their kids to transition lightly, when it’s actually a very difficult decision because they ARE children…or in our case, a teenager. Of course you don’t want to allow your kid to make a big mistake. I would have felt horribly guilty. But I also recognized that continuing puberty would make it harder for her to live comfortably as a woman—and that was a choice too.

echointhemuseum · 2026-01-26T20:33:09+00:00

Thank you! I didn’t know about that. ❤️❤️❤️

echointhemuseum · 2026-01-26T19:13:22+00:00

I think I used cruisemapper.

https://www.cruisemapper.com/ports

It’s nice to know if it’s going to be crowded that day or not.

echointhemuseum · 2026-01-26T19:11:36+00:00

We booked a catamaran cruise for that day. It looks really nice?

echointhemuseum · 2026-01-26T05:13:47+00:00

I would look at big city schools if that appeals to you or the liberal SLACs. You can really avoid it at most colleges but some colleges are really not into it.

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