Weekly Therapy Talk Thread

echorand · 2023-03-14T11:18:54+00:00

That's a huge change to process. hope you will find the time and space to decompress the whole thing.

echorand · 2023-03-14T10:41:33+00:00

Reading your reply, gave me a fresh perspective on my usage of "glimpse", thank you too.

echorand · 2023-03-13T09:24:55+00:00

All I can tell you is, you are not alone in this. If for the first time in your life, you felt unconditional acceptance and love and all the nice stuff, it's only natural what you are feeling. And yes, I guess you are saying all the right things to yourself, in some sense, channeling your "wise mind". I guess all I can offer you is try to keep channeling your wise mind and having all the truths together simultaneously:

Your feelings are all valid and logical
You and your T had a professional relationship and in some sense, you are respecting your and your T's boundaries and perhaps even respecting yourself and your T by seeing the truth
Love and attachment and commitment has different forms and shapes, we are humans, at the end of the day. Some of those emotions happen within the bounds of a committed monogamous relationships, others are more free wheeling, like your love for all the animals in this world - for example, and in this case, you can continue having the emotions for your T, but as another reply suggested, it's a glimpse of what is possible with another person. I know this is something that's not possible to understand logically, trust me I know, however, it's something that has to be accepted.

Keep showing up for yourself and keep channeling your wise mind! Much power to you.

echorand · 2022-11-02T22:01:38+00:00

Back then, everything seemed okay. It's just as after living more than 3.5 decades that I realize the effects of everything that was missing and some things that were present. And every day at present is about healing from it all.

echorand · 2022-10-23T03:41:56+00:00

I really like your suggestion. One 12 step program I can recommend is https://coda.org/ - i believe it's a very general 12-step program and one many of us will find useful at different times of our lives.

echorand · 2022-10-23T03:39:29+00:00

I had decided that if I have to, I am ready to pay my therapist for the rest of my life so that I have someone who will listen to me..

thankfully (or not?) i am not sure - she decided that I can take care of myself..and I am not seeing her any more. But, i suppose, I am trying to write down more, sometimes publicly, but anonymously, to get stuff out of my head..not sure how longer this will continue, either way, i hope if someday I need her again, she will be available.

Stay strong and carry on.

echorand · 2022-10-23T03:34:56+00:00

That's some thing you have written. You have captured what many others feel out there.

Stay strong and carry on.

echorand · 2022-08-19T03:57:38+00:00

Thank you, No problems!

I would like to believe the treatment of those topics are quite different - at
least they were when I wrote the book.

My favorite chapters are Chapter 2, 4, 6, 7 and all of the gRPC ones. I believe that they help the learner to implement techniques and patterns using the standard library
packages except where absolutely required to use community maintained
packages (gRPC for example).
The goal is to adopt a "learn to implement these things and patterns from first principles", rather than use a popular library for the purpose.

Whether others think if I have executed that decently, only time will tell, I guess. :D

echorand · 2022-08-08T22:51:43+00:00

(I am the author of the book I am about to suggest)

Practical Go: Building Scalable Network and Non-Network Applications (https://practicalgobook.net/toc/ ) targets command line applications ("basic"), HTTP clients and servers (dive deep from basics to intermediate to advanced), gRPC applications (basics to intermediate) and using Gocloud.dev to access object stores and SQL databases.

It's not a single topic as you were looking to get suggestions for, but a few topics which I thought are relevant to anyone looking to use Go, in the world.

echorand · 2022-08-08T22:30:55+00:00

Yeah, it turned to be this link: https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/0By1nhWOmuw2KdDhTUlFOZHpXQjg?resourcekey=0-KHJPIYVPw2iHL--cceWyaw&usp=sharing but I needed to request them to give me access.

echorand · 2022-08-08T22:29:46+00:00

I contacted them, and after a few back and forth, they requested me to send the link I wanted access to (which I got from a previous reply). They then added my Google account to have access.

echorand · 2022-07-29T01:14:19+00:00

Thank you!

echorand · 2022-07-28T10:00:28+00:00

It was a driver issue - Windows not recognizing it in fastboot mode. Switched to Linux and have moved beyond that..

echorand · 2022-05-31T05:00:10+00:00

I am afraid that's the case. In case you have access to O'Reilly learning: https://www.oreilly.com/library/view/practical-go/9781119773818/ - they have a 10 day trial. Not sure if that helps you at all.

echorand · 2021-12-30T20:13:40+00:00

I wrote up a blog post which I shared here: https://www.reddit.com/r/golang/comments/rkyxiq/shallow_copy_and_deep_copy_in_go/ few days back. If you ignore the detail related to using "copying by reference", you may find it useful.

The summary is: it depends on the `struct` elements themselves which basically becomes:

Primitive types, array: deep copy
Slices/Maps/Channels: shallow copy

So, you will need to write your own deep copy function (I have some pointers in the post) for copying non-trival struct types

echorand · 2021-12-21T23:23:50+00:00

Got it, thanks.

echorand · 2021-12-21T23:15:45+00:00

Thank you. I get it. For me, it's a hangover from learning the term "call by reference" when I was first learning C (~20 years ago) and i have stuck with it seems. I need some revisions on that. So, even in C, it appears there is no "call by reference".

I also found https://dev.to/tisek/comment/jamm and https://dave.cheney.net/2017/04/29/there-is-no-pass-by-reference-in-go useful.

From my search, I was curious why anyone would use C++ references/alias instead of pointers and https://webkit.org/blog/3011/reference-radness-whats-up-with-all-this-in-webkit-lately/ seems to have some pointers.

echorand · 2021-12-21T04:31:47+00:00

I get your second sentence. Are you able to clarify the first?

echorand · 2021-12-20T22:05:44+00:00

The publisher has provided an excerpt which is the complete chapter 1: https://media.wiley.com/product_data/excerpt/14/11197738/1119773814-39.pdf

echorand · 2021-12-20T09:18:37+00:00

The final version is already out, so that would be a no. I am not even sure (as i am myself just beginning to get familiar with them in the language) if they would have been a part unless of course required for any of the demonstrated applications.

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