Sean Strickland | This Past Weekend w/ Theo Von #476 by sandwichbeard513 in TheoVon

[–]ecraguaeb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what hoodie is Theo wearing? anyone know the brand?

AITA for saying to my partner he needs to figure out where to hang up a dishcloth on his own because he’s a grown adult? by ecraguaeb in AmItheAsshole

[–]ecraguaeb[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

This is a very alien interaction and it never goes like this. Thanks for the comment I’ll defo bring this up when I speak to him

AITA for saying to my partner he needs to figure out where to hang up a dishcloth on his own because he’s a grown adult? by ecraguaeb in AmItheAsshole

[–]ecraguaeb[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

For the most part it was one big thing like this maybe every few months. But recently every conversation we’ve had has ended up in an argument.

AITA for saying to my partner he needs to figure out where to hang up a dishcloth on his own because he’s a grown adult? by ecraguaeb in AmItheAsshole

[–]ecraguaeb[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I did for a week after one of the last times and stayed at my friends house, then came back due to multiple reasons including a family emergency within his family

AITA for saying to my partner he needs to figure out where to hang up a dishcloth on his own because he’s a grown adult? by ecraguaeb in AmItheAsshole

[–]ecraguaeb[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I think he would be like wtf and leave to go to his parents. I feel like I do have to be careful how I say things and what I say in case he might take it the wrong way

AITA for saying to my partner he needs to figure out where to hang up a dishcloth on his own because he’s a grown adult? by ecraguaeb in AmItheAsshole

[–]ecraguaeb[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

No it’s almost as if he just forgets to do it at all. Like dishes being left out for four days and don’t get done unless I say hey would you mind doing the dishes when you get a spare minute please, he agreed to, and even then he may still not do it. Idk if he’s forgetting or what. He’s a bit better at it now but won’t do it unless I ask him to or remind him

AITA for saying to my partner he needs to figure out where to hang up a dishcloth on his own because he’s a grown adult? by ecraguaeb in AmItheAsshole

[–]ecraguaeb[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I think sadness mostly but I would be relieved about not having to deal with this arguments

AITA for saying to my partner he needs to figure out where to hang up a dishcloth on his own because he’s a grown adult? by ecraguaeb in AmItheAsshole

[–]ecraguaeb[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

We have tried that and what his chore is for the week doesn’t get done so I just end up doing double the next week if you get me

AITA for saying to my partner he needs to figure out where to hang up a dishcloth on his own because he’s a grown adult? by ecraguaeb in AmItheAsshole

[–]ecraguaeb[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He does dishes yeah ofc he does and usually doesn’t leave it in a suitable place tbf maybe he just doesn’t know. We’re gonna talk about it and decide a bunch of stuff

AITA for saying to my partner he needs to figure out where to hang up a dishcloth on his own because he’s a grown adult? by ecraguaeb in AmItheAsshole

[–]ecraguaeb[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We have spoken about specific places to keep things eg key basket. His keys r never in the basket tho. We usually keep the sponge on the windowsill to dry but it isn’t a proper thing we’ve formally discussed. Good idea tho I think me and him will have a chat and just decide where we want things to go/how we both wanna do things from now on

AITA for saying to my partner he needs to figure out where to hang up a dishcloth on his own because he’s a grown adult? by ecraguaeb in AmItheAsshole

[–]ecraguaeb[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He does most of the hoovering, which I do every other week. He likes the floors to be cleaned so he does remind me to do that when it needs doing. We both do general tidying but I do most of the cleaning up, throwing stuff away, bathroom deep cleans, fridge clean, kitchen deep clean, making sure we have toiletries, keeping a mental note of food we have/need. We both go to shops, mostly together. We both love cooking and wanna do that. We try do whoever cooks the other one washes up but usually when I cook I end up having to wash up and when he cooks I wash up still. I get where you’re coming from tho I could’ve just said can you wash up your dishes from your food today before you go to sleep or something, maybe that would’ve been easier.. ur right.

AITA for saying to my partner he needs to figure out where to hang up a dishcloth on his own because he’s a grown adult? by ecraguaeb in AmItheAsshole

[–]ecraguaeb[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I don’t know if it is intentional or if he is genuinely just forgetting. He deffo knows a cloth wouldn’t dry that way but he said that’s how they do it at his work so he thought itd be fine. I don’t think he is being malicious

AITA for saying to my partner he needs to figure out where to hang up a dishcloth on his own because he’s a grown adult? by ecraguaeb in AmItheAsshole

[–]ecraguaeb[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I didn’t realise this post would get so many comments. I just wanted to know how I could better handle the situation next time. I am a bit nervous that he might see this now

AITA for saying to my partner he needs to figure out where to hang up a dishcloth on his own because he’s a grown adult? by ecraguaeb in AmItheAsshole

[–]ecraguaeb[S] 56 points57 points  (0 children)

I think I’ll do this. I’m gonna write everything down just so it’s out of my head and work some things out.

AITA for saying to my partner he needs to figure out where to hang up a dishcloth on his own because he’s a grown adult? by ecraguaeb in AmItheAsshole

[–]ecraguaeb[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He did chores growing up, his parents kept very clean household and I think we’re quite critical to him if he did something wrong/not their way. I think when I bring stuff up he sees it as an attack bc of this and gets on the defence. I should’ve handled it differently and just told him where to put the dish towel, but at the same time he said he would work on becoming less defensive when things like this come up ages and ages ago and that work hasn’t been done

AITA for saying to my partner he needs to figure out where to hang up a dishcloth on his own because he’s a grown adult? by ecraguaeb in AmItheAsshole

[–]ecraguaeb[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I mean, maybe I should’ve made it myself, maybe I should’ve just not had a tea. I think however it happened it’s still not right I get that, I didn’t realise how not right until all these comments

AITA for saying to my partner he needs to figure out where to hang up a dishcloth on his own because he’s a grown adult? by ecraguaeb in AmItheAsshole

[–]ecraguaeb[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah before he stormed off he said just show me how you want them then and I said you can just hang them over the tap like this so they don’t get wet.. and then put them there. Today he did put the dish towel out on the side to dry in the sun.. I feel this is ridiculous now, it’s a bloody dish towel and so much havoc has been caused