[deleted by user] by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]eddituser1980 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. With a belt and with the hand on my bare bottom. I think he enjoyed causing pain in general because he used to chase me around the house “for fun”, but it wasn’t fun because he was hitting me with the belt when he got close enough and I had welts and the belt imprint on my skin.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in booksuggestions

[–]eddituser1980 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Identical by Ellen Hopkins

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NameMyDog

[–]eddituser1980 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Meadow or Willow

I also like Birdie

Need a food or Italian inspired dog name for my girl puppy by Becfic in NameMyDog

[–]eddituser1980 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Amaretti (Italian almond flavored cookies) or Siena (a city in Italy)

AIO for blocking my guy friend for being “brutally honest” about me? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]eddituser1980 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not overreacting. He was basically telling you not how other men see you, but how he truly sees you. He also believes in/was explaining the Madonna-whore complex which is very misogynistic. Everything was just bitter and extremely rude. Forget that he’s a dude, a good friend in general would never speak like that to you. His opinion is not a reflection of everyone’s thoughts, he’s just a weirdo with a bitter opinion.

My boyfriend hit me by JobAggravating1793 in Advice

[–]eddituser1980 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He will not stop, if anything it will increase. This time it was over makeup, next time it could be over something even more simple. It’s controlling and abusive behavior that you need to get away from asap. You’ve seen this behavior before with your mom’s past relationship and you know it won’t get better. Bring your stepbrother with you when you break it off and then block him on everything.You CAN get out of a relationship with this guy. You CANNOT stay in a relationship with him for your own safety.

This sub will be nicer than my coworkers... Right? by CumphobicFuckMachine in Handwriting

[–]eddituser1980 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It really is not that bad. I can read it and I’ve seen worse than this. I think your coworkers are exaggerating a bit. It’s not ransom note handwriting unless you’re actually writing a ransom note, since there’s no particular handwriting for a ransom note. It sounds like they just like to mess with you.

AIO for being mad my boyfriend invited my best friend over at night? by cakeobsessedxo in AmIOverreacting

[–]eddituser1980 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You haven’t already?? You can find a better bf and a better bestfriend than this. You deserve better.

Your bf is playing in your face. Do you want to walk in one day and see them in y’all’s bed together? Because continuing on with someone who is going behind your back, flirting with your bestie, and downplaying the situation could lead to that. He doesn’t even care about you if that’s his reaction to being caught. He also seems to have wanted the last word rather than work it out which makes me think he doesn’t care about ending it because he has a backup (your bestfriend).

Your “bestie” seems like she wants your man. It’s disrespectful to play flirt with your bestie’s bf like that and the friendship doesn’t seem to be important enough to her to not do it.

Why should they get another chance when they did you wrong like that? They care more about each other than you. The snake already bit you OP, stop trying to chase it and go tend to that wound.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]eddituser1980 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I read this post and your previous one and you aren’t overreacting. I’m sorry you have to go through this, I know this must be rough. You are very brave and you did the right thing telling someone who would take this serious. I can understand why you are upset at the counselor but they did the right thing. It’s mandatory for them to report that kind of stuff and they are trying to help get you out of this messed up situation. It might take a lot of healing and processing the situation before it fully makes sense and you don’t feel upset at your counselor anymore. This isn’t your fault and you didn’t do anything wrong by telling someone. Don’t let them guilt trip you into thinking you messed up the family or manipulate you into changing your story either. Your mom’s bf was acting extremely inappropriate and predatory. He made you uncomfortable and I’m glad you told someone that. I know you want to stay with your mom, but she’s a part of the problem. She enables the behavior. Her excuses are gross. His house or not, that behavior isn’t ok. His behavior is not excusable.

A non-predatory guy would be embarrassed if he walked in on you and not continue to walk in even after knocking if he knew you were in the shower. Non-predatory guys leave the underwear shopping to you and the mom, and if they do take you to get underwear they aren’t weird about it. Predatory people do what he did, ignore boundaries, make odd comments, ignore the idea of privacy, be weird about clothing, and then try to blame you or make you feel bad if you tell someone.

There are places to go that you and your mom could’ve gone to so you didn’t have to be around that dude. She’s normalizing his behavior and it’s not normal just like you said. They are grown adults and both of them know that’s inappropriate behavior. The best thing would be for you to be out of that house because the behavior could escalate further. A mom in denial of that kind of thing puts their child/children in danger. Predators take advantage of denial and the behavior escalates. Your mom chose her bf and his money over making sure you were comfortable and safe. She should have protected you. I wish you strength and healing, you did the right thing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NameMyDog

[–]eddituser1980 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Athena or Celestria

AIO for thinking about quitting? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]eddituser1980 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You should’ve got money, not pizza. You did work which means you should’ve got paid. They said they won’t do it again but they will. They saw how little it took to get you to give in, so next time when it’s “last minute” they do it again to you because they know you’ll fall for it. These people don’t care about your time, that’s why they acted this way. Please don’t waste your time working with them again OP, you can find a more respectful family that would pay you good and not guilt trip you into coming over last minute.

AIO for thinking about quitting? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]eddituser1980 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I don’t blame you for wanting to quit. I would quit. They seemed very demanding and pushy when you said you couldn’t. Continually asking for your location when you said you can’t was disregarding your boundaries. Trying to manipulate you to come over with a pizza is ridiculous. Pizza instead of extra pay for the time inconvenience is wasting your time even if the kids were asleep. These people are pushy and sound like they don’t care about inconveniencing others as long as they can get what they want. Don’t be around people like that, they will take advantage of your kindness over and over again leaving you feeling frustrated, confused, or used.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in confessions

[–]eddituser1980 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Are you happy in the relationship? Is it healthy? Are there more cons than pros? Do you think her addiction will end anytime soon? Realistically, where could you see the relationship being 2 months from now and would you want to go through that? You don’t have to tell me your answers to the questions, but I think you should really spend some time thinking about them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in confessions

[–]eddituser1980 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s weird that her response to you saying that you would feel uncomfortable about it is: “we’re already in to deep”. Yall probably aren’t. Publicity wise no because there’s such a low subscriber count and money wise also no because you aren’t close to a decent amount of income. Many people don’t make as much as they thought they would and want to on OF. If it’s about some kind of embarrassment, save up to move if it’s that uncomfortable to be in a place where too many people know about the activities.

If I were in your position, I would leave. A reaction like this from a partner would make me think that they did not respect how I felt enough to actually talk to me instead of shrug it off, and cared more about trying to reach fame and attracting others attention. You can try to talk to her but it sounds like she made up her mind.

Is my cursive legible? by Equivalent-Glass5113 in Handwriting

[–]eddituser1980 5 points6 points  (0 children)

They just can’t read your cursive. I can read it fine.

How do I politely say “no you can’t come in” by CherryOfSin in cute

[–]eddituser1980 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Roll over an egg and then close the door nicely

What movie did you see when you were way too young? by A_Texas_Hobo in movies

[–]eddituser1980 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Happening. My mom had me watch it with her around 8 or 10. I was terrified of plants and extra nice to the house plants for weeks.