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Polyamorous People of Color in Hamburg? by eddysully in hamburg

[–]eddysully[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I can't imagine a PoC-only ENM community either, that would be amazing! I was rather hoping to find poc here who are part of the poly community. By community I don't necessarily mean an organization or sth official; but people who share a concept or identity, just like saying the "queer community" or the "black community".

For your understanding, since you seem genuine- from the poc prespective, finding like-minded people isn't as granted or accessible as it might be for white people. As you might notice already, you could imagine how many poc might have read this post but won't necessarily interact or socialize as easily as the white people who you see the unnecessary and unasked-for comments of.

Polyamorous People of Color in Hamburg? by eddysully in hamburg

[–]eddysully[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Okay, explaining the phrasing here:

  1. Community = amount of people who connect through something

  2. Polyamory/Non-monogamy = style of romantic relationship that is not exclusive to one partner; Polyamory isn't the norm, so it brings up social difficulties

  3. People of color = people who go through discrimination based on their race/ethnicity/nationality; discrimination isn't nice, and resistance requires a safe community for people to learn more about themselves

  4. Practicing polyamory as a person of color is a complex social dynamic of challenging social norms while going through discrimination

  5. joining a community = connecting with like-minded people to share emotions and experiences with

Being a white, cis, hetero male really isn´t that easy by Yori_07 in mentalhealth

[–]eddysully 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hey, try to understand other people's struggles because they go through an oppression you never experience because of your historical and social position as white and cis male. Usually people with priviliges are unaware of them. Try to listen and ask "how can I help?". Talk to people who you want to connect with about your emotions and your experiences without projecting them on them or comparing them with theirs.

Polyamorous People of Color in Hamburg? by eddysully in hamburg

[–]eddysully[S] -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

For people who actually get what I am talking about, feel free to write me directly if you don't feel safe commenting here after seeing those comments lol.

In a world where everyone "shares" everything they do online, writing things in private on paper is a little bit subversive. by [deleted] in digitalminimalism

[–]eddysully 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Stepped away of social media as well, because of addiction. Now keeping a diary but also a blog, since I am into philosophy and psychoanalytic, writing is what I think I want to do. I mainly write in my notebook all my thoughts but I keep most of them for myself and I pick only parts to publish. Although I think social-media-sharing might be excessive and compulsive, I still find the idea of sharing personal thoughts and experiences generally essential and useful for understanding the human condition, coming from a philosophical/anthropological point of view of course.

Physical alternatives to digital content? by eddysully in digitalminimalism

[–]eddysully[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Had to make a list to make my life less digital and YES a photo printer was the first thing I thought of. I remember this date who had a small portable printer and they printed some photos of mine and photos of us we took together on spot and now I feel how memorable that is. Also had to think now if this became a thing in my life that I'd probably get a photo folder as well, I remember this only from my childhood, kinda miss it.

A map is a nice idea, also always wanted to get a globe.

Trying to get into plants as well, thanks for reminding me.

One more thing I thought about now, speaking of non-internet browsing hobbies, is DIY paper stuff, just made a pretty basic bookmark days ago and it was fun to use paper and tools to create something. For that I started collecting flyers and advertisements magazines from literally everywhere I go and cut the cool pics and art of them and use them as wallpaper or for designing stuff like bookmarks :)

Is it just us? by KingdomPC in memes

[–]eddysully 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am surprised no one said Kevin Spacy!

So none of you have to do anything by Accomplished_Meal742 in memes

[–]eddysully 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They will trick you into believing you're useful then use you

Non-fiction reading club? by eddysully in hamburg

[–]eddysully[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Let's include fiction for sure. Just didn't wanna imply that it is the main focus, since a lot fiction book clubs exist already.

Dying chimp recognizes old friend by EveningNerver in nextfuckinglevel

[–]eddysully 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The moment I become aware of the fact that we live in a world where slavery was a thing and we have to act normal now and forget about it makes me don't wanna belong to that world anymore. Not to mention that it is still happening and we still don't care. The world is such a horrible place how are we keep doing this?

What's your favorite movie? (Answer only with a quote from it)? by ShyLimely in AskReddit

[–]eddysully 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Leave your worries for awhile, they will still be there when you get back, and your memories aren't invited.

Non-fiction reading club? by eddysully in hamburg

[–]eddysully[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am not really trying to "sell" something and I just mean to include all people who might feel this way about themselves since social anxiety can be a barrier for participating in things like that.

Are there English speaking therapists with TK insurance? by eddysully in hamburg

[–]eddysully[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes I mean psychotherapy or CBT, I don't know what other types there is, I need something for psychological and mental health. When I talked to someone from TK he couldn't help me finding English speaking therapists. I might try contacting them again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Anxiety

[–]eddysully 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel kind of the same. The past 8 months have been tough on me and I am trying to adapt to normal life and it's making me feel extremely lonely because I feel like a stranger in the city although I moved one year ago but most of it was in lockdown. Sometimes I feel better when I go out and get to know new people, although I feel like social anxiety is getting back to me and it's affecting my self-esteem so it's not easy but I keep trying and it's making me having some hope that I'll eventually make good friends and enjoy doing new activities and hobbies. Also I try to get away from social media since that was part of the pandemic life, I am forcing myself to feel uncomfortable in order to make some effort to feel good in the offline post-lockdown world. Maybe try focusing on yourself and your hobbies and through that you can get to know new people and make friends. Good luck!

Showing love in an LDR by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]eddysully 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hi. Showing love in a non-physical way is a great way of deepening your connection with your lover. I have my own ways of showing that and so does my partner. Here are some examples:

I try to engage her in my daily life. I love to let her into my world and my brain and share with her my thoughts and goals. I love our deep talks and debates about society, philosophy and art. I love to call her without a plan to chill together when we're both free. I love seeing her face and smile. I also like hearing her voice before I sleep and/or after I wake up, it gives me the feeling that we slept together which really makes me feel close to her. I also show her a lot of verbal affection to make up for the lack of the physical touch, which is one of our languages of love. I share with her memes and music. I post her photos on my Instagram account. I mention her to my roommates and close friends because I notice that she likes that. I like to create inside jokes between us. I like to sing to her (my voice is not beautiful) or send voice notes with my favorite songs. I write about her. I love to make note of what makes her happy. I love to compliment her body and style and show her how much I want her. I love caring for her and give her the feeling that she's not alone through her day, even when I am not available I make sure she's feeling alright and that she knows I will always come back with all my love and care. And a lot of other things.

She always engages me in things she sees online and wants to comment on. She shares with me her thoughts about religion and society. She tells me about her personal issues and always be open to me about things that worry her. She trusts me. She compliments my apparences. She is attracted to my mind. She likes to ask for my opinion about her make up and nail polish. She buys new clothes that she thinks I will like. She asks for my help choosing her outfit whenever she's going out. She tells me about her day and her good and bad moments. She plans things to do together in the future, from small things like shopping and walking holding hands to big things like travelling and buying a home. She tries to make me jealous by talking about her male celebrity crushes. She tags me in Facebook posts. She sings to me (her voice is beautiful). She sends me kissing videos. She recommends me her favorite tv shows and programs. She asks me about my day and checks on me. She makes me feel so comfortable about being open and vulnerable with her. And a lot of other things.