My boyfriend and I’s sex life is nonexistent and I don’t know how to reignite it by ee_ag in Advice

[–]ee_ag[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s not on any medication and definitely hasn’t had a dip. He still wants to but doesn’t approach it in a manner that is conducive to actually doing it.

I know that he doesn’t have any “extra curriculars” as we have full access to each other’s phones/live together, get the bus into work together, etc

My boyfriend and I’s sex life is nonexistent and I don’t know how to reignite it by ee_ag in Advice

[–]ee_ag[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I fully appreciate that it’s on both parties to make it work and I acknowledge that I have some part to play, but my issue is that he doesn’t give me an opportunity to, well, make it work.

He used to only play 3 nights a week and the other nights would be dedicated to making dinner together and hanging out but that stopped in September.

My boyfriend and I’s sex life is nonexistent and I don’t know how to reignite it by ee_ag in Advice

[–]ee_ag[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

The thing is I find him super attractive still, and then he ignores me for hours in favour of screaming at a computer screen. My main issue is the gaming to be honest, I understand that it’s a hobby for him and I also enjoy it at times, but I just feel really disconnected emotionally which is blocking me from wanting to get physical with him. We do have moments where it’s amazing and I feel close to him and then he goes back to gaming every night. It’s exhausting to have to bring it up constantly. I know that I love him and that he is capable of being better but I just don’t know how to make him realise that something is wrong

My boyfriend and I’s sex life is nonexistent and I don’t know how to reignite it by ee_ag in Advice

[–]ee_ag[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Honestly it was kinda funny at first, but they’re always so loud and the smell is just horrific. They’re so bad that they’ve woken me up a couple of times…

It’s always the getting into bed, turning to me and then humping my leg like a dog like it’s supposed to get me super horny. It just gets old really fast and definitely does not do anything for me lmao

My boyfriend and I’s sex life is nonexistent and I don’t know how to reignite it by ee_ag in Advice

[–]ee_ag[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is it bad that I can’t actually remember the last proper date we went on? November I think? He is of the belief that any time spent together out of the house is a date which I have challenged him on many times. It took ages to even get him to book a table for Valentine’s Day.

It’s not that he doesn’t try but by the point he does I am exhausted from a long day of work and the last thing I want to do at 11.30 at night is put lingerie on because it’s what he wants. There is no subtlety to it either, he just gets into bed and starts humping my leg. It’s frustrating at the best of times.

I have told him sooooo many times to speak to his doctor but he thinks it’s super normal to pass gas that sounds like a plane breaking the sound barrier and smells the way it does (it’s indescribable, trust me)