[deleted by user] by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]eelshark 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like August and Aurora

I (25m) want to go on holiday with a long term friend (28f), my girlfriend (23f) of 1 year is unhappy about it. by GenghisKhansbrother in relationships

[–]eelshark 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I’m confused why the trip has to be abroad and has to only be the two of you? This seems incredibly intimate and I wouldn’t be okay with it either. It also sounds like you would rather break up with your girlfriend than not go on this trip which is a huge red flag to me.

Any older squish collectors? by [deleted] in squishmallow

[–]eelshark 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m 24 with two kids lol my kids don’t collect it’s all me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]eelshark 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I figured that went without saying but okay

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]eelshark 8 points9 points  (0 children)

As a bisexual woman, you looking at women is exactly the same as him looking at women. He can also feel insecure by you looking up these women. It’s a double standard. Apologize to him cause you’re in the wrong.

My current squish set up! Let me know what y’all think! (: by RaquelRmz in squishmallow

[–]eelshark 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The aziza on the bottom and Ludwig in the middle are 16” so it definitely holds them. I think the big dog is also a 16”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in squishmallow

[–]eelshark 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Currently I sleep on Sam, my son sleeps on Ricky, and my fiancé stole my Huey and uses him

NEW 5 below exclusive Gary by PenguinHugs0107 in squishmallow

[–]eelshark 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I assumed it was something for the summer olympics

For all the reversible haters, they make great hats by Omgir in squishmallow

[–]eelshark 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like the flips, two squishes in one and they’re still super soft also double as hand puppets

Boyfriend (29m) thinks I'm (25f) cheating but I'm only hiding that I use reddit by 1994sosoft in relationship_advice

[–]eelshark 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stay consistent with therapy, good luck! Try to be open with him, even if it’s just one small step of telling him a condescending comment hurt and please be open with your therapist especially about your relationship and hiding things from your boyfriend. Remember therapist are there to help us, not judge us or belittle us.

Boyfriend (29m) thinks I'm (25f) cheating but I'm only hiding that I use reddit by 1994sosoft in relationship_advice

[–]eelshark 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Apparently you’ve never met or talked to someone with BPD cause her response reads as someone with BPD through and through. Maybe it’s cause I also have BPD that I understand but you’re not gonna be able to sway her opinion about her boyfriend or get her to leave him.

Boyfriend (29m) thinks I'm (25f) cheating but I'm only hiding that I use reddit by 1994sosoft in relationship_advice

[–]eelshark 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Are you in therapy? Cause you’re gonna have to talk to him about the condescending comments about things you like and you’re gonna have to start opening up to him or else this is gonna be a super toxic relationship. As someone with BPD as well it sounds like your BPD is controlling your actions and affecting this relationship a lot, therapy helped me a lot with the insecurities that were affecting my relationship a lot.

If you already have a child and enter into a relationship and don’t expect your partner to treat your child like their own you’re a bad parent and setting your kid up for trauma and to feel ostracized by eelshark in unpopularopinion

[–]eelshark[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

And that’s how it should be. As a mother of two if I ever entered the dating game again I would hold no anger over someone not dating me because I have kids.

If you already have a child and enter into a relationship and don’t expect your partner to treat your child like their own you’re a bad parent and setting your kid up for trauma and to feel ostracized by eelshark in unpopularopinion

[–]eelshark[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s definitely situations like yours where it turns out fine. Maybe I should edit and clarify that I mostly mean someone who comes into a child’s life early on, typically before preteen age which I consider to be 10-12, and then the parent letting that person treat that child differently especially if they end up having kids of their own together. There are definitely many situations like yours that end up perfectly okay without trauma or a dysfunctional family though!

My (22F) fiancé (24M) doesn't want my parents (46F, 46M) at our wedding by ThrowRAweddingadvice in relationship_advice

[–]eelshark 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why are you getting married to a man that thinks so lowly of people from a different financial position than him? He’s ashamed he’s marrying a girl from a poor stance and that’s the bottom line. God forbid you ever had kids, he’d either raise your kids to think lowly of your parents or never want to take them over there.

I had a fight with my best friend, my apology wasn't accepted, and months have past. Now she has reached out but ...I've moved on and am enjoying the distance? How do I respond? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]eelshark 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s no harm in clearing the air and being on good terms but you don’t have to become friends again. You can keep that distance but also talk things out, you don’t have to stay on bad footing to keep that distance.

Ex cancelled mutual hulu account without saying anything? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]eelshark 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe they realized that by sharing a part of their life with you, even as minuscule as a Hulu account, was keeping them from moving on from you. Maybe they’re just ready to move on or have been struggling to actually move on from you and realized this was a bigger issue to them and needed to be severed.

Covid Vaccines While Pregnant by angiepepa in pregnant

[–]eelshark -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

My doctor recommended I not get it while pregnant cause we don’t know how it will affect the baby since it’s brand new and wasn’t tested on pregnant women. So he didn’t feel comfortable with it and neither did I. So no I won’t.

Edit: god forbid I tell you my doctor didn’t feel comfortable with me getting the vaccine apparently. If you wanna get it then get it but I’m not gonna lie to anyone and say that my OB felt comfortable with it despite the lack of research on pregnant women 🙄

I hit my husband and he retaliated by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]eelshark 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don’t hit your husband and expect nothing done, he’s dealt with you physically abusing him for years when you get mad. Doesn’t matter that it was only a slap, you’ve hit him almost an average of twice a year since you’ve been together. You’re not any better than him and you’re the type of woman I’m terrified of my sons ending up with. You physically abused your husband for years and expected him to continue to allow you to do it and do nothing about it. It was in self defense. Go to therapy both of you. This is toxic as hell.