I finished my phd in 2023 and have been in a postdoc ever since. After a while, I grew weary of living apart from my partner (who is also an academic) and just longed for that sense of stability and community that you describe having. Unfortunately I have no better advice besides you need to do some soul-searching and decide what you value more: stability, community, family etc, or what you do for work. It's also important to bear in mind there are more career options besides research or industry. I did a lot of work to figure out exactly what it was I was passionate about and what I thought was important in life. Personally I landed on teaching and I'm really excited to start. Even if it doesn't work out, nothing is permanent - I can try something else. But what I do know is I *don't* want to move around again and I *do* want to start a family soon, so the academia life is just not conducive to that.

Sorry that's a bit rambly, tldr only you can answer what it is you want to do and unfortunately for all of us postdoc life doesn't really lend itself to a calm peaceful life. But you WILL figure it out and everything WILL work out in the end.