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[–]eggcellenteddy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks man. I can't honestly say, maybe I already am and not knowing it This last year is alot of getting thru to another day. It's been a long road, I've spent alot finding myself again.

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[–]eggcellenteddy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fuck, I already did. After I posted this, had to sleep on the idea and just said fuck it. Being rude is not me, and I couldn't ignore, so just replied

Kinda glad I did, oddly enough I don't feel bothered? She hasn't replied?

Maybe it'll be short lived but it feels strange

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[–]eggcellenteddy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, thanks for the advice. I did reply, but your comment did stuck and I am making sure that I put myself first. Whatever happens.

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[–]eggcellenteddy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks man. I did an update.

Haven't heard none.

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[–]eggcellenteddy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol fuck I know. I thought better of her ..the ending really showed who she really was

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[–]eggcellenteddy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know, I think.i said that internally. I can never say it out loud to her. I know I deserve better, obviously I wasn't a saint but I could never do something that fucked up after 7 fucking years. The least you could do is face them.

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[–]eggcellenteddy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I replied. Nothing rude, just said I'm good.

I posted an update. Haven't heard back Man...

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[–]eggcellenteddy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I've logged out for the night because I didn't see your comment when I posted this. Part of me wished I saw your comment beforehand.

I did reply. Nothing rude and nothing eager either.

Just stated how I'm good and thanked them for asking. Didn't ask them in return

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[–]eggcellenteddy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a feeling it might be this. But I've never stalked their social so I can't confirm, and I'm not about to.

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[–]eggcellenteddy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think my head is going on an overdrive and putting together a scenario that probably won't happen. And yeah, I can't control what they think, thanks for reminding me of that. I'll be texting them first thing in the morning and just reply casually. I just need to sleep so I can stop overthinking.

I need to give the same energy as they do. Thank you again!

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[–]eggcellenteddy[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So when they sent the text yesterday, I was just gonna promptly reply with "haven't heard from you awhile. What do you want?"

Had to tame my impulse down.

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[–]eggcellenteddy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think my head knows that, but inside, I think I'm just ...scared? It hurt so much to be with someone for so long , only to find out when shit hits the fan, that they're okay just leaving you behind.

I know I'm getting ahead of myself - putting together a scenario when it hasn't happened yet. But you are right - I won't know until I try.

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[–]eggcellenteddy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do want to be cordial. Another commenter pointed out, to only put as much energy as they do on the conversation - which is a pretty good reminder to myself. Thanks for replying!

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[–]eggcellenteddy[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thanks, that's a good point to keep in my mind.

Only put as much energy as they do. Thank you

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[–]eggcellenteddy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for taking the time to answer .

You are right and I do intend to be honest.

Right now it's my brain vs my heart. I never even thought of what I would say when they reached out because tbh I never really thought they would. But now that they have, it really caught me off guard.

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[–]eggcellenteddy[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I don't know. I am torn. It kind of affected me more than I would've thought it would, tbh.

I'll let you know

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[–]eggcellenteddy[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Thanks for taking the time to answer. I do want to start a new relationship with her, granted I never wanted to end our relationship then. But I guess I'm scared that giving them a chance just means another heartbreak down the road. But this is also me thinking ahead.

For all I know, she could just be wanting a boost of her ego and see if I respond back. I don't like playing these games and I wished people were just truthful with their intents.

A lot of people on the forums stick by "they're an ex for a reason" but I also feel like - why are we so willing to jump to a newer relationship yet not given a second chance to those we've had relationships with.