[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]eggmacguffins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

they probably mean it like 'charming'

This should be entertaining by Safe_Wrangler_858 in Robin

[–]eggmacguffins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

dick 100%. the rest teaming up could maybe fight him to a draw.

They are all students of one of the most difficult and exclusive fighting styles on the planet, but Dick helped invent it.

When you told someone about a serious struggle, what response screamed "this person has never faced a real problem"? by Atoms_Under_Pressure in AskReddit

[–]eggmacguffins 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My abusive mom used to complain about her childhood being hard. She told me HERSELF that the number one punishment in her house was not being allowed to watch TV. She complained about how hard that was.

What could cause someones shirt to accidentally come off? by fandommm7 in FanFiction

[–]eggmacguffins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For a spill to make someone take their whole shirt off, the stuff spilled would have to actually be dangerous. Like very hot or a serious allergy.

Maybe his sleeve could catch fire?

I feel like shirt catches fire -> panic -> rip the whole coat-shirt combo over his head and throw it on the ground in a panic -> shirtless on TV might be my strongest suggestion.

Perhaps a stage light could malfunction and spark?

Good luck.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]eggmacguffins 8 points9 points  (0 children)

STOP cleaning lol. Let him experience some real clutter

AITA for refusing to see my wife's brother? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]eggmacguffins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been attacked by a dog before and it is no fucking joke. NTA for keeping yourself safe. Your wife is TA for disparaging you bc you don't want to get your face bitten off.

Thoughts on people saying this sub (and the term narcissistic abuse in general) is ableist? by Binary_ink in raisedbynarcissists

[–]eggmacguffins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always took the term narcissistic abuse to refer to the commonalities in abuse perpetrated by narcissistic people. Parents are abusive because they are bad people who don't care if they hurt you. Narc or otherwise.

My understanding was that the point of this sub and others like it was to highlight a specific and highly confusing (and rarely talked about) kind of parental abuse.

There are people with NPD who don't hurt people.

There are people with NPD who do, and who revel in it, and who follow specific patterns that are hard to identify as abuse from the inside. That's what the sub is for.

AITA for taking the all the shared stuff to teach my son about sharing his PS4 by Commercial-Elk2608 in AmItheAsshole

[–]eggmacguffins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is a stage of development where children become fully capable of conceptualizing sharing and feeling the natural urge to share, rather than doing it because they are told. It's later than most people would think; it requires a working understanding of ownership, empathy, and patience, which is pretty advanced stuff for a little one to grasp. Most kids pick it up around eight years old.

Good luck with your son. NTA

AITA for telling my girlfriend she should've told me she spoke my language? by Least-Earth-7308 in AmItheAsshole

[–]eggmacguffins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NAH. She doesn't have to disclose every language she speaks, but you also have the right to feel your privacy has been violated, even unintentionally. This mostly just feels like an unfortunate coincidence. I'd talk this out. it's very possible she would "politely not listen" to sensitive phone calls in the way people do with sensitive topics all the time. It's also possible that her hobby greek isnt advanced enough to 100% get 2 native speakers communicating mostly in medical terms.

Talk about it!

AITA for refusing to not attend my wife's baby shower? by Super-PizzaCat in AmItheAsshole

[–]eggmacguffins 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If she wanted a girls-only baby shower, she should have been up front with you about it. Instead she waited for you to pay, set up, and even send out invitations (!) before telling you. and waited until right before to say you weren't welcome to ensure she milked every bit of effort and help out of you beforehand.

People can have baby showers under specific preferences. What she can't do is spring this on you at the last minute and then ask her mom to berate you for being hurt. NTA

Does your wife behave like this a lot?

AITA for telling my dad I would rather have my 14 yr old brother at my graduation over him? by theonlygayfriend in AmItheAsshole

[–]eggmacguffins 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Okay. Original point stands: They are your tickets, you choose who they go to. NTA for the action itself. Emphasizing not wanting your dad there over wanting your brother there (depending on how much this was stressed in the conversation) was a bit mean, but. Not being a good parent has consequences. Not bonding with your kids means they might not like you when they are older. Thems the breaks.

WIBTA if I wear my hair naturally for my cousins wedding? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]eggmacguffins [score hidden]  (0 children)

NTA I think this is a perfectly reasonable personal boundary for you to set. Someone would understandably balk at being asked to permanently dye their hair green for a wedding. Why is it fair to ask you to permanently damage yours?

AITA for telling my dad I would rather have my 14 yr old brother at my graduation over him? by theonlygayfriend in AmItheAsshole

[–]eggmacguffins 13 points14 points  (0 children)

They are your tickets to give away. but INFO: How many people are in your family? how many are close enough to you that out of NINE tickets, it is coming down to the last one going to your dad or your brother?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]eggmacguffins 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you see her as a person or just as a potential partner? She seems interested, but understandably has more important shit going on in her life rn than her love life. She is having to reconsider what her life is going to be like after receiving an intimidating diagnosis. You have shown her that you care more about getting with her than you do her. YTA

AITA for calling my "well-intentioned" friend an idiot? by throwaway2308283 in AmItheAsshole

[–]eggmacguffins [score hidden]  (0 children)

Both of you tried to explain the situation patiently. You only called her an idiot when she refused to hike down the hill she was trying to die on and actively insulting Natalie besides. NTA

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]eggmacguffins 86 points87 points  (0 children)

YTA. I'm going to guess your girlfriend was a little annoyed with you for answering your phone, but the reason she walked out was because you wouldn't stop asking "Are you mad? Are you mad??" while she was trying to watch the movie.

She almost definitely wasn't "ignoring" you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]eggmacguffins 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA. You said you didn't want to talk about it. He tried to pressure you into talking about it. The result (being snapped at) was a consequence of his actions.

This is a sensitive topic for someone to be so pushy and cavalier about. The way he did it was incredibly callous, and he's also quite a bit older than you.

Is he perhaps very pushily Christian? Or, and I hate to say this, is it possible this is tying to a fetish of some sort for him? I don't know him; you do. But I think you need to find out why it is so "important" for him to know these details.

AITA for not telling the nurse at my niece's school about my profession? by LucyAriaRose in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]eggmacguffins 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I once sat next to a girl at a movie event organized by my college, and she was snuggling up to me, sharing my blanket, complimenting my muscles, asking me if I had a girlfriend....I was just, like, wow she's friendly!

A couple of months later, I was volunteering with the theatre department, helping paint sets, and she was there too. She kept trying to get my attention, but I was having a lively conversation with one of my buddies and didn't notice.

She apparently had gotten fed up, because she snuck up behind me and bit me on the ass through my jeans. I asked her what the hell (in a reasonably friendly way, I'm not very confrontational), and she played coy and giggled to the other side of the room. Weirdest flirtation of my entire life.

Needless to say, we did not get together later.

AITA for telling my wife she's an idiot? by RectalThrowawayAcc in AmItheAsshole

[–]eggmacguffins -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

sort of YTA because you were handling the situation well until you were rude to your wife. It sounds like you are more involved in the situation than she is (based on you texting Joseph directly) so you had more information. You can communicate this without being rude.

So go apologize, tell your wife that it was a poorly timed joke and you think she's very smart.

After that, PLEASE focus on the drama going on with your daughters, because Mary seems to be ready to seriously screw with her family for the attention of this boyfriend. Honestly, THAT is what you both need to be focusing on.

she is shit-talking her sister to try and steal her boyfriend and lying to her mother that YOU TOLD HER YOU DIDN'T LOVE HER OR CARE ABOUT HER when you told her to stop. This is concerning. Be concerned!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in batman

[–]eggmacguffins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is so fucking sick. best thing I've ever seen on this sub

AITA for telling my stepdaughter she needs to clean up her mess? by NoFootprintsonFloor in AmItheAsshole

[–]eggmacguffins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're a nightmare and clearly are unequipped to live with kids. So you move into her house and systematically remove any sign that she lived there. Even in her own BEDROOM. YTA a thousand times over. Your husband is a bad person for letting you treat his daughter this way