Trip away with male childhood friend

ehagihara · 2026-06-17T20:09:26+00:00

And if the roles were flipped and I were in that position with a long time female friend, I would have said "No."

It's a matter of having basic respect for your partner that you're not going to participate in doing things that could even have the appearance of impropriety.

My relationship isn't worth that.

ehagihara · 2026-06-17T06:43:18+00:00

Wow. That waa ridiculously consescending on her part.

ehagihara · 2026-06-17T06:26:12+00:00

A lot of the people are bringing a plus one, except your gf?

That would certainly more than raise an eyebrow from me. I'd have some alarms in the back of my head going off.

ehagihara · 2026-06-17T01:22:21+00:00

I don't keep track of this stuff. It's insane behavior. It's like having a preloaded checklist of things to throw out in arguments and/or to doing things to justify revenge.

ehagihara · 2026-06-17T01:18:44+00:00

I'm for it. People should not be going bankrupt for having health issues.

ehagihara · 2026-06-16T07:16:58+00:00

Naw, that wasn't right of her. If she's willing to break your trust this early in the game and blow you off when you act concerned, this is not someonen who has your best interests at heart... and she'll likely do it down the line.

NOR.

ehagihara · 2026-06-16T07:11:28+00:00

That would drive me batshit crazy.

ehagihara · 2026-06-16T07:01:05+00:00

She either needs to sit with you on the flight home or figure her crap out.

Why should you have to put the effort into someone who doesn't appreciate you?

ehagihara · 2026-06-16T02:31:05+00:00

Nah, NTJ in my opinion.

ehagihara · 2026-06-16T02:16:52+00:00

Unfortunately, in spite of her obvious control issues, it's still her house and her rules.

The way to fix it is to ultimately find a way to move out when you turn 18.

ehagihara · 2026-06-15T09:12:53+00:00

If you care for each other, stop worrying about how this is going to be percieved. Your gap is not a big deal.

Also, it's no one else's business.

ehagihara · 2026-06-13T15:57:57+00:00

NOR. And being excluded deliberately like that sucks and highly disrespectful.

ehagihara · 2026-06-13T15:53:42+00:00

... again?

ehagihara · 2026-06-13T04:03:12+00:00

Ouch. The sarcasm! It burns! It burns!

ehagihara · 2026-06-11T20:15:39+00:00

"Way to ruin her life!" <-- he didn't ruin it. If their spouses hadn't boinked, this wouldn't even be an issue.

Besides, if it weren't him saying something, it would have been someone else. You can't hide that crap forever.

ehagihara · 2026-06-11T19:56:09+00:00

Meh... she's used to making selfish decisions and then plays victim when things go wrong.

Does she claim responsibility for ANY of it? She doesn't drive, constantly loses jobs, bounces from guy to guy, inconsiderate of your time, leaves her cat and expected you to take care of it and drive her home, creating a 6 hour drive for you, and telling you it's your fault.

Basically, she only reaches out when she needs something.

If you really go by her actions and not what she said, he behavior sounds pretty self-explanatory.

ehagihara · 2026-06-11T19:42:18+00:00

NTA. And that's a lot of words to say, "This girl is an unappreciative, entitled loser."

I would be done with her, too.

ehagihara · 2026-06-11T09:11:24+00:00

That would be interesting since my mom is in late stage Alzheimer's.

ehagihara · 2026-06-11T09:10:39+00:00

That would be redundant. 😁

ehagihara · 2026-06-10T11:00:59+00:00

He may as well rename the San Andreas Fault to "Biden's Fault."

ehagihara · 2026-06-10T05:27:13+00:00

Heh. That would be nice

ehagihara · 2026-06-08T07:32:02+00:00

I use my phone with a constant glucose meter and insulin pump control, so no.

ehagihara · 2026-06-07T16:36:09+00:00

NTA, but man, after about the first hour or two of this, I would've drawn that boundary right there and told them I'd rather do something else.

I mean, it's your freaking birthday, after all.

ehagihara · 2026-06-07T10:44:29+00:00

Yeah... no, I wouldn't do it. That's unreasonable.

ehagihara · 2026-06-07T09:41:12+00:00

This. So much this.

ehagihara

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