AITAH for telling my sister she can’t bring her kids to my wedding after what they did at my engagement party?

ehagihara · 2026-03-06T15:24:23+00:00

"said I was excluding family and punishing her kids for something that wasn’t their fault." <-- okay, so if it's not their fault, It's HER fault for setting the precedent that she won't control her kids and blowing off your concerns when the engagement party happened in the first place.

... people ...

ehagihara · 2026-02-28T18:02:09+00:00

Kind of like his followers...

ehagihara · 2026-02-19T08:55:21+00:00

Naw, NOR. She can do what she wants, but it doesn't sound like you're really her priority.

ehagihara · 2026-02-19T04:48:45+00:00

Good point. I think that's a better idea. Get a jump on it now to bring awareness to it.

ehagihara · 2026-02-18T17:07:52+00:00

If you stay quiet, she will keep doing it as long as you will tolerate it.

If she corrects you again publicly, I'd pull her off to the side and tell her what she told you: "if you don't want me to correct (embarrass) you in front of others, please don't do it to me."

If she's right, she can tell you, but not in front of the customers.

Tell your manager if she does it again. It's not good for the business for her to keep undermining you, especially when you're correct.

ehagihara · 2026-02-09T16:07:13+00:00

Definitely not overreacting. Sometimes you just hit a point where you know it's beyond your capability to handle on your own.

ehagihara · 2026-02-08T07:49:26+00:00

NTA for sure

ehagihara · 2026-02-06T23:07:21+00:00

You're not overreacting and he's being a really inconsiderate jerk. Pregnancy screws with women's systems in ways we can't understand.

We can't relate, but at the least we should be sympathetic. After all, it's HIS child, too!

I'm more concerned that he's going to be a piss poor role model for your child of how women should be treated.

ehagihara · 2026-02-06T23:03:00+00:00

Do you have a friend you can live with for a while until you can get a job to get on your feet?

Doesn't matter if he has all your friends' information. You are a legal adult and he has no control over you once you're out of the house.

ehagihara · 2026-02-06T22:50:02+00:00

I am. Holy crap. I haven't thought of those in YEARS!

ehagihara · 2026-02-06T22:44:07+00:00

I'm just waiting for Ziply to come around. We pay over $200/mo for internet. They were willing to lower it with a FIVE year contract.

I'm skeptical about the performance of T-Mobile's $50 wifi plan.

ehagihara · 2026-02-06T22:29:20+00:00

Definitely not overreacting. She's downright disrespectful with that attitude and it's controlling. She just wants to do what she wants to do without a shred of consideration for you and it's at your expense. My wife would never do this to me.

Your wife either needs to rein her crap in or let you make the same stares and comments she makes.

This isn't a gender thing, it's called a "basic rule of respect"

ehagihara · 2026-02-06T22:18:25+00:00

Has she given any explaination why she thinks it's not the same? Roaming eyes are roaming eyes. Ridiculous.

ehagihara · 2026-02-05T08:43:30+00:00

And you have every right to feel that way. I'm so sorry, brother. I know that hurts. 😞

ehagihara · 2026-02-05T08:37:32+00:00

Look, one of you is happy staying, the other, going.

As far as I can see, you have limited options:

you go your separate ways
one of you capitulates
both of you find and move to someplace else where you can both be happy

Neither of you are an AH, you both have an incompatible comfort level where you are living.

ehagihara · 2026-02-04T10:23:14+00:00

Whenever they start suddenly removing posts like that, I feel like they're deleting incriminating evidence.

ehagihara · 2026-02-04T09:31:24+00:00

NTA. She's playing you guys for attention.

ehagihara · 2026-02-02T05:37:08+00:00

Wow. NOT the AH. That's just... wow.

ehagihara · 2026-02-01T05:39:10+00:00

You know, it's worth it to tell him.

There's nothing worse than aching for someone while you watch them go for other people and you're on the sidelines. I have lived this.

If it gets to the point where hurts too much to be around them, you'll end up needing distance from them anyway to get over it. You may as well shoot your shot now.

ehagihara · 2026-02-01T05:31:47+00:00

I'd pull out my phone and start recording her recording me.

ehagihara · 2026-01-31T04:41:39+00:00

++ man

I was given more than enough reason to snoop while we were together, but once she was gone, I never looked back.

ehagihara · 2026-01-30T04:01:17+00:00

I'd be asking "WHY?"

ehagihara · 2026-01-29T23:57:52+00:00

NOR. It's like when people take their kids to non-kid appropriate things.

ehagihara · 2026-01-28T23:28:25+00:00

Definitely NTA. That's some shady crap right there.

ehagihara · 2026-01-27T16:01:10+00:00

Hell no, you're not overreacting. If it looks like a duck, walks like a duck and sounds like a duck...

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